Posted in Inspiration

Why Does the World Have to Be So Mean?

It is said that wisdom comes “from out of the mouths of babes.” The babe, in this instance, is my almost 19 year old daughter, Maggie (Magdalene), who burst into heartbroken tears while watching the CNN report of Omran Daqneesh, the shocked and stunned Syrian boy pulled from a pile of rubble after terror strikes in his neighborhood in Aleppo. Between sobs, Maggie asked me, “Why does the world have to be so mean?”  As a mother, all I could do was hold my daughter and sit with her in the face of this eternally unanswerable question.

Why is the world so mean? Are we doomed as a species to only act in violence?  Why do innocent children have to live in terror, watch their families die, or lose their own lives because of the senseless actions of fearful and angry men (I say “men” here as women are not the ones starting these wars!)?

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To both myself and my daughter, the answer is simple really…..

WE DO NOT have to be so mean. We DO NOT have to act in violence.  Innocent children DO NOT have to die because of the actions of fearful and angry men.

War is a CHOICE. Violence is a CHOICE.  Terrorism is a CHOICE.

The world is mean because people choose to be mean. Human beings act in violence because they choose to act this way.  People go to war because they choose to make war on one another.

But, it doesn’t have to be this way! If we have the power to choose violence, we also have the power to choose peace.

It really is this simple.

We always, and in every situation, have a choice.

The problem is that the vast majority of the human species does not know it has the freedom to choose and they don’t have the tools for making that choice. Choosing something other than hatred, violence, war, etc. starts with acknowledging our fear and having tools for managing this fear.

And the management of fear starts right here in our own homes – first with ourselves, then by being an example and a source of support for those around us. While we may not be able to halt a world hell-bent toward its own destruction, we can stop the day to day destruction that happens in our own homes.  We can choose love instead of fear, peace instead of war, unity instead of perceived separation.  We can sow the seeds of peace within our own hearts and then share them with those around us.  As more and more of us choose love over fear, the world itself begins to change.

So the answer to my daughter’s pleading question, “Why does the world have to be so mean?” is that it doesn’t. The world is mean because people choose to be mean.  And we have the power to choose otherwise.  What are you going to choose?

 

Posted in End of the World Prophecies, Inspiration, New Kids, New World, world changes

Our Kids Are Not Alright!

This week, another one of my daughter’s classmates committed suicide. This young woman is the fifth in a graduating class of 200-some students to commit suicide.  Something here is wrong.  Very wrong.

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I want to begin by presenting what is NOT wrong. The problem is not the school(s).  Oshkosh schools are some of the best in the nation and while our governor keeps whittling away at our budget and other resources that support quality education, our schools have risen above the chaos and are providing the best possible education with the few resources that are left.  In addition, Oshkosh North, the school my children attend, offers a wide range of programs and services to help support their diverse population, many of which have been funded through grants and private donations. The community, teachers, staff and administration have advocated for our students beyond what the budgets would normally provide.

As a subparagraph of the problem not being the school – the problem is not bullying, neither is it a lack of support or counseling services for troubled students. The local schools have an extremely stringent anti-bullying policy and all ranges of diversity are not only honored, but advocated for.  Every school has counselors and social workers on staff who are there to support and advocate on students’ behalf.  The problem is not lack of support.

The problem is not a lack of suicide or mental illness awareness or support. While this may have been somewhat the case with the first two suicides, since that time, efforts, resources, advocacy has been RAMPED UP to educate parents, students, and the community on the challenges of mental illness and the signs of a child or adult in distress.  In addition, there are trained professionals in the community who work specifically to educate the public and to support families on suicide and to support families with a child or adult who is at-risk and to support families who have experienced a death due to suicide.

Finally, the problem is not the parents. I know the parents of some of these children and I can tell you, beyond the shadow of a doubt, these parents have done absolutely everything they could for their children.  They loved them.  They did the best they could to keep their children safe.  They got their children help when help was needed.  They got help for themselves when they were at a loss over how to further help their child.

The problem is not the schools, peers, the lack of mental illness awareness, or the parents.

The problem, and the reason our kids are not alright is:       Our world.

