Posted in Freedom, Inspiration, women

Abortion is Not the Issue

I have really been struggling as to how to respond the recent wave of violence being done to women as it relates to our reproductive rights. The U.S. Constitution is clear, and yet individual states (and insurance companies) have been slowly picking away at our access to choice.  Abortion has become the scapegoat in a centuries-long quest to deprive women of our natural born sovereignty over our own power.

The truth of the matter is that abortion is not the issue. The issue is a system of fear, power and control made to support the wealth of those in power while imprisoning the rest of humanity.  The abortion fight is merely a smoke screen for something far-more insidious and evil about which we should all be concerned.  But as long as we are having the abortion argument, we are distracted from the real matter at hand – the freedom and liberty of all human beings that are slowly being stripped away from us by the powerful few.

But let’s talk about abortion for a minute. Having been raised Catholic; I once proudly waved the pro-life banner.  That was until I realized that “pro-life” only meant anti-abortion as I watched so-called pro-lifers favor the death penalty and political positions that ignored the needs of the poor, the hungry, the homeless, the otherwise powerless. I have seen those same persons who vote for the pro-life candidate, vote against access to health care and empowerment programs for women, children and those suffering poverty.  These same pro-life voters continue to support the death of innocents both in our country and abroad by supporting war, ignoring the needs of the mentally ill and by refusing to step forward in rational conversations about reasonable gun policies.  They want to support the rights of the unborn child while ignoring the needs of that child after it is born.  This is not pro-life!

This is where I became pro-choice. How can we support the unborn child without caring about how it will survive after it has come to term?  How can we favor the unborn child over the millions of people in our world who are starving, homeless, and without access to adequate medical care?  And why is the unborn child of greater value than the mother who is asked to birth….and then provide for it? I’m not saying abortion is the ideal choice, I’m not sure I could make that choice if faced with an unplanned pregnancy.  For some, however, it may be the only choice when faced with a world that is adamant about bringing life to birth but completely unconcerned about the care of that life thereafter.

Abortion is not the issue. Abortion is a symptom of a system that has gone terribly awry.

Abortion would become rare and mostly unnecessary if we lived in a system that:

  • Provided quality sex education and access to affordable birth control so that unplanned pregnancies would become rare.
  • Guaranteed access to quality pre-natal, maternity and post-natal care.
  • Guaranteed access to affordable, quality healthcare.
  • Provided paid maternity and paternity leave in support of the mental, emotional and physical health of the family.
  • Ensured that the basic needs of the family were being met – food, clothing, safe housing, access to medical care, etc.

If the mother is unmarried or not in partnership with the father of the child:

  • Enforced paternal financial support of the unborn child and if the child is given over to the father for support, that he receive adequate financial support.
  • Access to education, gainful employment and quality childcare so the mother (or father) can work (if they have to…..and mostly likely they will).

But sadly, none of this is being done and the supports that have been there are quietly (sometimes not so quietly) being stripped away.

Women rarely choose abortion because they want to; they are forced into this choice by a system that does not support them or the child they are increasingly being forced to bear.  Putting laws in place to prohibit abortion will not stop abortion.  It will only make it more dangerous.  If we truly want to stop abortion, we need to work toward reforming the systems that put women (and men) in the position of having to make this choice in the first place.

(If you haven’t figured it out yet, there is an even more insidious reason for those in power wanting to prohibit abortion. It is not “to save a life.”  It is to keep more women and children poor and therefore dependent on the system that put them there in the first place. Grrrr)

 

 

 

 

 

 

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All About Eve: Awakening to Our True Nature

As I was awakening this morning, Eve came to me. She revealed herself to me as a black woman with a magnificent afro and with eyes which gleamed with a brilliant blue light.  She was accompanied by the tools of her trade – specifically the light of the Soul which awakens each of us to our true nature and which compels us on the search and fulfillment of our life mission and purpose.  This light of the Soul has been depicted by the ancients in the form of a serpent of fire (more on that later).  Eve came to remind me of her purpose so that I could remind humanity.  Eve was not the temptress; neither was she the source of original sin!  Eve was the awakener – awakening humanity out of its fearful nature into the truth of love.  But don’t take my word for it.  Below are Eve’s words meant to speak directly to your Soul:

 

Eve Speaks Part 1

First of all….you know I’m a myth, right!? I am a myth. There was no literal Adam and Eve.  And….we are all Adam and Eve.  This is the mystery of myth.  My story…our story…is the human story and it might interest some of you to know that the version of our story that you find in the book of Genesis isn’t even original.  Instead, your Jewish ancestors borrowed this story from their captors in Babylon because it helped them make sense of their own situation – plucked out of the home they had come to love and away from the god they had come to know in the temple into virtual slavery and having to find a new god and a new way of relating to their god while exiled in the land of Persia under the rule of the Chaldean king, Nebuchadnezzar II. (Google it if you don’t believe me!)

