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The Fear of Rejection – Superhero Report

Superhero Report for the Week of October 26, 2014 

At this week’s Superhero Academy gatherings (Monday 6:30 – 8:30 and Tuesday 9-11 am), we discussed rejection – specifically, the fear of. In everyday life, and especially in claiming and engaging our Superhero gifts, we experience rejection.  In claiming our Superpowers, cultivating, and sharing them, we serve as a reflection to the rest of humanity of their unrealized potential.  This reflection serves to poke at their unrealized parts, which then initiates one of two reactions – the desire to stay and learn or the compulsion to run like hell. Second perhaps only to death, we fear our greatness.  Only the courageous and persistent and those willing to let go of the life they have known are able to realize their Superhero potential.  And when we do, it often ticks people off.  It is this fear of rejection that most often stands in the way of our ability to claim, cultivate and share our Superpowers. As a result, dealing with the fear of rejection is one of the final frontiers in the journey toward being a Superhero.

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The fear of rejection ultimately arises out of the parts of ourselves that have forgotten we are love. In Authentic Freedom, I offer a formal process through which one is able to heal these areas of forgetfulness, returning us to our original wholeness.  I recently discovered there is a shortcut.  This shortcut is Ho-oponopono – the Hawaiian ritual of forgiveness.  At this week’s Superhero Academy, we learned and put this ritual in practice, specifically as a way of tending toward those places within us where we are resistant to our Superpowers.  Specifically related to the claiming and sharing of our Divine call and the use of our Superpowers (spiritual gifts), here is how it works:

  • Close your eyes and sit or rest in silence.
  • Bring to mind a gift, an invitation, a call that has revealed itself to you – perhaps it’s an idea or a dream you have always wanted to pursue but haven’t yet.
  • As you think about this gift, etc. become aware of any areas of constriction that arise in your body – feelings of tightness, tension.
  • Be aware of any emotions, thoughts, images that arise, or the voice of doubt, condemnation, judgment telling you all the reasons you should not or cannot pursue this dream.
  • Recognize that voice of resistance, doubt, etc. as a part of yourself that has forgotten it is love.
  • Silently or aloud, say/pray to that part of yourself the Ho’oponopono prayer formula:

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

I love you.

Thank you.

  • Continue this prayer until you feel the resistance in you change, relax or release.

 

In short, the Ho’oponopono prayer recognizes that we are doing harm to ourselves when we deny our Soul its call, its purpose. As such, saying I’m sorry, etc. is our highest self offering unconditional love and healing to the part of us that is afraid and feeling unloved.

In the coming week, try this formula in every situation where you feel resistant to your dreams and see what happens!

 

 

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The Power of Resistance

Superhero Academy: We are here to heal and change the world!

In this week’s Superhero Academy gatherings, the topic was RESISTANCE – all the inner forces that work toward keeping us from knowing and living our most authentic truth, from identifying and harnessing our Superpowers and from experiencing the life of meaning and purpose that was intended. Superman had kryptonite, we have resistance.

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Resistance is a powerful force which comes up more and more strongly the closer we get to our life’s purpose. In recent weeks, the Superheroes accomplished a great deal of work around the quest for their Superpowers and the uniquely creative way in which they are gifted to find meaning and purpose in their lives and to contribute to the betterment of the world.  Not surprisingly, moving closer to the awareness and harnessing of these gifts has unleashed the (not so) ugly face of RESISTANCE.

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Recognizing Resistance

As we discovered in this week’s Superhero Academy gatherings, resistance can be both direct and subtle in nature. An easy and direct one – you are printing off a story that has to go out in today’s mail for a writing contest and your printer runs out of ink.  RESISTANCE.  A subtle one- you do a meditation to access awareness of a dream you are being invited to pursue.  An image shows up and you push it away as “it can’t be that.”  RESISTANCE!  Or you are attempting to access guidance for your life and you hear the word beloved and you take it to mean God instead of the flesh and blood love that is trying to come into your life.  RESISTANCE!