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Our world is a mess. Our world is a mess for all of us – and for some of us, it is just too much to bear.  Let’s look at the facts:

  1. For as long as our children have been alive, THE WORLD HAS BEEN AT WAR.

If it’s not a conflict or a war with a name, (Desert Storm, Iraqi, Afghanistan, Israel and Palestine, etc. etc. etc.) it is “the war on terrorism.” And the worst of all the terrorist attacks have been accomplished right here on our own soil by our own U.S. citizens.  The media does not help in this regard by triggering our fears through sensationalism.  As my son said, “Hundreds of people a year are shot in Chicago and no one cares, but as soon as one guy gets shot in Oshkosh, the whole world is in a state of panic.”  (This also points to media and racial bias which is a topic for another blog another day.)

For our children – the world does not feel safe.

  1. In the U.S. success is determined by external measurements like money, status, power and fame. And some of these measurements are literal – how much money you make, how many time you are Tweeted or your Facebook post gets “liked,” if you have your own reality show or not, and do you measure up to the current standards of “beauty.” For those who do not know their true selves and who have no way of knowing themselves except in comparison to others, success feels like an impossible goal – especially when they look at the TRUTH of our economic situation – which brings me to #3
  2. Education does not mean what it used to. In the old days, a high school education was enough to prepare you for a regular job with a decent rate of pay. Then, college became the necessary gateway to a career, a paycheck and economic security. Then, a master’s degree became the gateway, then a PhD. Now….none of this really matters – and our children know this. A college degree guarantees you nothing, or as a friend of mine told her daughter, “Do what you love because there won’t be any jobs for you after college anyway.” Bleak, but true. As much as politicians are touting the economic recovery and that the “recession is over,” this is not the truth.
  3. The world as we know it is dying. Our children know this and they know that they will be the ones who will be creating the new world. For some, this is just too overwhelming a task. Imagine, for a moment, that you are a player in the Hunger Games and the entire world (as you have known it) crumbles at your feet and you are left with the task of building the new world. While the endless possibilities and the excitement of building something new is enticing for some, for others, it is overwhelming and feels impossible and they shut down under the burden of the task.
  4. And finally….this is the whoo whoo part…..our children are empaths. What this means is that not only are they feeling their own anxiety in the face of a world that is a mess, they are feeling EVERYONE ELSE’S anxiety. They feel the anxiety of their parents, their siblings, their classmates, their teachers, and the entire world around them. When there is a terrorist attack on the other side of the world, they feel it – maybe not consciously, but they feel it. When a weather system is moving through that will cause people anxiety, they know it – again, maybe not consciously, but they feel it. For those that don’t understand the gift of empathy and who don’t have tools for managing this gift, the emotions come out sideways – temper tantrums, disproportionate negative behavior, anxiety, depression – and you guessed it, suicide.

Which brings me full-circle. I don’t know what caused that young woman to jump off the bridge into a freezing and raging river to her death.  What I do know is that her death should not be in vain.  Her death should be another wake up call for us as parents, teachers, and other adults.

Our children are not alright!

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Our children need our help. While we cannot change the outside world, there are things we can do to help our children, and in helping them, find help for ourselves in a messy and broken down world:

  1. Lead them to resources to help them manage anxiety. Resources that have been proven to help manage anxiety include: meditation, mindfulness, regular exercise, a healthy diet, adequate and deep sleep, creativity exercises, being in nature, being with others in healthy community interactions.
  2. Support them in knowing their TRUE selves. Self-knowledge increases self-esteem, confidence, and the ability to be ok with our differences in a world of great diversity, and to weather the storm of other people’s judgements.
  3. Help them develop a different set of values. This starts with us. We need to stop valuing ourselves in terms of money, fame, status, power, and physical characteristics. What we are wearing, whose bag we are carrying and what car we are driving DOES NOT MATTER. These external measurements of “success” or “popularity” do not give us happiness. In fact, all they do is create more ANXIETY. If we want our children to be comfortable in a world that will NOT have the resources in which everyone can be a Kardashian, we have to help them find value in the internals – peace, contentment, joy, and fulfillment in knowing and exercising their gifts. We then need to give them tools for finding this inner peace which leads us back to items 1 and 2.
  4. Support them in their dreams. Our children see and know the new world. They see a world that is free from the separation with which we have defined the world. Instead of separation, they see only oneness. They do not comprehend the separation we keep placing between ourselves and others we view as different from us and they definitely do not comprehend the violence that arises out of these perceived separations. Our children do not see race, religion, sexual orientation, or even gender as barriers, they only see this as the miraculous and amazing diversity among human beings and they seek to know more and to honor these differences. Let’s get out of the way and let them do this, shall we!?
  5. Teach them what to do with Empathy.  Empaths are healers and those with this gift (all of our children) possess this gift because they are here to heal our dying world so that a healthier and happy world can emerge. Our children need to know what to do with these feelings and how to stop taking responsibility for everyone else’s pain. Interestingly, this also brings us back to items 1 and 2.