But just because my story didn’t actually happen, doesn’t mean it isn’t true. In fact, as is the case of all myth, my story communicates deep and profound truths – truths that are found in layers depending on the reader’s current state in life and their own unique perspective on life, love and God. To some, my story represents disobedience and punishment. To others, the subjugation of the Divine Feminine by warring hoards of patriarchal men. To others I represent the dawn of creation. And to others I represent the source of original sin and the danger of feminine wiles. None of these interpretations are wrong, but none are complete or absolute truth either.

All that being said, today I want to share with you my favorite version of my (our) story. It goes like this…..

Once upon a time, we knew nothing but God. We knew nothing but the infinite, all-encompassing, overwhelming, unconditional love of God. In this state of knowing, we also knew ourselves to be this love for in this knowing we were one with God and knew nothing other than this oneness. Then one day, God wanted us to understand ourselves as seemingly separate from God – still overwhelmingly encompassed in God’s love, but separate. In this separateness, God created infinite expressions of God’s self. Together, we represented the prototypes of what human beings would one day become. In this state, we lived in complete harmony and peace – knowing ourselves as nothing but love and in this love, still intimately connected with God. This was paradise – what the scripture writers have called “Eden.” For an eternity we basked in this state of Divine Love – seemingly separate in this love but intimately connected with the fullest expression of this Love which is God.

Then one day, God, (who is really just a child at play), decided to try something new. God said, “I have this idea of a human being – a creature that would be made in our image, but will be in physical form.” As expressions of the Divine, we jumped at the chance to participate in God’s creation, so we volunteered, “Let us be this new creation – let us become human beings.” But then God dropped the bomb – “Thank you for wanting to participate in my play. But I must warn you, if you should accept this task, if you should become human, you will forget. You will forget the love that you now know yourselves to be. More importantly, you will forget me. You will forget your origin as One with me and the peace and harmony that comes with that knowing.” We had to think about this for awhile. What would it be like to forget love? What would it be like to forget God? What would it be like to forget who we really are? As we pondered this opportunity, God remembered, “You know, you won’t really forget all of it. In fact, we can never truly forget our original nature. We can never truly forget love. Because as part of me, we are never really separate, it will just seem that way. And what if I help you out a bit by planting a seed within your human heart of remembrance – something that will help you to remember and guide your way back to me? Would that help?” We thought about it some more and then we agreed, “Yes, we would participate in God’s play and try out this thing of being human.” And so we did. We agreed to become human and came down into the world as human beings – seemingly separate from God, but always one just the same. This is how it began.

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Eve Speaks Part 2

Hello my dear children, I have spoken to you once before about my (our) Divine origins and how I (we) were created in the image and likeness of Divine Love and freely chose to engage in God’s play at being human, how we chose the perceived separation from our Divine Source in Love and Oneness so that we could experience ourselves as individual and unique so that God could experience Godself in all if Her infinite number of expressions. Now you all know the story that has been told of this separation, how the human experience in all its pain and suffering is actually punishment for disobeying God by eating the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.  While some may find comfort in this interpretation of the ancient tale, there is another perspective and an even deeper truth that lies hidden within this story for those who have eyes to see.

As I mentioned in the first telling, the story of “the fall of man” is not even original to the Hebrew people who in the latter days approaching the Common Era, placed this story in their scriptures. Instead, this is a Babylonian story borrowed by the Hebrews from the popular Gilgamesh Epic as it helped to explain their plight as conquered and indentured slaves of the Babylonians. Once a thriving and powerful nation, Israel had been conquered, their temple destroyed, and all people of value deported to Babylon to live as slaves to their conquerors.  They had lost their home.  They had lost their God.  Believing in a punitive and jealous god, it made sense to them that they were being punished for something terrible they had done.  They then chose women, and all that had been associated with feminine power – the serpent, the fruit, knowledge and wisdom – as scapegoats for their suffering and pain. This battle between the warring patriarchal god and the peace of the divine feminine had been going on for ages, but the Babylonian captivity cemented this divide.

