Posted in Midlife Journey

What to Expect in Midlife and Menopause Part 1

The purpose of a midlife crisis, perimenopause and menopause (from a spiritual perspective) is to move us beyond childbearing to birthing ourselves…and this is as true for men as it is for women.  During midlife and menopause, we are invited to leave behind the life we have known to make room for the new life that is trying to be born through us.  In birthing our new selves, we are birthing our Soul – the unique way we are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose, connection and fulfillment in our lives and the way in which we find fulfillment by contributing to the betterment of our world.  Yesterday, we talked about the midlife crisis or awakening that heralds the midlife journey (which includes menopause).  Today we will begin the process of exploring the many aspects of midlife by revisiting the past.

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What to Expect in Midlife and Menopause – Revisiting the past

After the midlife crisis, the awakening that heralds the midlife journey (including perimenopause and menopause), our past comes back to haunt us.  In order to make room for the new life that seeks to be born through midlife, we have to make peace with our past.  Specifically, we are invited to find healing and release for any unhealed wounds from childhood, ungrieved losses, failures and disappointments, unacknowledged hurts and childhood fears.  We are also invited to let go of any resentments, betrayals, deceits that we are still clinging to and find room in our hearts for forgiveness and therefore release.  During the midlife transition, we are also forced to take a good hard look in the mirror and examine all the places where we may have intentionally or unintentionally hurt another human being.  We are invited to examine all the places in our lives where we have acted in less than loving ways, where we have lied to or cheated another.  Where we have hurt another through our angry outbursts or prideful self-righteousness.  Embarking on the midlife journey is kind of like dying and spending a few years in purgatory, examining all the ways in which we have been wounded and all the ways in which we have been the one to cause harm, and then we are invited to find healing and release from all this debris.  Once we have burned through the pain and the sorrow there is more room within us for humility and compassion – the soil in which the seeds of our new life will be planted, take root and grow.  But first, we have to be willing to confront and make peace with our past.

Lauri Lumby provides education and support for the midlife journey through one-on-one mentoring, classes and workshops.  You can reach Lauri at (920) 230-1313 or for more information or to set up an appointment.

Posted in Being Human, Body/Mind/Spirit connection, creativity, Inspiration, Midlife Journey, Spiritual Formation

The Discomfort of Change

The human journey is a continual process of changing and growing – a cyclical process of dying and birthing – letting go of that which no longer serves us and making room for the new life that wants to be made known through us.  These life changes are often accompanied by feelings of discontent, boredom, loneliness, anxiety, depression and even despair.  How do we know our life is ready for the next cycle of change and what do we do about it?


The Constant Process of Birthing Ourselves

Life is a continual process of birthing ourselves.  Beginning with the moment our father’s sperm meets our mother’s egg,  life consists of a constant process of evolution, growth and change.  And change does not cease once we reach our full height sometime during adolescence or because we achieved certain milestones like graduating high school or college.  In fact, I sometimes think that once we reach “adulthood,” our growth accelerates – especially at significant times such as marriage, childbirth, midlife and elderhood – we just do a really good job of resisting or altogether ignoring the continual unfoldment necessary for Soul.


Soul is the uniquely creative way in which we have been gifted to find meaning and purpose in our lives and the way in which we are gifted to contribute to the betterment of the world.  As we move through the journey of life, Soul desires to reveal itself in deeper, more meaningful and more expansive ways.  Soul is never done revealing itself…..if we let it.  Unfortunately, we tend to spend more time resisting or ignoring Soul than allowing it to be born.  Fortunately, the desire of the Soul is greater than any resistance we could throw at it and it will persist in trying to be born…or die trying.   Yes, we can ignore and even deny the continual revelation of our Soul…even to the point of the Soul’s “death” (the Soul never really dies it will just feel that way) but the harder we resist the more uncomfortable things will become.

