Posted in creativity, Discernment, Inspiration

Listening to our Soul

Within each of us resides the voice of truth…the voice of “God,” the voice of the “Higher Self,” whatever you want to call it.  It is the voice that leads us to our truth, our destiny, to expansiveness and love.  It is the Voice of the Soul

Switching Gears

I has been a busy week at the Lumby house.  Clients.  Preparation for the January birth.  And, my kids have been here for 8 straight days, going on 11 as their father enjoys a week of retreat after a busy art season.  (Their father is a really talented artist…check out his site:  Now, don’t get me wrong, I love being busy, making preparations and I especially love soaking up the presence of my children (even when they are fighting over the lamp that is causing a glare in Wil’s tv vision. )   And, I suddenly realized this morning that my Extrovert is spent and my inner Introvert is SCREAMING for attention, nurturing and pampering.  Not only that, but the truest voice of my soul – my writer, poet and artist is moaning out of sheer neglect.  As I listen to the voices of my soul, I hear a clear command:  “Time to switch gears.”  So, instead of indulging my normal Thursday morning ritual of sharing mass with the amazing retired nuns at the local Franciscan convent, I will be tending my soul.  I will drag out my Sarah McLaughlin CD’s and by myself, allow her angelic voice carry my soul to where it needs to be to muse, be inspired, create and write.  My introvert will be happy as will my inner muse.  YAY!

An Invitation

My invitation for you today is to do the same.  What is your SOUL saying to you?  How have your nurtured or neglected the voice within that speaks from your heart and speaks to your heart? The voice that leads you to inspiration, comfort, expansiveness, indulgence?  What is your soul asking of you?  Time?  Attention?  To simply be heard?  The good news is that the first step is an easy one…and that is to simply listen.  Pause for a moment and REALLY listen.  What does your heart want?  What does your joy want?  What does your comfort want?  What does your soul LONG for?  And the second step….DO IT!

And if that isn’t enough, listen to this song and watch the video and if that doesn’t inspire you…call me and we’ll set up an appointment for some emergency intervention for your soul!!!!!

Have an A-Musing day!

Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries

Posted in Boundaries, Lessons

Little Mermaid Part 2 – Being heard!

Today’s blog explores an on-going struggle.  When we gather enough courage to name, claim, cultivate and freely share our truth, our voice, our needs, desires, passions, hopes, etc.  how do we respond when those with whom we wish to share our voice cannot or will not hear us?



As I penned Wednesday’s blog about Ariel and giving up our voices (our truth, our dreams, our hopes, our passions) for “love”, I had no idea that the receiving function of this dynamic would come at me full boar and slam me into the ground. 

On Wednesday, we were challenged to shift the socialization that makes us believe we have to “shut up and put up” or deny our voice in order to gain “the handsome prince.”  Instead, we were invited to name, claim, cultivate  and generously share our truth, our voice, our dreams, hopes, needs, desires, passions, etc. with the world around us.  I was soon reminded that the universe nevers lets our lessons be incomplete as I was given an opportunity to name and claim my truth, which I did, and discovered that it is all fine and good to name, claim and share our truth….but perhaps the even bigger challenge is getting people to hear our truth.

Without going into all the gory details, suffice it to say that I came face to face with one of those people in my life that no matter how hard I try; no matter how clearly I attempt to name and claim my truth and establish my needs and boundaries – THEY CANNOT HEAR ME.  I found myself completely overwhelmed with frustration and rage as I tried to communicate my needs in the situation only to be met with a blank stare.  Have you ever had one of those situations where you are trying to be heard and the unhearing is so bad that you feel completely insane and begin to wonder if perhaps you are crazy for thinking this truth should be heard, wondering if the truth is even valid and then thinking perhaps the “receiver” is the one that really knows what is right?  Then your mind goes blank, you feel paralyzed and you cannot even begin to defend yourself, speak or argue because the insanity of it all has caused a complete and total system meltdown?  This is how I felt.  The only thing I found I could offer as a response was to go to bed.  I know, pathetic, right?  So, here is the question – what in the heck does one do in these situations?

What do we do when we know our truth and work toward sharing it and the people with whom we want to share these truths cannot hear it or refuse to honor it?  This is a challenging question, because in reality, there will ALWAYS be people who cannot hear or accept our truths.  There will always be people whose ears, hearts and minds will be closed to the truths we feel called to voice in the world.  This is equally true of boundaries…..because naming and claiming our needs and asking for them to be met are equally a part of this discovery and sharing of truth journey.  So…what are we to do with those who cannot hear our truth?

Unfortunately, there is no black and white answer to this quandary.   As we grow as human beings, one of the things we come to understand more and more fully is our own truth, our needs, our gifts, our desires and our passions and we grow in our ability to nurture and share these truths.  Even in a culture where we are socialized to suppress these truths for the sake of “love” or for the sake of another’s needs, if we are tending to our own inner journey….we cannot help but come face to face with our own deepest truths at some point in the process.  When we do, we are invited to own it and stand in it.  AND…..when we do this, ( as my friend Kathy L. states, ) we become “shit disturbers.”  Standing in our truth disturbs the status quo.  Standing in our truth breaks and alters the rules.  Standing in our truth forces change in our intimate and professional relationships.  Some relationships are able to withstand this change.  Some are not. 