This is the historical perspective on my tale. But, for those who have eyes to see, there is an even deeper truth – one that resonates beyond history and speaks to the Soul of the human race – a people that long to be freed from the pain and suffering of the human condition and returned to their original state in Oneness with LOVE in God.  This is the story of EVE as awakener.  But even more than this, this is the story of WOMEN (or the Divine Feminine within us) as the Awakeners – those sent to become awakened themselves and then through their own awakening, to become awakeners for others – most especially the men (the Divine Masculine within each of us).  Here is how it goes in the book of Genesis:

Now the snake was the most wise (usually translated “cunning”) of all the wild animals that the Lord God had made. He asked the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You shall not eat from any of the trees in the garden’?” The woman answered the snake: “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden; it is only about the fruit of the tree in the middle of the garden that God said, ‘You shall not eat it or even touch it, or else you will die.’” But the snake said to the woman: “You certainly will not die! God knows well that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened and you will be like gods, who know good and evil.” The woman saw that the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eyes, and the tree was desirable for gaining wisdom. So she took some of its fruit and ate it; and she also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened…  The man gave his wife the name “Eve,” because she was the mother of all the living.

Genesis 3: 1-7, 20

This is the largest, widest, deepest truth of the Genesis tale – WOMEN are the AWAKENERS of the human experience.  To state this in more universal terms, apart from the human temptation to divide by gender, the DIVINE FEMININE is the awakener of the human condition as it is embodied in people of all genders.  THIS is the task of the Divine Feminine as it is embodied in human form – to WAKE US UP.  Specifically, to wake us up out of the illusion of separation – the illusion that is the cause of our fear, the cause of our “sin” and the cause of the suffering and pain in the human experience.  The Divine Feminine within us is that which REMEMBERS our ONENESS with Love, with God and with all of Creation.  The Divine Feminine within us is that which awakens us to this remembrance and then calls us to return to our origin in Unity and Wholeness.  As it plays out in our masculine/feminine roles, (I use these terms as they relate to energy, not gender.  Masculine being the active, protective, provider energy and Feminine being the energy of receptivity, allowing, and receiving) it is the feminine which is called to awaken and in its awakening, to guide and support the awakening of the masculine.

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EVE was not a disobedient sinner who through her “sin” brought punishment to the whole human race. EVE is the AWAKENER who calls us all to awaken out of the sleep of ignorance into the knowledge of THE TRUTH – that LOVE is our original nature.  She then shows us how to return to that LOVE – right here in the human experience, thus returning us all to the Garden where we will experience heaven on earth.

How have you experienced the presence and energy of the awakener within you? How has she led your to the truth of your Soul?

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Divine Feminine Course Bundle

Course Bundles are a terrific way to enjoy the courses you want at a discounted price. This bundle is specifically for women and supports you in harnessing and freeing the Divine Feminine from within you.

Three online courses for women for only

$279.00

(Over $100.00 in savings)

 

Divine Feminine Bundle includes:

 

Resurrecting the Magdalene: a six-lesson, self-paced, online course created by Lauri Ann Lumby, modern Magdalene Priestess. The purpose of this course is to reveal and share in the deeper and hidden truths about the Magdalene and her time with Jesus; including her roles as student, initiate, co-equal partner, wife, facilitator and witness to the resurrection, and the one sent to continue Jesus’ mission of being love in the world.  Participants are empowered through the course to reclaim their own Divine Feminine and are activated to be a vessel of Divine Love in the world. Includes Magdalene Activation and Magdalene Ordination.

and your choice of any three of the below listed courses:

 

Surviving Midlife: This course supports you through the midlife awakening and on the labyrinthine journey through the twists and turns of unraveling from the past toward returning to and reclaiming your Soul.  Here you will discover you Soul’s purpose for the second half of life, a purpose that is meaningful, fulfilling, joyful and content. 12 self-paced online lessons.

 

The Dark Goddess in the Bible: In this online course, you will have an opportunity to meet each of these Dark Goddesses of the Judeo-Christian tradition and through learning, meditation, creativity exercises and ritual, become attuned to their presence. With the support of the Dark Goddess, you will find the courage to move through the trials of life and be empowered, like her, to be a vehicle for transformative change. 10 self-paced online lessons.

 

Discovering the Goddess in Biblical Women: For over 2000 years, the bible has been interpreted through the lens of the patriarchal, hierarchical male.  Not anymore!  Through this course, Discovering the Goddess through Biblical Women, Lauri Ann Lumby, OM, MATS, peels back the veil of patriarchy, revealing the presence of the Goddess in the archetypal roles played by biblical women throughout HERstory. 30 daily inspirations.

 

Healing the Mother Wound online Retreat: This self-guided retreat is your opportunity to do something about healing the mother wound. Healing the mother wound frees us to transcend the challenges of the mother/daughter relationship which then allows us to live more fully in our own truth. No longer carrying the burden of our mother’s unacknowledged shame, or bearing the wounds of our mother’s projections, we are able to shine our own light in the world. Healing the mother wound transforms not only our relationship with our own mothers, but transforms the entire ancestral lineage, healing all those who have gone before us and those who will come after us, including our own daughters and sons.