Heralding the Soul

While the birthing of the Soul is a deeply spiritual and mysterious process, its effects will be felt on both an emotional and physical level.  Soul, when it is ready to be done with a current phase of our life and is preparing to move to the next more expansive, more fulfilling state, starts to get restless, and we along with it.  Restlessness, discontent, boredom, are all feelings there to alert us to the Soul preparing for its next stage of unfoldment.  As the restlessness sets in, anxiety is sure to follow as our very human fear of change begins to resist the Soul….knowing that if Soul is ready to be born anew, that something will have to die or be set aside.  Like the plant that must die in order that it can reseed and be born anew, part of what we have known our life to be will need to pass away in order to make room for something new.  If we acknowledge this anxiety for what it is, identify what it is that is calling for release, grieve the loss and let it go, then we can gently surrender to the new opportunities Soul is promising for us.  If, however, we resist the call of the Soul and continue to resist it, then all hell breaks loose.  Resistance to Soul is known by feelings of profound anxiety, panic, debilitating despair and depression.  And if we further resist the birth of Soul, sensations move beyond our emotions and take root in our body through physical pain and even disease.  Chronic pain, fibromyalgia, digestive issues, panic attacks, auto-immune disease, are all thought to be related to resistance to Soul.  (Birthing the Soul also means naming, claiming, standing up for all of our truths….especially the ones we’d rather forget or keep hidden).  The harder we work to resist our Soul (and our truths), the more drastic measures Soul/Truth will engage to try to get our attention.

Surrender to Soul

To alleviate the discomfort associated with the transitions of Soul, we only need to do one thing.  LET OUR SOUL BE BORN!  When we GET OUT OF THE WAY and SURRENDER to the Soul as it is trying to be born, we are relieved of the pain that accompanies the Soul’s transition.  Like labor, the birth of the Soul is never pain free, but when we surrender to the process, accept loving support from family, friends and professionals, we are able to move through the transition in a smoother and easier way.  When we acknowledge that which needs to be released in order to make room for the new and grieve that loss, when we employ effective tools for moving through our own fear and resistance to the new life that is not yet known, then we find grace and ease in the process of the Soul’s birthing.  And, like the birth of a child, when we allow Soul to be born, we are rewarded in greater and more miraculous ways than we ever could have imagined before.

For assistance and support in the transitions of birthing your Soul, contact Lauri Lumby at (920) 230-1313 or

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Being Human, creativity

Conquering Fear

Soul is the uniquely creative part of ourselves that when engaged, gives us a sense of fulfillment, peace and joy.  Soul gives us meaning and is our unique purpose in this life and the way we assist in creating a better, more loving, more joyful, more peaceful world.  Soul is who we were born to be and who we are compelled to become.  Birthing the Soul is as much of a spiritual as it is psychological journey and there is just one thing that stands in the way of living our Soul’s purpose….and that is fear.  Today’s blog explores that fear.


Getting a Glimpse of Soul

Soul is the uniquely creative part of us that we were born to become.  Soul is our original nature and the person God/dess made us to be.  Living from Soul, we find meaning and purpose in our life, it leads us to fulfilling work and healthy intimate connections.  Living from Soul, we offer our own unique gift for the betterment of humanity and our world.  Soul is not something that only shows up after we have done enough work, said enough prayers or beat enough bushes.  Soul is with us all along, calling to us, beckoning us, guiding us and sometimes kicking out butts.  We can recognize Soul in the moments in our life where we are on-fire with enthusiasm, excitement and joy.  Soul is found in the activities, books, movies, relationships, life encounters that make our hearts sing.  Soul is speaking through us when we hear words of wisdom, insight, comfort, support and guidance fly out of our lips and we wonder, “Where did THAT come from?”  Soul is in the moments of tender intimacy, heart breaking grief and bold righteousness.  Soul is in our passion, our grief, our joy and our activism.

Soul in Retrospect

Soul is also available in the 20/20 vision of hindsight.  When I look back on my own life, I can see Soul glimpsing at me behind Fr. Otto’s robes, in the rolling mists of Avalon, in Obi Wan Kenobi’s brown hooded robe, in Wonder Woman’s golden lasso of truth, in the gleaming blade of Excalibur, in the wiggle of Samantha Steven’s nose and in the haunting strains of Moire Brennan’s voice and the platformed heels of Stevie Nicks’ boots.  Soul guides us in glimpses and flashes of inspiration and in dreams of things yet to come.  Soul is always there in everything, calling us home to ourselves, to the person God/dess made us to be.

Being Human = Having Fear

If Soul is there all along, calling, cajoling, beckoning us on, the birthing of the Soul should be easy, right?  Yeah….I wish.  Birthing Soul would be easy if it weren’t for one thing…..FEAR.  In the moment that we agreed to participate in this human experiment, Fear decided to come along for a ride.  In fact, if it weren’t for fear, we wouldn’t be human…instead, we’d be sitting up on the clouds with the Cherubim and Seraphim, not being human, but singing songs of glory to our God.  But we aren’t here to be angels, neither are we here to be gods.  We are here to be human. In being human, fear has an important role to play.  I keeps us alive and allows us to survive.  Without a healthy dose of fear, we’d all be jumping off of bridges and leaping from cliffs to our death, eating poisonous plants and burning ourselves with fire.  Beyond the necessary fears for survival, however, fear is simply an obstacle that keeps us from living from Soul and from being the joyful, loving, creative, fulfilled, peaceful person God/dess made us to be.

