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The Beloved Partnership – Beyond Soulmates and Twin Flames

As we ushered in 2015, it was revealed to me that I would be called upon to write about and teach on the topic of our continual spiritual evolution – from 3D/duality based consciousness to 5D/unity consciousness and beyond 5D to 6D consciousness where Divine Co-Creation (aka Magic) happens.  It has recently been revealed to me that I am also being called upon to write and teach on the topic of Beloved Partnership. Beloved Partnership is a new(actually, original) paradigm of intimate human relationships that moves beyond what we have most commonly experienced in our lifetimes (romantic love, convenience or co-dependency) and toward interdependency and Trinitarian co-creation.  In today’s blog, I will begin the exploration of Beloved Partnership and how we might recognize its call in our lives.

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Beloved Partnership – Not the same as soulmates or twin flames

As we have been ascending to greet our divine nature and allowing the full descent of our divine nature into our human form, there has been much talk about the question of soulmates, twin flames, etc.  To begin this topic, I feel it is necessary to acknowledge that the Beloved Partnership differs in many regards from what we have come to understand about soulmates or twin flames.  There are many experts on these two topics and I will permit their teachings to speak for themselves.  In my personal experience, I have many soulmates – people I have known on a very deep and ancient level from the moment we first met.  In the company of my soulmates, I always feel safe, supported and loved without condition.  Twin flames, in my experience, are those who are here to be a mirror – helping us (sometimes painfully) to see all the areas in our lives in need of healing, and transformation.  From Twin flames, I might proclaim, “Thank you sir/madame, may I have another!?”  To a soulmate I might utter a sigh of deep contentment. While there are no hard and fast lines between soulmates, twin flames or Beloved Partnerships and all may share similar characteristics, in my experience Beloved Partnerships are markedly different.

Beloved Partnership/True One

The Beloved Partnership is what I describe at length in my recent novel, Song of the Beloved – the Gospel According to Mary MagdaleneI have also seen a close approximation to what I have come to understand about Beloved Partnership in what Solara refers to as our “True One.”  By whatever name you call it, Beloved Partnership is unlike anything we have experienced in our lifetimes (there are some who have experienced this, but up until this time, this has been a rarity).  While our fairytales and myths (including most Hollywood movies) hint at Beloved Partnership, they have only just skimmed the surface of the depth of love promised in these kinds of relationships.  Unlike the romantic/co-dependent love favored in myth and fairytale (looking for the person outside of us who will complete us), Beloved Partnership is only possible when two COMPLETE individuals come together in a loving and intimate partnership (note: some relationships are able to evolve into a Beloved Partnership if this is the call of the relationship and if each individual works toward achieving this level of intimacy).  Unlike soulmate relationships which are often platonic, Beloved Partnership is a love that includes intimacy, passion and a deep and abiding romantic love that grows beyond eros to include filios, pragma and agape.  Also unlike most romantic relationships that we simply fall into (falling in love), Beloved Partnerships begin with a call – a call that is as deep as it is ancient – calling us back (ultimately) to the original nature and  vision for human love.

Call of the Beloved

The call of the Beloved begins with just this – a call. For some, this call arrives in a dream.  For others, it shows up in a meditative vision.  For all, the call of the Beloved is experienced as a DEEP knowing – a knowing that abides in spite of all arguments against it or doubt around its truth.  One just KNOWS there is someone they are supposed to be with (remember, this is not a co-dependent drive, seeking outside of us for something to fill the emptiness inside….it is a KNOWING of an ancient and divinely ordained truth) and they won’t stop until that relationship is realized.  Ultimately, the call of the Beloved arises out of the imprint of the Soul.  The Soul is the part of us that knows our highest truth, our path, our mission, our purpose in this world and compels us to fulfill this purpose.  If part of that mission is Beloved Partnership, the Soul lets us know this and drives us to seek it out.  Faith is the energy that propels this search and keeps us on the path until it is fulfilled.  It is also faith that will not allow us to settle for anything less than what the Soul knows, and if we try to satisfy that call with something less than the true Beloved Partner, our Soul will pull the rug out from beneath our feet or kick our butts to prevent us from accepting anything other than the Beloved Partner.  And if we have settled, we won’t be happy in the settling as the Soul will continue to hound us until we are united with the Beloved Partnership we were meant to experience in this life.