 

 

Posted in Spiritual Practices, women

Danielle Dulsky – Perfect Timing!

Just as beloved witch, author, and teacher Danielle Dulsky invited witches to “come out of the broom closet” and embrace their inner wild witch in her 2017 book Woman Most Wild, she now takes her invitation that much further with her newest book Holy Wild: A Heathen Bible for the Untamed Woman (New World Library, September 18, 2018).

Buy it now!

I am currently bathing in the deeps of Danielle’s latest book, and it could not be more perfectly timed! As we are standing at the edge of History watching in gleeful terror as the patriarchy implodes upon itself, Danielle’s words provide a balm of hope. Through her sumptuous words, she provides inspiration and practical tools through which all of humankind can find, embrace and live the path of their own TRUTH. Not a truth imposed upon us, but one that comes from the depths of our very being. Danielle has done what few have been able to do in giving us tools through which we can craft our own spiritual practice free of the imprisoning forces of external control. Here there are no rules, only that which speaks to your heart and your soul – the Wild You that keeps on trying to be born. Thank you Danielle for giving all of humankind permission to live as our passionate, wild selves so that we can be empowered to create our own worlds anew. I love you sister!

 

Danielle Dulsky is the author of The Holy Wild and Woman Most Wild. She is an artist, yoga teacher, energy worker, and founder of Living Mandala Yoga teacher training programs. She leads women’s circles, witchcraft workshops, and energy healing trainings and lives in Phoenixville, Pennsylvania. Find out more about her online at LivingMandalaYoga.com

Posted in Lessons, women, world changes

The Complicit Feminine – Owning Our Own Unholiness

As the veils continue to fall, unmasking the unholy masculine as it has been present within our world (especially as it has been expressed through sexual violence against women and children), we would be remiss if we did not also acknowledge the unholy feminine and the damage it has done to all of us – male and female alike.

As I said in my blog on Thursday, women are not innocent. Yes, as it is true for men, the vast majority of women are kind, thoughtful, generous, and compassionate; and couldn’t think of doing harm to another human being – especially the men in their lives.  But then, there are those women.  We all know them, and perhaps we have (wittingly or unwittingly) been them ourselves:

  • Women who use their sensuality, charm, sexuality to manipulate and control men.
  • Women who marry men for money or because of the position of power he is in.
  • Women who brow-beat, nag, whine, and abuse their male partners, projecting their own unhealed wounds onto the men in their lives, blaming them for all that ails them instead of taking responsibility for their own sh.t!
  • Women who trap men into unplanned pregnancies and then extort money, support, etc. from these men.
  • Women who lie, cheat, are unfaithful and steal from the men in their lives.
  • Women who destroy men financially, emotionally, even sexually.
  • Women who use others for their own gain and then cast them away when they are finished with them.

Like the symptoms of the unholy masculine, the symptoms of the complicit feminine go on and on and on.  As much as our culture has been harmed by the unholy masculine, so too has it been harmed by the unholy feminine. This is further complicated by the unfortunate ways that we as women have done harm to each other.  We are our own worst enemies when we criticize, condemn and demean each other for being too fat, too flat, too tall, too smart, too independent, too successful, or the opposite – too pretty, too skinny, too short, too dumb, too needy, too lazy, etc.   Have you seen the movie Mean Girls?  It pretty much sums up the collateral damage we have done to each other.  Why?  Because we are insecure in who we are and in order to feel better about ourselves we have to make each other feel like crap.  UGH!

As the saying goes, before we point out the splinter in our brother’s eye, we first have to remove the plank from our own.  As women we need to recognize where we have engaged in the unholy aspects of womanhood and do the difficult work of healing the inner wounds and unacknowledged fears that have caused us to act in non-loving ways – toward ourselves and then toward others.  Only then can we begin to bridge the gap between ourselves and the men out there who are truly ready and worthy of our greatness.

Posted in men, New World, self-actualization, women, world changes

A Man Speaking Truth

A HUGE Thank you to Bob Russo, a loyal reader of this blog in whom I have found a kindred spirit and spiritual brother and friend. Below is Bob’s beautifully articulated response to my recent blogs inviting the men to speak to the ongoing question of gender roles and how we understand the flow of the masculine and feminine within us.  Bob beautifully speaks what I could only hope to have the words to say.  THANK YOU BOB!  Following Bob’s words is my own response (warning:  transparency and feeling alert):

From Bob:

Hi Lauri,

I have been meaning to respond to your article on “Inviting Men to Join Us”. So, it feels good to finally get around to it. I tried to post this on your blog but was unable to. Hope you had a relaxing Thanksgiving.