Defining Resistance

Ultimately, resistance is anything that makes us question, doubt, deny, avoid, ignore, suppress, repress, our gifts and our call. Resistance is the ego/false-self trying to keep us from the path of freedom, expansiveness, joy, fulfillment, meaning, love, that we were meant to enjoy.  Inwardly, resistance shows up in anxiety, confusion, despair, depression, fear, worry, THE NEED TO KNOW.  Outwardly, it shows up in procrastination, avoidance, denial, bargaining (I will get to my gift AFTER I clean the house, pay the bills, feed the family, finish school, rake the yard, make enough money for retirement, feel safe and secure, retire from my paying job, qualify for social security, etc. etc. etc..)  Outwardly, resistance also shows up in external situations that really do block our path – equipment going down, running out of ink, losing our journal, a computer virus, etc. etc. etc.  All of these are subconscious ways in which we resist our gifts and our path.

Support during Resistance

This week the Superheroes focused on identifying resistance. Next week we will work on specific strategies for moving through resistance.  In the meantime, it is important to know that RESISTANCE IS NORMAL…..in fact, it is a GOOD thing because it means we are getting closer to the life of our dreams!  When resistance shows up, we have the opportunity to say:

“Hello resistance, the fact that you are here means

that something MAGNIFICENT is about to happen!”

 

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Superhero Report – Superpowers II

 

Last night in our gathering of the Superhero Academy, we continued our discussion of Superpowers.  (Part I HERE .) This week, we focused on the “non-traditional” or “magical” superpowers.  None of these are truly magic, however, because all of them come from God….but then again, isn’t everything that comes from God magic?  😉  The superpowers we discussed are as follows:

  • Invisibility
  • Flight
  • Telepathy
  • Trans-dimensional vision, hearing
  • Time Walking
  • Inter-dimensional travel
  • Hosting
  • Mediumship
  • Manifesting
  • Elasticity
  • Time Morphing
  • Blending
  • Exorcism
  • Soul Retrieval
  • Catalyst (aka Shit Disturber)
  • Divination
  • Shadow Walking
  • Death Walking
  • Beacon

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Rather than imposing my own understanding of these superpowers, I invited the Superheroes to come up with their own description/definition of these superpowers, acknowledging that there would be no wrong answer.  (As a reflection activity, I would invite you to do the same.)  The Superheroes arrived at some beautiful ways of understanding these superpowers. I added my own nuance, especially with those, like divination, shadow walker and death walker, which may have gotten a bad-rap in the post-Victorian, Western world.

Divination, quite simply means, seeking and accessing divine guidance.

Shadow walkers are those who are able to walk with others through their shadow, their fears, their compulsions, their darkness.

Death walkers are called and have the gift of being able to accompany another through the transition of dying.

We then identified some important things to remember about the care and use of superpowers:

  • All superpowers come to us through God and are how God works through us for the betterment of the world.
  • We have the freedom to say “no” to our superpowers, BUT we will probably be hounded (by Spirit) until we say “yes.”
  • Superpowers are intended to be used for GOOD, and to use them in any other way will result in dire consequences, not as punishment, but as a natural consequence of putting “bad” into the world. (karma is a bitch!)
  • Superpowers are a responsibility….we have the responsibility to cultivate them, care for them, and most importantly, SHARE THEM.
  • When using our superpowers, it is important FIRST to seek Divine guidance, direction from our highest self, as to how, when and where we are called to use these powers.

In the coming week, spend some time reflecting on the list of superpowers above.  What is your understanding of these superpowers?  How might you be gifted with one, or several, of these superpowers?  How are you invited to cultivate and share these gifts?

 

 

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Why “Thinking and Doing” Don’t Work

In this week’s Superhero report, we explore the Superpower of Manifestation.  Here we learn that Superheroes can ONLY create from a knowing in our heart and why thinking and doing do not work for us.