Confronting Fear

One of the things I have learned about confronting fear is that if we can name the demon, it no longer has power over us.  99% of the work of moving beyond fear to Soul is actually naming the fear.  Today, I’m going to help you with that task.  In my book, Authentic Freedom – claiming a life of contentment and joy, I have identified the seven core spiritual fears that are THE obstacles to us living from Soul and being the person we were made to be.  Your assignment in the coming week is to look for the presence of these fears in your life, identify them and call them out.  While there is more to releasing fears than simply naming them…..naming is a good place to start.  So here are the fears that have been keeping you from the life of contentment, fulfillment and joy that you long for:

  • There is not enough (time, money, power, things, love, support, time, money)
  • I am not uniquely gifted (ie: I have nothing to offer, no gifts to speak of, nothing to contribute)
  • I can’t
  • I am not loved (or will be rejected)
  • I am not free to express my truth
  • I do not know my truth (or my path, or my gift, or my Soul)
  • I am alone

In the coming week, reflect on how these fears are present in your life and how they are an obstacle to you living your Soul!

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Being Human, creativity, Initiation, Inspiration, Midlife Journey, Spiritual Formation

Withholding our Gifts

Today’s blog explores our own unique giftedness and our responsibility to identify, cultivate and share that gift in the world.  We are the ONLY ones who possess and can share this gift.  And when we deny this gift and withhold it from the world, the whole world loses.  Participating in soulful spiritual and personal development facilitate the birth of your Soul and help you find your life’s purpose.


Your Precious Gift

The great dancer and choreographer, Martha Graham once said:

“There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique.  And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost.  The world will not have it.”

I love the profound truth in her observation, in her words and in her call to action.  We are each uniquely gifted and spiritually blessed to make an important contribution to the betterment of our world.  There is no one else on the planet who possesses the exact nature of our gift, therefore we are the only one who can effectively deliver this gift to the world.  When we refuse this spiritual gift, we do a disservice not only to ourselves, but to our children, our families, our friends, the entire world.  I don’t share this truth as a way of causing you shame, but as a way to point out how truly magnificent, unique, special you are in the person God/dess made you to be!  You and your gift are precious treasures that the world desperately needs.  And the world needs your gift NOW….not in some distant time light years from now….or when you finally get around to it…or when your children leave, or when life isn’t so busy, or when your husband retires, or when you retire, or when the moon is finally in Aquarius.  The time for you to explore, discover, cultivate and share your gift is NOW!!!!  So…..what are you waiting for?

The Time is Now

If you already know what your gift is and are actively sharing this gift in the world and enjoying the fruits of sharing your gift, congratulations and yay!  If you are not, (in the words of one of my teachers,) “Get off your butt and do it now!”  The good news is that you don’t have to embark upon the journey of discovering and birthing your Soul – your own unique giftedness and spiritual purpose – on your own, nor should you.  There are a million resources out there to guide you in the journey, to provide support along the way and to give you a good hard push when your resistance gets in the way.  This is where I come in with my own unique giftedness and purpose.

Midwife to your Soul

For the past thirty years, I have sought, discovered, cultivated and honed my skills as a guide in the process of birthing the Soul.  In this process, I birthed my own Soul.  In birthing my own Soul, I have found fulfillment, joy, peace, contentment along with a great sense of wonder and awe as I witness the fruits of birthing my Soul.  Authentic Freedom – the process and curriculum for birthing the Soul that I developed came out of this process, as did the current workshops on creativity and the midlife journey.  My call to be a writer came out of this search.  The desire to teach, to heal, to accompany and support arose out of this search.  As did the desire to give back.  I am also aware, as you will be, of the vibrant energy, the God-energy, that flows through me as I am sharing my gifts and I know that in truth, these gifts are not mine, but that I am simply the vessel.  As Midwife to your Soul, it is my job to help you to discover, cultivate, hone and share your gifts.  And the time for you to begin this work is NOW!  Your heart and your Soul are waiting…and so is the world.