My response may come across as “politically incorrect”. But, my intention is not to be insensitive to anyone but speak from my heart. And, I don’t claim that what I am about to write is correct – but only as I have perceived things over the years.

IMO, both the feminine and male energies are being compromised by the current attitude that exists in America. The women’s movement in the early 1970s was an effort by women to gain recognition for the gifts they have and can contribute in a male-dominated society. It was a comprehensive effort by women to gain the recognition and equality as human beings that they deserve, and an effort to assert control over their own lives.

Unfortunately, this movement encouraged women to become more “masculine” in order to be accepted in a “man’s” world. And in so doing, many of the graceful feminine qualities that are uniquely part of a woman’s makeup have been significantly discounted. Some of the qualities that I am referring to are motherhood, nurturing, protection (of children), intuition, feelings, space, receptivity, inwardness, softness, communication, compassion, and so on. I’m not saying that these qualities are only in women, no. But, it is my belief that they are more pronounced in women than men.

Regarding men, the current attitude in our society as to what it means to “be a man” has undermined the male energy as well. Society often equates “manhood” with such qualities as aggressiveness, overwork, materialism, strong egos, and war. This has caused a lot of confusion and disruption for many men today who are trying to find their place in this chaotic world. What’s been lost in this definition of manhood are many of the positive inherent qualities in men such as protection (of the feminine and family), provider, warmth, giving, consistency, vision, clarity, activity, analytical, and so on. Again, most women share many of these qualities with men. But IMO, they are more naturally a part of a man’s makeup than a woman’s.

We are witnessing a breakdown of both the masculine and feminine energy in our society, and consequently a major collapse of the family unit. Women are no longer honored for being mothers or care givers, for example, but are given high strokes when they are CEOs of a large firm or working 12 hours a day along-side their male co-workers. And, men are no longer praised for being good providers and consistent in their lives but given strokes for being more feminine and passive, or at the opposite extreme, for being aggressive and survivors of war. No wonder we’re so confused and messed up. We can only deny our inherent nature for so long.

As you know, each of us is comprised of both feminine and male qualities. It is this integration that make us the unique person we are. We become a fully-functioning man or woman when these qualities exist within us in a balanced way. As a man, I need to know when to hit the gas or put on the brakes. My long-term vision in combination with my wife’s intuition have provided us with a reliable road map during our marriage. When the natural qualities of both sexes work together, good things happen. It’s that simple! But, when they are out-of-balance or one dominates the other, like we are witnessing today, suffering and war result.

Bob Russo

 

My response:

Bob, YES YES YES YES YES!  You eloquently articulate the feelings that are living in my heart, that have been part of my own lived experience and exist in my deep inner knowing.  Thank you for speaking what I could not find the words to express.  This is one of the many reasons I appreciate your presence so much in my life!  Thank you!

As for being “politically incorrect,” the world in which we are currently living is humanly incorrect and our politics simply support this incorrectness.  Our job as prophets is to shine the light on what is no longer working so that something new may come into being.  We need to speak our truth for this to occur….so speak away!!!!!!  (Besides, I don’t find your words to be politically incorrect in the least, in fact they reflect a politic we SHOULD be embracing – IMO).

At the risk of being “politically incorrect” myself, I want to speak to what you wrote from my own lived experience.  When you speak of the devaluing of what have traditionally been considered the inherent gifts and calling of women, I agree there seems to be a correlation of this devaluing to the women’s movement.  I have often said that while the women’s movement was necessary (critical, in fact), there has been a damaging effect on both women and men because of it – for exactly the reasons you stated.  In my own lived experience, I have really struggled with this.  My deepest drive is to love, nurture, care for, heal, support, build connections, teach and form – tasks we traditionally associate with the feminine.  I have lived this out professionally and most joyfully in my role as a mother.  But NEVER have these gifts been valued. Neither have the masculine traits that reside within me.

First, we live in a culture that doesn’t value the work I do.  I have been expected to do this work for free and criticized for daring to charge for the services “their priest gives them for free.” Because of the structure of our society, most people don’t see value in the inner work of coming to know themselves.  Instead they would rather spend their money on things.  When in the Church I was condemned for daring to think for myself, stand up for my truth and for not being silent and obedient (the expected feminine role).  In my marriage none of what I did in my role as mother, running a household, managing two businesses, taking care of the details of medical appointments, bookkeeping, etc. etc. etc. was valued – it was simply assumed that I would and should do it because it was my job as “the wife.”  When I asked for help I was told, “It doesn’t bother me.  If it bothers you, you do it.” While doing all of this I was also expected to be provider but the work I did outside of the home wasn’t a “real job,” and therefore had no value and neither did the money I brought home from that job.  To say that I felt resentment for not being valued would be an understatement. (I have a deep scar on my forehead showing the effects of resentment not tended to.)  Now as a divorced, single, working mother of two, I find I have to do all of it and quite frankly I am frickin EXHAUSTED.  I am finding I can’t do it all and I don’t want to do it all!!!!!