So, when we come face to face with those who cannot hear our truth, I guess the answer is

1) try to re-negotiate the relationship (if it is one worth keeping)

2) If the relationship cannot be renegotiated decide if it is one you can accept as is….or

3) Leave it behind.

And take comfort in knowing that as we grow in our ability to name and claim our truths, new relationships will come into our lives that are supportive of our truth, that do honor our boundaries and where each party is interested in being a source of mutual support, compassion, love, etc. for one another.

  • What relationships in your life are supportive of your needs, your truth, your gifts and your dreams?
  • What relationships are not?
  • Which relationships need to be re-negotiated?
  • Which ones are calling to be left behind?
  • What new relationships are coming into your life that ARE open to hearing, honoring and valuing your truth?


Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries/Your Spiritual Truth


Posted in Boundaries, Lessons

Giving Away Our Voice for Love – Curse you Ariel!

Continuing the journey through the Disney Princesses….we take a walk (swim) with Ariel, or The Little Mermaid.  Is the handsome prince really worth the cost of our own voice?  HHHMMM   I think not!



I’m just going to say right off the bat….Ariel is a twit!  I mean really, giving away her prize possession, her voice (get ready for the metaphor!) for the possibility that the prince might fall in love with her.  Come on already!  Where was women’s lib when Disney ventured down this path???!!!!  So, I guess when it comes to Disney Princesses, the story of the Little Mermaid has a reverse message?  I know she gets the prince in the end….and frankly, I cannot recall how this feat takes place as I’m still reeling from the fact that she gave away her voice to do it. 

Ok…so in case you aren’t familiar with the story.  Ariel, the Little Mermaid, is the daughter of the sea king (Tritan?).  She is bored to tears with sea life.  She becomes enamored with humans through her exploration of shipwrecks and longs to walk among men.  One fateful day during a terrible storm she rescues one of these humans and falls madly in love with him.  She deposits him safely ashore then hurries back to the sea so she will not die.  Then Ariel strikes a bargain with the evil sea witch, Ursula, where she bargains her voice (her prize possession, for she is known for her beautiful singing voice) for legs.  The deal is, she gets to keep her legs and Ursula will return her voice should Ariel convince the prince to fall in love with her (and I think he has to kiss her).  Should Ariel fail in her quest, she would lose her human legs, be without her voice forever and will be cast back into the sea.  (In the original Hans Christian Anderson version, if the Little Mermaid should fail in her quest, she would become seafoam, and be neither human nor mermaid). 


Here’s the YouTube clip from the scene where Ariel gives her voice to Ursula.  (hint: this should scare you!):

So, am I to understand this correctly, is Disney really trying to tell us that in order to have love, we must give away our voice???!!!  Just for the sake of impact – ask yourself the question again – In order to have love, must we give away our voice?  Listen carefully……..did you feel it?  I thought so.  There is a tiny place within that constricts in pain at the thought of this question….but more importantly…..I think it constricts because on some level either we believe this to be true….or we have in the past.  So….here is the painful self reflection:

  • How many times have you denied your own truth or flat out given away your voice hoping that it would earn you the love (honor, respect) of another?
  • Where have you suppressed your deepest truths (gifts, passions, desires, needs, wants) out of the fear that you might be rejected for sharing your truths?
  • Where have you set aside your own needs, desires, hopes, because you did not want to make waves, because someone else’s needs were more important than yours, because you were afraid to share your needs? 

So, maybe Disney isn’t telling us that we have to give away our voices to be loved, but is simply observing a sad and unfortunate state of conditioning.  Sadly, many of us have been conditioned to believe that we need to hide or suppress our truths and our gifts.  We have been conditioned to believe that we have to put on a different face than our own in order to be loved.  We have been conditioned to believe that our job is to meet everyone else’s needs before we can worry about our own…or even worse, that our needs don’t matter, that our truths are invalid or that our gifts are unimportant.  LIES LIES LIES

So, this is what I am here to tell you.  (I’m putting my cheerleader hat on here) NEVER give away your voice.  NEVER suppress your truth.  NEVER dishonor your own needs, passions, desires, dreams.  NEVER NEVER NEVER do this out of some crazy idea that you have to do this in order to be loved, honored, respected, valued, affirmed, etc.  Your truth is your most sacred gift.  Your voice is your most beautiful tool.  Name it.  Claim it.  Honor it.  Cultivate and nurture it.  AND…..freely and openly express it in the world.  This is what God made you for!  The truth that God gave to you is the way that the Divine seeks to more fully reveal love, compassion, joy, beauty, mercy, peace, ecstasy and wonder in the world. 

And if that little cheerleading moment wasn’t enough….watch the movie, The Hours with Meryl Streep, Nicole Kidman and Julianna Moore to see the consquence of suppressing our truth. 

And a final note….I do need to let Disney off the hook just a bit….they did pen one magnificent ditty for their version of The Little Mermaid:

Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries/Your Spiritual Truth