While we cannot change the world, we can change the world in which we are living and the journey starts within. Let us join together to help our children, and in helping our children, helping ourselves so that we can survive in a world in the midst of change and through our children’s dreams, help to support the birth of a new and better world. Then perhaps these children would not have died in vain.

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Posted in Empowerment, Inspiration

The Number One Cause of Violence in Our World

Before I answer the question about the number one cause of violence in our world, let me ask you a question:  Have you had enough of the violence yet? If your answer is YES, then please read on.  If you are excited about continuing the cycle of violence in our world by contemplating retaliation and retribution, then don’t bother reading this blog, you won’t get it anyway.  Today’s blog is for those who have ears to hear and for those who have hearts that yearn for an end to the violence and who want to play a role in bringing this violence to an end….once and for all! 

Short Answer: The number one cause of violence in our world is rage over a world that is too small, and feeling powerless to change it.

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Longer Answer: This is not about a world that is literally too small – as in size, shape, volume, etc. Neither is this about a world that doesn’t have enough resources to feed, clothe and house every single human being on this planet (because we DO have enough resources).  This isn’t even about the systems of distribution that have failed in their duty to care for even the simplest needs of the beings on this planet.

No, this is about a deep inner knowing of the SOUL that the lives we are living are WAY TOO SMALL!

Even Longer Answer: The Soul knows who we are, the reason we were put on this planet and the mission we are here to accomplish.  Throughout our life, the Soul tries to communicate this truth to us and draws into our presence opportunities to nurture, cultivate and ultimately live out this call.  The problem is that we don’t know how to listen and the world doesn’t know how to support us in the fulfillment of our Soul’s mission.  When we feel thwarted in the fulfillment of our Soul, RAGE erupts and if we don’t have proper tools for processing our deep-seated anger at not being able to fulfill our Soul’s duty, we either do violence to ourselves or to others.

Perhaps the violence we do to ourselves is internal through all the voices that tell us:

  • You have nothing significant to contribute to this world.
  • Who are you do think you can do/be/…xyz?
  • Good girls/good boys don’t do that.
  • Your family, friends, tribe, church, won’t understand/love you if you choose this path.
  • If you follow the path of your Soul, something in your life will have to change.

Maybe the violence we do to ourselves is the cultivating of resentment, or the suppression, repression, wholesale rejection of our anger – the very voice that is trying to help us understand our Soul’s calling.

The violence we do to others has many faces:

  • Seething resentment
  • Blame
  • Cultivating inner anger or hatred.
  • Making someone else the cause of our world being too small.
  • Physical, emotional, mental, sexual acts of violence.

When enough individuals are unsupported in the fulfillment of their Soul’s purpose, the rage that we hold within us individually becomes a collective rage where pretty much everyone on the planet is pissed off because their Soul is being ignored.  Yes, we have all sorts of coping mechanisms that self-medicate the pain of a meaningless and unfulfilling life (consumerism, materialism, money, power, achievement, fame, status, drugs, alcohol, sex, war after war after war after war), but there are not enough of any of these things, especially war, to satisfy the ache of a soul unfulfilled.  Until we tend to the deeper call of the Soul, we will never be satisfied and will be forever looking outside of ourselves for the satisfaction of that longing.  When we find that none of those things satisfy, we either turn toward more violence, or we WAKE UP and turn within to the ONLY source of the satisfaction that we seek.  This is as true for the young, dark-skinned men who turn to terrorism, hoping it will satisfy a life unfulfilled, as it is for the pasty white guys gathering piles of wealth as the rest of the world is starving.