To schedule a one-on-one mentoring session with Lauri or to schedule a workshop or retreat, please call (920) 230-1313 or email

Posted in Empowerment, Freedom, Midlife Journey, Spiritual Practices, teachers

“Mischief Managed” – Book Review for Wild Mind by Bill Plotkin

I’ve recently been enjoying the books of Bill Plotkin, psychologist, author, wilderness guide and cultural visionary.  I just completed his latest book, Wild Mind, and I LOVE IT!  Wild Mind provides a map for the journey of birthing our Soul, offering tools for spiritual and psychological healing and growth.  I love this book! 


Assuming the guise of modern-day wizard, Bill Plotkin is his latest release, Wild Mind, presents readers with a gift akin to the Marauder’s Map of Harry Potter fame.  The Marauder’s Map is gifted to only the bravest of wizards and can solely be opened by those clever enough to uncover the incantation for its opening, “I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.”  Upon opening the map, the wizard discovers insight into the potential obstacles and dangers along the path of their quest.  The Map of the Human Psyche serves this very purpose in the human quest for the Soul – defined by Plotkin as “a person’s unique purpose or identity.”

With Plotkin’s guidance, readers are invited to plunge into the depths of their psyche so that they may uncover and then transform all of the ego-constructs, defense mechanisms, and inner obstacles to living their Soul’s purpose.  With a breadth and depth akin to the Enneagram, Plotkin presents a comprehensive approach to spiritual and psychological growth that speaks in images and symbols that are universal and fully grounded in our indigenous spirit.  In his nature-based map of the psyche, Plotkin gives readers the tools and support they need to face all that they have hidden in the darkness so that they might bring them to the light in service to their unique identity and purpose.  In freeing their imprisoned Souls and enjoying the contentment, fulfillment and joy that this brings, readers can then confidently close the map, tapping it with their wand while proudly proclaiming, “Mischief Managed.”

Wild Mind is perfect for psychologist, therapists, counselors, ministers, and spiritual directors; for self-directed seekers of spiritual and psychological growth and would be well suited for an intentional group gathered around this same intention.

billPlotkinBill Plotkin, PhD, describes himself as a “psychologist gone wild.”  A cultural visionary, author and wilderness guide, he’s been blazing new trails for decades.  His ecocentric re-visioning of psychology invites us into a conscious and embodied relationship with soul and with the natural world.  His previous books are Soulcraft and Nature and the Human Soul.  He lives in southwestern Colorado.  You can learn more about Bill, his programs and services at

Posted in Being Human, Returning book

Katherine T. Owen Reviews “Returning”

A heart-felt thank you to Katherine T. Owen, author of Be Loved Beloved, for her beautiful review of Returning – A Woman’s Midlife Journey to Herself.  You can learn more about Katherine through her website and through her bio (below.). 


In Returning, A Woman’s Midlife Journey To Herself, Lauri Ann Lumby shares her journey of self-love and spiritual exploration, with startling honesty.

Lumby refers to the poems as unedited, saying “the last thing we need when writing to find ourselves is someone telling us our poetry is crap”. The poems are nonetheless fluid and flowing. Sometimes rhyming, sometimes not, they are always accessible and revealing– the outpouring of feelings and observations of a woman who is allowing herself to know how she feels about herself and her life.

Subjects include the progression of a love affair from first love till separation, and the writer’s relationship with her body– years of trying to starve herself through to being happy with being a larger clothes’ size. At times I felt both the joy and discomfort of eavesdropping on personal thoughts.

If you are fed up of self help authors who give the impression that having found self-love or God, their life is now endlessly easy, you will be glad of this very honest account of a woman who shares her journey and invites us to make our own.

If you run any kind of writing group in which women are willing to explore how they truly feel about themselves and their lives, the writing exercises– many for each of the seven chapters–will be useful tools in sparking the creative expression of your group. The book would be relevant to those teaching therapeutic writing for well being.

Read it for its honesty. You will know yourself better through reference to the open sharing of another.

Katherine T Owen
– Every problem is an invitation to reconnect with Love.

Katherine T Owen spent fourteen years of her life bedbound with CFS/ME with little movement and little speech. Now she walks and talks again.

Katherine’s primary spiritual practices are those of love and forgiveness. Through these, she remembers and celebrates our Oneness with God and with each other. She is author of It’s OK to Believe– A Journey with Faith and Reason. Spiritual poems and prose take the reader on a thought-provoking journey to reconcile the questioning mind with belief in a God of love.