Read more about Beloved Partnership in upcoming blogs!

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Seeking Soul Mates, Twin Flames, The Beloved One

This is for all those men and women I know who have known the call of the Beloved – compelled to seek soul mates, twin flames, the True One, The One…..whatever your name for that, and struggling with the longing and the knowledge of an amazing kind of love.

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Where You Once Were

Torn and tangled shreds of my heart

From where you once were –

when we were still one.

Tree-branch hands

Brittle and twisted

Thrashing in the wind

Reaching into the void

Beyond myself and all I’ve tried to be.

Crying out in anguish

Longing for your return.

No matter how hard I try –

Pretending courage and strength

Independence and self-sufficiency –

In your absence,

I’m always less than one.

Knowing and feeling you as

the missing parts of my soul.

And no matter where I am grasping,

My hands returning empty…

Like the place in my heart

Where you once were.

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Twin Flames and Soul Mates?

Everyday, several people arrive at my website seeking answers to questions about twin flames, soul mates, happily ever after.  Today, I want to respond to these questions directly….if for no other reason than perhaps to answer the question for myself.

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Once Upon a Dream

Somewhere around twelve years ago, I had a dream that changed my life.  The dream began atop a hill in the center of a circle of stones.  I found myself standing beside an ancient-looking man dressed in white – a druid priest I presumed.  He pointed me toward a path that led down the hill and into a village. “There is your heart’s desire,”  he said.  I went down the path into the village (it looked to be Elizabethan, and somewhere in Great Britain).  I assumed I would find myself at the doors of a church (to learn that my heart’s desire was God), but instead found myself standing before the door of a row house.  I opened the door and walked in, this was my home.  I entered into the house and there was a man crouched down repairing a chair.  He looked up at me with recognition, welcome and then, adoration.  He stood up, and welcomed me into his arms and we kissed.  In his embrace, I was home.  I felt peaceful, secure, fulfilled.  He was my beloved, my soul mate, my twin flame, my True One.  And then I woke up.

The Recognition of Love

What I found in that dream was LOVE.  For the first time in my life, I knew what relational love felt like, and that I was deserving of love and to know love like that.  And then, I began a 12 year journey that continues yet today, for dreams are tricky, you see.  At first, I believed I was being invited to find that kind of the love in the relationship I was in at the time of the dream.  When that search proved fruitless, I decided that perhaps the dream was inviting me to find that love in God.  I embarked on a passionate search for God and found support of this search through the Song of Songs in the Hebrew scripture, the modern day writings of Tessa Bieleki and the poetry of Rumi, Hafiz, Rilke and John of the Cross (to name a few).  When I felt sufficiently full of God’s love, I found that this was not enough.  I then turned that love toward myself.  I worked long and hard at not only embracing God’s love, but learning to know and be that love within myself and in the world.  The more I found myself rooted in God’s love and the more I came to love myself, the more I realized that the relationship I was in was not reflective of this love. After many twists and turns, that relationship came to a natural end and I turned once again to Divine and Self love.  As those loves grew deeper roots, I found myself again seeking the relational component to the manifestation of love, sometimes in a needy, co-dependent kind of way, but more often, quietly waiting and trusting that as I was being the love God had called me to be, that the love that matches my love would find its way into my life, all the while continuing to deepen my love of God and love of Self.

Twin Flames, Soul Mates, True Ones, Happily Ever After?

After all this twisting and turning in search for the answer to my dream, I find I am left with more questions than answers. What I believe I can say with some certitude, however, is that the dreams of twin flames, soul mates, true ones and happily ever after have nothing to do with finding someone to complete us.  Instead, the dreams of love that we all possess within our beings are

1) About God calling us home.

2) About being called home to ourselves.

3) About being the love we are called to be in the world and finding fulfillment through this being.

Then, when we are whole and complete within ourselves, we are free to love another freely and to enter into a conscious, loving, interdependent relationship that is rooted in mutual love and support, respect and co-creation.

Planted in Our Hearts

That being said, I also tend to believe that God plants within our hearts the knowledge of the person who will perfectly (or imperfectly….we are human after all) reflect this love. When we have done the work of showing up to ourselves, when we cease from striving, when we are finished with the needing, that person will show up (probably when and where we least expect it), and we will know them by a look in their eyes and in a recognition in our hearts.