Superhero Report Monday, August 25, 2014

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The Superpower of Manifesting – how we are super-powered to make things happen.  This has been an especially touchy area for many Superheroes as we have tried and failed to manifest using the tools presented through popular culture, and even through supposed “spiritual” books and training seminars, and God-inspired teachers, on how to “get what you want.”  Last week, I found out why these tools (“The Secret,” “Ask and it is Given,” “Thinking your way to abundance,” “Affirmations,” “Write it down and make it happen,” “Work hard and be rewarded…””God loves you so much….”) don’t work for us.

One of my teachers, Lauren Gorgo, specifically addressed this topic in her 5D  Report last week:  http://thinkwithyourheart.com/16319/brainpower-to-heartpower-enter-5d-creation/ )

In short: Superheroes can’t use their thoughts or minds to manifest.  For Superheroes, the power of manifesting lies within our hearts….more specifically, within our heart’s knowing.  It is our heart that carries the knowledge of our Soul’s imprint – the ways in which we are uniquely gifted to find meaning, purpose and fulfillment in our lives and how we are called to serve the betterment of the world.  Within that knowledge is also the knowledge of what we need to accomplish these tasks while having all of our needs met.  The challenge is that all the ways that this knowledge and the fulfillment of needs have been traditionally accomplished in this world (through thinking and doing) DO NOT WORK FOR US!  Thinking and Doing might work for others….but not for the Superheroes.  In fact, the harder we try to “think and do” our way to happiness and abundance, the more we get our ASSES KICKED!

While other people might be content in a life without meaning or purpose, and can therefore manifest through thinking and doing, Superheroes are not and cannot.  When we try to live this way, either we fail, or we are miserable in the trying. We have no choice (it seems) but to live our purpose, as such, in order to manifest, we need to know our heart and allow it to guide us.  Superheroes, therefore, can only manifest through KNOWING and ALLOWING.

KNOWING – is not about thinking, neither is it about the brain.  KNOWING is related to the heart and the imprint of our soul carried there.  KNOWING is about being quiet enough for listening, open enough for hearing and having faith enough to BELIEVE what our heart wants us to know.

ALLOWING is not about doing, but sometimes doing is involved.  More than doing, allowing is about getting the hell out of the way so that heaven can work through us in the way and in the time that is perfect for the Soul’s unfolding.  Allowing requires PATIENCE and TRUST and the ability to SEE the God-given, soul-driven, and heart-guided instructions for DOING when they do arrive, and then DOING them without question – in spite of how crazy it might appear to ourselves, and especially to others.  ALLOWING often requires a LEAP OF FAITH….and a bullet-proof heart for all the dispersions that might be hurled our way as we allow the path of our hearts to manifest.

Let me offer the clearest example of how I have seen this work in my own life.  This example is related to the home in which I am currently living.  Many years ago, as divorce became more and more imminent, a vision of my new home began to materialize.  This was a home I knew in my mind, but more clearly, I knew this home in my heart.  It wasn’t the house itself, but a feeling of what the home would feel like and a few of the key features (office on the first floor, formal dining room, minimum of three bedrooms and two baths).  As divorce proceedings began, so did the house search.  I had a specific budget in mind, and looked and looked and looked at homes within that budget.  NONE of them had the FEELING of the home in my heart.  I continued to look until a home became available.  It was a “fixer-upper” but a handyman became available that would make this house a possibility.  I made an offer, which was countered, I accepted the counter….so the house should have been mine.  But….the house was suddenly, suspiciously and potentially illegally sold to someone else.  I was devastated.  THIS was supposed to be my house….or so I thought.  (What I didn’t know at the time is that the Universe/God intervenes when something is out of alignment with our hearts…..yes, we can force the issue, but in the end we pay for deviating from the path of our Soul.)