Also, the collection Be Loved Beloved. Katherine is a student of A Course In Miracles and a Christian mystic. Find out more about her journey at

Posted in Authentic Freedom, creativity, Midlife Journey, Raised Catholic, Returning book

Church of the In-Between

The midlife journey is about birthing our Soul – the unique way we are spiritually and creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose, fulfillment and connection in our lives, and the way in which we are called to share our gifts for the betterment of humanity.  Returning – a woman’s midlife journey to herself, chronicles the journey toward my own spiritual and creative fulfillment while providing creative tools through which you may do the same.  Today, I share with you a recent poem that surfaced in response to my own continued Returning and the unfolding answer of what it means to be priest in the post-modern world and beyond my own Catholic upbringing.


Priest to the Church of the In-Between

Priest to those in-between

in an in-between world

in an in-between time

A Church free of walls

Free of name

A name-less, face-less God, or no God at all.

Free of doctrine

Free of Creed.

A Church, not of my own making

 It making me according to its need.

Priest without collar or stole

privilege or power

chalice or blade.

Heart and arms open

Meeting where you are at

in the places in-between.

SOUL is the unique way you are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose and connection. Soul, when engaged, leaves you feeling fulfilled, content and whole.  My mission is to help you BIRTH YOUR SOUL.  Lauri Ann Lumby (920) 230-1313

Posted in creativity, Empowerment, teachers

Everyone Needs a Fairy Godmother

In the journey of birthing our Soul – the way in which we are uniquely, creatively and spiritually gifted to contribute to the betterment of the world and in doing so, finding meaning, purpose, connection and fulfillment – we often get in our own way.  Hindered by our fears, insecurities, compulsions, addictions and false perceptions, we stumble and sometimes fall.  It is during these times of struggle that it is important to know that we need not accomplish this journey alone.  We all need guidance, help and support from those who have taken the journey before us.


Fairy Godmothers, Good Fairies and Mary Poppins

Fairytales and children’s stories are rich in their ability to reveal to us deeper and higher truths.  Like every good myth, fairytales reveal the deeper truths of the human condition, specifically, the journey toward birthing our Soul.  Every fairytale is in some way a representation of the hero’s journey, as Joseph Campbell would call it.  One valuable truth often portrayed in fairytales is that we do not need to accomplish the journey toward our creative and spiritual potential alone.  Instead, there are helpers available to assist us, maybe even magically, in accomplishing  our goal.  Cinderella had her Fairy Godmother.  Pinocchio, the Blue Fairy.  Snow White, the seven dwarves.  Briar Rose (aka Princess Aurora) had the three fairies. Dorothy had the Good Witch of the North. And the Banks children had (my personal favorite) Mary Poppins.  What is common among these helpers is a sort of higher knowledge and wisdom, mixed in with a little bit of magic.

Spoons full of sugar and bibbity bobbity boo!

The gift in these magical helpers is their ability to see beyond the fears, illusions, addictions, compulsions and insecurities of those they are helping.  Glinda knew that Dorothy had within herself the ability to return.  The Blue Fairy saw the real boy hidden beneath the rigidity of Pinocchio’s fears.  Mary Poppins saw the love and compassion beneath the Banks’ attachment to work and the longing for attention beneath Jane and Michael’s mischief.  Magical helpers are there to see the truth beyond the illusion and to hear the truth beyond the words so that they can help us to identify what is really standing in the way of our creative and spiritual fulfillment.  Then, it is their job to provide for us the resources and tools which will shake us from our attachment to the status quo, help us through our fears and restore us to the path of our Soul.  To us, these resources and tools are no less magical than a spoon full of sugar and bibbity bobbity boo!

Today’s Magical Helpers

The Fairy Godmothers and Mary Poppins of the real world are those people who show up in our lives as a source of wisdom and support as we seek the remedy to our restlessness, longing, impatience and frustration.  Spiritual Directors, Therapists, Life Coaches, Creative Mentors, etc. are all there to help us find our way to our Soul, magical helpers who help us to identify the inner obstacles, unhealed wounds, unresolved fears, false perceptions and attachments that are keeping us from the creative fulfillment that God/dess intended for us to have, and who are then there to provide us with the tools and resources for releasing, healing and moving past those inner obstacles.  The greatest gift in working with these magical helpers is that if they are good, really good, we discover our own greatness and our own unique brand of magic which we are then called to share with others – thereby making us the next generation of Fairy Godmothers and Mary Poppins’.