I know I am not alone in this.  The current structure of our society does not value the inherently feminine as you so eloquently described:  motherhood, nurturing, protection (of children), intuition, feelings, space, receptivity, inwardness, softness, communication, compassion, and so on.  Neither does our culture seem to value the masculine as it resides within women.  As a woman, I long for the feminine and for the traditionally masculine qualities I embody (courage, strength, risk taking, independence, etc.) to be valued.  At the same time, having to take on too much of the masculine qualities (provision, protection, etc.) is killing me.  It works against my nature.  It has caused me harm.  When I am too much in the driving, striving, trying to succeed mode, I become ill.  So I find myself stuck between a rock and a hard place – longing to fulfill the feminine longings within me while exercising meaningful and fulfilling work in a healthy and balanced way that does not do harm to myself, while trying to provide for myself and my children.  UGH!  The cost of caring for myself in a disasterously dysfunctional and imbalanced world has been staggering.

And I feel for the men – for exactly the reasons you stated:

the current attitude in our society as to what it means to “be a man” has undermined the male energy as well. Society often equates “manhood” with such qualities as aggressiveness, overwork, materialism, strong egos, and war. This has caused a lot of confusion and disruption for many men today who are trying to find their place in this chaotic world. What’s been lost in this definition of manhood are many of the positive inherent qualities in men such as protection (of the feminine and family), provider, warmth, giving, consistency, vision, clarity, activity, analytical, and so on.

I have also seen the demonization of what we have been conditioned to think of as feminine in men – nurturing, caring, giving, healing, intuitive, etc.  I believe this demonizing has done great harm to men and caused them to ignore or suppress these traits as they find them within themselves.  I have seen the inner struggle this creates in men, especially in those who have been raised to be “manly men.”  This makes me sad.  We are clearly in need of a cultural overhaul…the likes of which we have never known!

As much as our culture wants us to believe we can and should be able to do it on our own…..WE CANNOT.  As much as our culture says that women and men should be able to do the same things and be equal in them, we cannot if we want to be healthy.  Looking at the current state of our culture we are anything but healthy.  We are doing a terrible disservice to ourselves and to each other in the values we have embraced as a culture and quite frankly, it is killing us.  Something’s got to give!

Or rather, everything’s got to give!  Every single way in which we have defined ourselves as a culture is currently up for evaluation – IMO, especially how we know ourselves.  I believe that in order to arrive at a healthier balance within our culture we first have to come to know ourselves.  As it relates to the masculine and feminine we need to come to know how those qualities are present within us and how those qualities are helping or harming us.  In order to do this we need to be REALLY HONEST with ourselves.  Are we (male or female) called to be provider and protector?  Are we (male or female) called to receive, allow, nurture, etc?  How are we called to do these things in a way that is healthy and supportive for ourselves and for those around us?  In this, it is not about male or female, masculine or feminine, it is about understanding what is unique within us as human beings, owning and valuing it…..both for ourselves and for others.  Maybe in doing this for ourselves we will begin to see the transformation in our culture that many of us long for.  And Oh My God…on some days it is sooo hard trying to live ahead of the curve.  😉

I know this doesn’t even scratch the tip of the iceberg of the healing we need in our culture and in our world……and THANK YOU Bob for your beautiful contribution to this conversation.  As ever it is unfolding.

 

Love,

Lauri

 

 

 

Posted in building the new world, women, world changes

Feminine Rage

Yesterday while sharing on Facebook the cavalcade of emotions that have been running through my body of late (anxiety, panic, deep grief, depression, paralysis, irritability, all-out rage), it seems I hit a nerve.  An outpouring of women responded with similar feelings.  Yes, all who responded are empathic and sensitive to the energies of the world, but beyond this, I believe we were speaking from the place of our own disgust, disappointment, hurt, frustration, feelings of helplessness, impatience and flat out anger over the state of the world in which we are living.

The way our world is today SUCKS.  As women (along with the men who are walking the way of the Divine with us) we know there is a better way and we are DAMN tired of being ignored, threatened, silenced, put down, punished, beaten, raped and even killed for speaking and trying to live what we know.  We KNOW that the hierarchical/patriarchal world based in fear, power and control doesn’t work.

We also know that that world is in the midst of its own collapse and that a new world is seeking to be born.  We know what the new world looks like and how to build it, if ANYONE WOULD LET US SPEAK!