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Longest Answer: Our world is a mess and it is a mess because for lifetimes, we have not supported ourselves or each other in the QUEST FOR OUR SOUL.  Instead, we have turned to outside perceived authority as the author of our lives and have allowed them to create structures while crafting rules, regulations, expectations, etc. that tell us who we are and the roles we will play in THEIR games.  (hmmmmm…..sounds like Hunger Games).  We have followed their rules because, quite frankly, it is easier.  It is way easier to do what we are told and to follow the 10 rules for “happiness” than it is to take the time to BE STILL and listen for the voice of our Soul.  It is also easier to follow the herd of sheeple than it is to follow our own inner voice and calling.  Listening to the voice of our Soul takes work and it takes, COURAGE.  This is not a journey for the faint of heart, especially in a society that mostly wants us to follow the rules – or at the very least, to follow the crowd.  “Don’t rock the boat.”  “Don’t disturb the status quo.”  “Don’t question, challenge, turn away from what WE want you to hear, know, do.”  These commands are then followed up with the biggest threat in their arsenal – “Do what we tell you or LEAVE.”  And in some places, “leave” means “die”….literally.

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The Solution: As much as we would like to cure the world of its violence, the solution to the problem will not be exacted on a global scale (yet).  Instead, it starts with ONE person – YOU deciding to make a CHANGE.

  1. It starts by turning away from the violence in the world – turn off the TV. Stop watching Fox News. Don’t read (or believe) the newspapers. Find sources of information that are not influenced by the institution of violence and propaganda. If you aren’t sure which ones those are….LISTEN TO YOUR GUT! Your intuition will guide you. (Turning away from the violence doesn’t mean we aren’t informed. Neither does it mean we don’t care, or pray, or hope for a different outcome. We are just choosing not to participate, not to add to it, and not to allow it to harm or influence us toward fear or violence).
  2. The second step is all about SELF CARE! Turn into your SOUL. Listen as it tries to communicate truth to you, your mission, your gifts, your purpose and your call. Learn how to manage your anxiety, anger, frustration, impatience, sense of powerlessness. Find support in overcoming your fears and resistance to your SOUL and in moving through the societal constructs that week to keep you from the path of your SOUL. Find support for living the path of your SOUL. (PS THIS is what I do for a living….if you want support call (920) 230-1313 or email lauri@authenticfreedom.love.)
  3. Find community. You are NOT ALONE in the desire to be free of a world of violence and to live in a world where all people are supported in finding wholeness, meaning, purpose, fulfillment, peace, love, and joy. Find others like you who have had enough of the violence and who are willing to do the HARD WORK of extracting yourself from the herd of mindless sheeple blindly following the voice of fear and who desire instead, to create a new wave – a wave of love that will one day grow large enough to wash the world clean of fear and restore it to the world of love that it was meant to be.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Authentic Freedom Academy, Divine Revelation, world changes

A Formula for Ending All Wars

This morning’s blog came through while teaching my Authentic Freedom Course.  Specifically, we were exploring the spiritual fear “I do not know” and the truth that off sets this fear – “That we do know our truth in our intimate connection with the mind of God.”  In other words, we DO know our truth when we remember that we are One with God/our Higher Self and that this truth is accessible and available to us when we are open to receiving it.  While meditating on the scripture assigned for this lesson (the story of Jesus healing the man born blind: John 9: 1-41), I arrived at the truth that, if known and embraced all of humanity, would end all violence and war. Here the truth is spoken as I received it,  from the perspective of the dirt that Jesus mixed with his own spit to restore sight to the man born blind:

The Dirt Speaks:

“For hundreds of years I’ve been sitting here listening to these men argue about what is of God and what is not; while all along I’ve known that there is nothing that is NOT of God.  As they trample over me, fighting over their perceived power, claiming themselves to be right and everyone else wrong, I have known there is no right and there is no wrong – at least not from God’s perspective.  For, you see, in God, there is no fear, so in God there is no “lack.”  But for these fearful men, all they see is lack.  And when they are afraid and only seeing lack, all they see is death – their own imminent demise.  So they bite, kick, scratch, bicker and fight over what they think will give them power over others so they will never know lack, thinking this will keep them safe from death.