So, I continued to look, sad to have lost this house, but undaunted in the vision and feeling of the house that was supposed to be mine.  I looked for another 6 months, never finding the home I knew in my heart.  Everyone said I was crazy and should just pick one that fit my budget.  My realtor said I would never find the home I was looking for in my budget.  I couldn’t explain it….I just KNEW this house in my heart would show up and it would happen in a very magical and miraculous way…..and that it might just fall into my lap.  9 months after beginning the search for the home in my heart, a miracle happened…the house in my heart literally fell into my lap.  A dear friend announced her engagement and that she would be moving into her future husband’s home.  Her home was now available.  HERE was the home in my heart – not at all within my budget, but I KNEW in the deepest part of my Soul that this was the LEAP OF FAITH I had to take.  The home perfectly aligned with the home in my heart…and then some….and the timing and process were miraculous, just as I KNEW they would be.  I immediately called her and asked if she would be interested in renting with the future possibility of selling.  Of course she said yes, and her former home has been my home ever since.  AND…..this home is even better than what my mind could imagine for myself and meets my needs in ways I never thought possible, and somehow, the means have always been there to pay rent, utilities, etc.

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This is just one example, but I can think of several others where miraculous things happened in alignment with my heart along with the opposite – where things were literally torn from my grasp because they were not in alignment with my heart (relationships, jobs, etc.).   The moral of the story, for Superheroes anyway, is to take the time to KNOW our hearts….to know what it wants for us…..to trust it is in alignment with our Soul and our highest good and that the Universe conspires to keep us on the path of our Soul….even if our response is kicking and screaming.  🙂

Reflection Exercise:

In order to facilitate the above practice, it is helpful to remember a past experience where we received something completely in alignment with our hearts, using that as a touchstone for future exercises in manifesting:

  • Bring to mind an experience you have had in your life where you received something in a miraculous or wonderous way that proved to be in alignment with your heart’s greatest knowing – and proved to be something life-giving, reflective of your gifts and which gave you a sense of meaning and purpose. Perhaps it was a job, a group you became a part of, a particular course of study, a relationship.
  • Recall how that experience came to occur in your life.
  • Remember the FEELING of knowing this was RIGHT for you. Rest in that feeling of knowing.
  • Use this FEELING as the gauge with which you measure future opportunities. Be willing to be uncompromising in only allowing things into your life which reflect this feeling…especially the important things – jobs, relationships, schooling, housing, etc.
  • Trust that as you turn to your heart for guidance, it will never steer your wrongly. Believe that what is in alignment with your Soul will SHOW UP at the perfect time in the perfect way. KNOW that you do not need to push or force any of this to happen…..and in fact, when you do, manifesting your heart’s desire will only be thwarted.

 

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Finding and Cultivating Your Superpowers

Superhero Report for Monday, August 4, 2014 – Part I

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I absolutely believe that every single one of us is a Superhero waiting to be born.  Not everyone will have the call or the drive to facilitate positive change in the world, but every single one of us has a role to play in turning the world into love. The key, for each of us, is to find out what our unique superpowers are, nurture them and then share them in the world. I have learned that the single most important thing we can do to discover, cultivate and harness our Superpowers is to develop and maintain a spiritual practice.

In Monday’s Superhero gathering, we learned how to develop and maintain a regular spiritual practice, but first we dispelled some myths around spiritual practice and defined it in a way that speaks to a post-modern world, and specifically to those who are blessed with creative and active minds.  (Note, the following is an excerpt from my as yet unpublished book, Happily Ever After copyright 2014):

Starting a Spiritual Practice

 

Sit in the silence and listen.

Listen in the silence and hear.

When you hear,

So shall you know. 

 

The purpose of the following is to offer helpful support for starting a spiritual practice and to provide additional insights for those who already have a practice in place.

Dispelling Myths

The following are myths that have been propagated in regards to meditation as a spiritual practice.  None of these myths (from my perspective as an experienced meditator and Spiritual Director) are true.