Instead, we’re accused of being crazy, shit-disturbers, heretics, blasphemers, witches and whores for carrying the vision of a better, more loving, kinder, gentler world.  Or worse, we’ve been patted on the head for having such silly, frivolous visions, because “everyone knows the only way to live in this world is through force, conflict, violence and war….it’s always been this way and it will never change.”  To this we say BULLSHIT!

We know that it has not always been this way.  We know that is doesn’t have to remain this way.  Deep in the center of our beings (and in the center of YOUR being if you are paying attention), we know there is another way.

For where has this hierarchical/patriarchal/capitalistic/consumeristic world gotten us?  It has gotten us to exactly where we are today, “enjoying” a world in which for everyone but the 1% of the 1%, everything SUCKS!

  • The world itself is dying from the violence we have done to her.
  • We live under the constant threat of global war.
  • We are living in a constant state of war right here on our own shores!  The violence we are waging against each other is worse than any terrorism that might come from a foreign shore.
  • Millions of people are without access to quality healthcare.
  • Education is dying.
  • Millions of people are starving, homeless, struggling just for basic subsistence.
  • Our economy sucks.  Billions of people are in debt and will likely never recover from that debt.
  • Despite what the news says, unemployment and underemployment are more than serious concerns.

I could go on and on, but you get the gist.  There are no benefits in a world based in fear, power and control unless you are the one in the position of power.  As women we know that not one among those few are women.  For people of color, the realization is even more dire, for not only are there no women holding these positions of power, there are no men.

Again, we know a better way.  But, we live in a world where no one cares to listen.

First among those who are deaf to our pleas are those who benefit from the current culture of fear, power and control – rich, white men and those living under the umbrella of their privilege.

Second are those who know things are bad, who feel the sense of unease over the current state of the world, but who choose to look away lest they be called on to do something about it.

Third are those who feel the extent of their powerlessness and have become paralyzed by a culture which has made them this way – the poor, immigrants, people of color, those who have become marginalized because of their ancestry, gender, orientation, religion, etc.

This is why we are pissed!  We are tired of living in a world rooted in fear, power and control where only those who hold the gold make the rules and only those in power benefit.  We are tired of living in a world defined by conflict and violence.  We are sick to death of living in a world where our value is determined by what we have produced, how much money we make, our position of status or power.  As women, we are tired of being valued only for what we do for (or how we look on the arm of ) our men.  We are sick of cultures and systems that do not value the sacred earth on which we live – the very planet upon which we are dependent for our survival.  We are tired of living in fear.  We are tired of having to scream, shout, beg for our own needs to be met and the needs of our children – basic human needs for food, clothing, shelter, access to quality healthcare, a good education, meaningful work and GODDAMNIT…..SUPPORT!  We cannot do this alone and we are damn sick of doing it alone!  Women are pissed and we have a damn good reason for being pissed!

We are tired of not being valued for our uniquely feminine way of moving about this world.  We long for a world free of violence, hatred, ignorance, fear and separation.  We long for a world where every human being is honored and valued for who they are as uniquely gifted individuals.  We cry out for a world that supports (rather than tearing down) people in knowing what their unique gifts are and for a world that empowers them to live that out.  We yearn for a world where things are gentle – where we can walk softly upon this earth and find that tender balance between nurturing ourselves and our own needs, enjoying the company of family and friends, meaningful work, and exuberant play.  We crave beauty.  We want opportunities for learning.  We want to be happy, healthy and whole.  Sadly, none of this is possible in the current world we are living unless you are one of the privileged few.  And the privileged few and those who benefit from the world they have created want us to believe that this vision we hold of a kinder, gentler world are simply the ravings of a mad woman.

Damn right we are mad!  And it’s likely that you should be too!  Is this seriously the world you want to live in?  If not, goddamn it, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!  Put the energy of that rage into action. Start working for change.  POSITIVE, NON-VIOLENT change.  Gather those of like mind.  Support each other is speaking and acting out.  Uplift each other for your unique gifts.  Do the world of BEING and LIVING love in our world.  Because, if you/we don’t do it…..who will?

 

 

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Healing the Mother Wound Retreat

Healing the Mother Wound

One-day Women’s Retreat

with Lauri Ann Lumby

Friday, May 5, 2017

9:00 am – 4:00 pm

$75.00

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As women, our most intimate and foundational relationship is with our mothers. Our relationship with our mother is complicated at best, and has made us who we are – for better or for worse.

Healing the mother wound frees us to transcend the challenges of the mother/daughter relationship which then allows us to live more fully in our own truth. No longer carrying the burden of our mother’s unacknowledged shame, or bearing the wounds of our mother’s projections, we are able to shine our own light in the world.  Healing the mother wound transforms not only our relationship with our own mothers, but transforms the entire ancestral lineage, healing all those who have gone before us and those who have come after us, including our own daughters and sons.