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The irony in this is that if they would simply open their eyes and see – if even only looking toward the earth beneath their feet, they would see there is no lack and nothing to fear – so nothing to fight about!  Jesus knew this.  When his disciples showed their fear by asking him who had sinned that the man had been born blind, Jesus responded by scooping up the lowliest of all elements – a fist full of dirt.  Dirt, which here, in the temple grounds, is good only to be trampled on.  Then, Jesus made the dirt into mud, not from water from the well, but out of his own spit – an element and a gesture typically used to show scorn.  He then rubbed the mud into the man’s eyes, giving him sight.

Jesus knew.  In his knowing, he knew the earth to be abundant and that it provides all that humanity needs for food, clothing, shelter, and even healing.  The earth is abundant because there is nothing that is not of God, including the lowly dust of the temple grounds that have been trampled, spit on and shit on all these many years.  Jesus knew.

For those who have eyes to see…..let them see!

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Posted in Inspiration, Lessons, world changes

Beyond Connecticut – a Poet’s Invitation

Today’s blog is contributed by my dear friend – poet, author and healer – Jay Ramsay.  Thank you Jay for your heartfelt invitation for us to see beyond the violence to the changes we are ALL invited to make.  May we open our eyes, see and act so that this violence can finally stop.  You can learn more about Jay through his website:  http://www.jayramsay.co.uk/index.html

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Jay Ramsay

The Sacrifice

1.

They give their lives so that we can see

because we don’t have the courage of our own.

He died in Totnes High St, frozen, only 40

to the horror of the whole community.

His friend sleeps out three nights

to raise the money to buy him a cardboard coffin

when all he had was cardboard.

Homelessness, the disgrace of our affluent society

as we gaze towards stardom, tanning our egos

in its sunlamp…fame plays with fame at facing pianos.

2.

A line of screaming children emerging from the school

guided by a terrified teacher’s hand.

The sociopath in black is angry with his mother

using her own gun to kill for good measure.

The President wipes a teary eye, while Neil Young

is blasting through the chords of ‘Throw your weapons down’.

3.

We are a living sacrifice: slaves, Jews, Palestinians,

ME sufferers, dissidents, displaced refugees…

and the girl who camped under a big leaning tree

that the flooding rains brought down on her head.

She had nothing anyway

we are nothing anyway

until our hearts are open and our eyes begin to see.

Oh crucified ones of this Everywhere Coming

that is now our reality.

– Jay Ramsay; December 16, 2012

The Holy Cow of War

She’s not beautiful and honey-brown on an Indian street

she’s the front end of a bus covered in khaki

(and weapons advertisements) randomly leaving the road

to mow down pedestrians as the radiator becomes a mouth

a maw, then a tank phallus emerges—

before she backs off ready to charge: her eyes

full of hate-filled street faces fuelled

on an eye for an eye, retaliation at any price

rage denying grief, and more rage, and if she

ever had a just cause she’s a runaway whore

that needs lampooning, and more, and more

no space for any posturing or the lie of justification

the endless excuse that leads to the death of more innocence

more fractured ruined lives the world over,

SHE MUST BE OUTLAWED—so we have to

find another way, to talk like human beings

not calculating monsters, sociopaths

legitimate squaddies on a psychotic pub-crawl

called defence of any realm—Hell—indefensible;

SHE HAS TO BE STOPPED like a ranting patient

reaching his end-sentence while everybody waits

holding the space, more more glorification

no more retro nostalgia dressed up as poetry either,

Ms Ostrich…imagine Bob Marley being right

and not just dreaming off the end of a spliff:

NO MORE WAR between nations or neighbours,

but the far harder labour of loving peace

that goes on everywhere unreported

and climbs on my podium to take gold

for thousands of years, and an age to come.

– Jay Ramsay; December 4, 2012

Jay Ramsay is an internationally recognized poet and author of over 30 books including Crucible of Love, The Poet in You and Gita – a dialogue of love and freedom.  As a psychotherapist, Jay’s speciality is to help his clients uncover and express their true feelings, emotionally and creatively, and to find ways of translating that authenticity into action. He works with people of all backgrounds and at all stages of our life journey. Jay has 15 years in private practice, and has been accredited with UKCP and APP since 2004. Jay also works energetically as an experienced spiritual healer and is a full healer member of the National Federation of Spiritual Healers (MNFSH, since 1998).  Jay lives in Stroud, England and can be reached through his website:  http://www.jayramsay.co.uk/index.html