  • Meditation has a goal
  • The goal of meditation is silencing of the mind
  • There is a right and a wrong way to “do” meditation
  • If you reach the state of peace, you did it right….if not, you did it wrong
  • An empty mind is the devil’s playground
  • Meditating makes you a “better” person
  • Only enlightened/holy people meditate
  • Meditation is the path to enlightenment
  • Sitting in silence is the only valid form of meditation….or it is the preferred method
  • Meditation is an Eastern practice and cannot be practiced by Christians
  • Eastern meditation practices are dangerous
  • Lay people cannot meditate

Before embarking on a meditation practice, it may be helpful to know:

  • The goal of spiritual practice is “NO GOAL.”  Your job is to simply show up.  Striving after a goal (other than showing up) will prove to be an obstacle to your practice.
  • There is no right or wrong way to meditate.
  • If you find that state of inner calm and peace…..it is PURE GRACE…..not something you received because you finally meditated the right way or enough times.
  • There is a rich tradition of meditation and contemplation in the Western Hebrew and Christian traditions.
  • It is in the emptiness that we find God/Love/Truth…..and we are also invited to find God in the midst of the chaos.
  • Meditation can be receptive (listening, sitting, being) or active (expressing, moving, giving, processing,).
  • Meditation encompasses many formats and practices including but not limited to:  meditative reading of sacred texts, journaling, sitting in silence, movement (yoga, tai chi, dance, etc.), chant, listening to music, daydreaming, paying attention to our dreams, mindfulness practices, acts of service, making love, being present to our family and friends, being out in nature, creative expression, painting, drawing, cooking, cleaning, etc. etc. etc.
  • A spiritual practice is anything that helps us to connect with God, peace, love, joy, flow, compassion, harmony, forgiveness, mercy, ecstasy.
  • In the Western tradition, Meditation refers to the reflective thoughts in the mind.  In the Eastern Tradition, meditation is understood to mean sitting in silence.  Contemplation is the term used in the Western tradition to refer to sitting or being in silence with God.
  • The only danger in meditation or contemplation is connecting with your truth.  Warning:  Truth can be a dangerous thing if we are not prepared or if we do not have the tools to handle it.  As Gloria Steinem said, “The truth will set you free, but first it will kick your butt.”
  • Meditation may lead you to enlightenment, if that is your path in this life; regardless, it will help you to be a happier, more peaceful and more loving human being.
  • From the Hebrew and Christian perspectives, meditation and contemplation will empower you to experience the Kingdom of God right here, right now, in this life.  You will discover that you don’t have to die to know the peace and love of God.
  • Meditation can be practiced by ANYONE……regardless of your race, color, creed, education, status, position of power, ordained or not, etc. etc. etc.

Getting Started

As mentioned above, there is no right or wrong way to meditation or to enter into spiritual practice.  I have learned, however, that there are certain things we can do that will help us to be successful in our goal of SHOWING UP for our spiritual practice.  Remember…the only goal is to SHOW UP.  The following steps may help you to do this.  

  • Set aside a regular time each day for your spiritual practice where you can be uninterrupted for 15-30 minutes.  For many people, this is first thing in the morning, but choose a time that works for your own personal bio-rhythms.
  • Choose a special place in your home or office that is designated as your place for your spiritual practice.  It might be a certain chair in your living room, your drawing easel, maybe you have the luxury of setting up a meditation corner or room.
  • Have the tools that you need for your practice near your chosen place – your journal, a bible, writing utensils, maybe a candle or incense burner, a blanket.
  • Turn off any potential distractions – phones, computers, pagers, etc.
  • Create a ritual that helps you to enter into your spiritual practice.  Light a candle.  Burn incense.  Say a prayer.  Bow to your sacred space.

Magic Wands Please….

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to spiritual practice.  Each person possesses their own unique temperament and preferred ways of functioning in the world.  As such, through the ancient traditions, a variety of tools have been developed to fit the needs of a wide variety of people.  Practice individual methods until you find one that feels like it fits you.  And know that from time to time, this will change.  Or, maybe like me, you will find a variety of practices speaking to you.  You might then look for a way to incorporate several into your daily practice.  Remember….there is no right or wrong way to meditation.  Ultimately, any activity that you do that leads you to a place of peace and helps you to remember love is considered a spiritual practice. 

Stay Tuned tomorrow….same Bat time, same Bat channel….for Part II – Specific spiritual practices you might like to try.