 

Healing the Mother Wound

At the home of Linda Johnson

7863 Cut Off Lane

Larsen, WI 54947

Retreat limited to 15 attendees.

$75.00 payment secures your place in the retreat.

Vegetarian/Gluten-Free lunch provided through:

Nurturedbelly.com

 

To register, send payment to:

Lauri Ann Lumby

Authentic Freedom Academy

1103 School Ave.

Oshkosh, WI 54901

Email lauri @ authenticfreedomacademy (dot) com, or call (920) 230-1313 for more information.

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The Woman vs. Woman Wound

Why are women so horrible to each other? This is a question that has troubled me since JD befriended me in grade school and then spent the next 6 years trying to make my life miserable.  It’s the question that broke my heart when all the girls who were my friends in grade school would suddenly have nothing to do with me because I wasn’t an athlete.  It was the question that hurt my feelings when LR told me all the horrible things a boy supposedly said about me (It was later confirmed that she was lying).  It is the same question I have asked over and over and over again as I have attempted to bring women together for the sake of a common cause.  Many are able to step up to the task without trying to destroy their sisters…but many more, it seems, are hell bent on making sure their sisters do not succeed.

Just this past week, we had an opportunity to see how truly cruel women are to each other when all the body-shaming posts came out against Lady Gaga’s “protruding belly” during the Superbowl Half-time Show.  Really?  The girl is a size four if that…..what is wrong with her belly?  The sad thing is that many of those posts were from women!

By proacguy1 from Montreal, Canada - Lady Gaga, ARTPOP Ball Tour, Bell Center, Montréal, 2 July 2014 (20), CC BY-SA 2.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=34115323
By proacguy1 from Montreal, Canada – Lady Gaga, ARTPOP Ball Tour, Bell Center, Montréal, 2 July 2014 (20), CC BY-SA 2.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=34115323

Why is it that women are such assholes to each other? Jealousy and competition seems the most likely explanation, but what in the world are we competing for?  Men?  Jobs?  Attention?  Money?  Power?  Social Status and Position?  In my world, none of these are worth competing for….even if we could.

The truth is that each and every one of us has our own unique giftedness, our own unique purpose and our own unique contribution to this world. My gifts are not yours, and yours are not mine.  And even if our gifts are similar, those who need my gifts would not benefit from yours – so why compete?  In fact, our gifts might complement each other and what would happen if we found a way to bring our gifts together in a way that meets the common good?  One teacher of mine says it this way, “we each have our own unique medicine and the people who need our medicine are out there waiting for us to share it with them.” In this, there is no reason for competition….period.  As this is true for those who need our gifts, it is also true in all the other areas where women seem to compete with each other.

So why are we still competing? And why are we sabotaging each other in our quest to get what we think our sisters should not have?

Mean Girls
Mean Girls

In my best estimation, women being jerks to each other is the result of a deeper wound coming out sideways. The deeper wound is a cultural paradigm that began somewhere around 5000 years ago in which the world culture shifted from an egalitarian type culture where women and men were valued as equals, to a cultural paradigm where the holy within all of us was supplanted to make room for the unholy masculine (fear, power and control) and the unholy feminine (helplessness, powerlessness, weakness, neediness).

When the fear, power and control became the cultural norm and came at us from men who had set aside the holy masculine in favor of the unholy, women became powerless and had no place to go with the anger and resentment that arose in that state of powerlessness. So, we did the only thing we could do, we projected that anger and resentment on the only beings we could – other women.  We then turned that anger and resentment on the externals that might give us the illusion of power – money, social status, material goods, etc. etc. etc.  The sad thing is that when women are being horrible to each other, they are most often completely unaware.  Women who are trying to destroy their sisters don’t realize that their words, actions or omissions are truly a deeper wound coming out sideways, asking to be healed.

So what can we do to heal this woman vs. woman wound? It starts by treating our sisters as sacred, holy, wounded aspects of the Divine.  For seeing in each other, the wounds we carry within ourselves.  When we start doing the work of healing the wounds that started our horrible behavior toward each other, then the behavior becomes no longer necessary.  It is as simple as that.  We know the truth of this when we are in the company of the women who treat us as holy and sacred – those who have already done this deep inner work.  It is with these sisters, that we have the opportunity to enjoy the reunion that Rebecca Campbell speaks about in her book Rise Sister Rise, along with the benefits of living from this reunion.  In facing down the woman vs. woman wound, let us embrace Rebecca’s words as our clarion call!  The world is a better place when we meet each other in this sacred place instead of from the unholy place of jealousy and competition.

From Rise Sister Rise by Rebecca Campbell
From Rise Sister Rise by Rebecca Campbell