SOUL is the unique way you are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose and connection. Soul, when engaged, leaves you feeling fulfilled, content and whole.  My mission is to help you BIRTH YOUR SOUL.  For support in this journey, call me at (920) 230-1313 or email

Posted in creativity, Empowerment, Freedom, Gifts of Contemplation, Inspiration, Midlife Journey, Returning book, temptation

From Darkness into the Light

The journey of birthing our Soul – the unique way we are creatively and spiritually gifted to find meaning, purpose, connection and fulfillment – involves a significant amount of shadow work.  Through shadow work, we are called to bring what is in the darkness into the light – our fears, unhealed wounds and all the resistance that are currently standing as obstacles to the birth of our creativity and spiritual fulfillment.


The Unique Quality of Soul

SOUL is the unique way we are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose and connection. Soul, when engaged, leaves us feeling fulfilled, content and whole.  As human beings, we are driven to become the person God/dess created us to be.  We are genetically, spiritually, creatively implanted with something invisible deep inside us that determines the unique and magnificent way we are creatively gifted to make the world a better place.  Like an acorn, when given the proper nourishment, support and protection, that has no choice but to grow into an oak, we too are driven to be who God/dess made us to be when given the proper nourishment, support and protection.  Also, like the acorn and the oak, part of our own cycle of growth includes spending time in the darkness and pushing our way through the soil/obstacles to our spiritual and creative germination, growth and eventual maturity.

Hiding in the Darkness

In the darkness where the acorn rests waiting for the right moment of ripeness when the sprouts of the oak begin to erupt out of the acorn shell in its journey toward becoming the oak, there is silence.  Hidden within our darkness is silence, but also lurking there are all of our fears, unhealed wounds and all the resistance of the false-self that does not want us to become our magnificently creatively gifted self.  Fears that say:

  • there is not enough time, money, safety, security, support, love, to tend to our gifts
  • that our gifts are insignificant and unimportant or that we don’t really have any gifts to speak of
  • I can’t be the person God/dess created us to be or that we are not free to express our truth (for fear of rejection)
  • that we will not be loved for sharing our gift
  • that we don’t know our gift or that we don’t know enough to tend to or share that gift and the fear that we are alone

Along with our fears are all of our unhealed wounds:

  • times we have been criticized or condemned for our gifts
  • rejected because of our uniqueness
  • told we are unimportant or don’t matter
  • made to feel as if our needs are without value or shamed for daring to ask for our needs to be met
  • times we have been betrayed, hurt, lied to, where love has been denied us or taken away

Finally, there is the voice of the false self clinging to what it knows, its false sense of security and surety for what is known and its desperate fear of change.

The Only Way Out is Through

In order to grow from an acorn to an oak, the acorn has to push forth through the acorn shell and its shoots have to reach out through the darkness of the soil toward the light of day.  The human journey of birthing the Soul is no different.  The only way for our Soul to emerge from the darkness where it hides into the light is through the soil of our fears, unhealed wounds and resistance.  In order for the Soul to begin the ascent from the darkness, we must confront every one of these fears, make peace with them, heal them where possible and move on through.  In the birth of the Soul, the only way out is through, and the greatest gift we can offer to the Soul that is trying to be born is PRESENCE.  When we have the courage to BE with our fears, sit with them and let them speak to us, they eventually find their release or simply step aside so we can walk on through as we move one step closer to the realization of our Soul and the fulfillment that is the gift in its realization.

SOUL is the unique way you are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose and connection. Soul, when engaged, leaves you feeling fulfilled, content and whole.  My mission is to help you BIRTH YOUR SOUL.  To schedule a one-on-one mentoring session or to inquire about classes, workshops and retreats, call me at (920) 230-1313 or email

Posted in Being Human, creativity, Empowerment, temptation

Creativity, Soul and Resistance

Today’s blog explores all the ways we resist our Soul – the unique way we are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose, connection and fulfillment.  Resistance includes all the inner and seemingly exterior obstacles the keep us from our spiritual and creative path and the path of our greatness…and it sometimes feels like nothing short of war.


Game On!

There is a reason Joseph Campbell calls the journey to the Soul, the hero’s journey, and it is a good reasonIn my experience, it is only the brave and truly courageous who have the moxie to endure, persist and survive the spiritual journey toward embracing and living SOUL.  Soul is the unique way we are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose and connection in our lives.  The purpose of Soul is to help us find fulfillment and in turn to help others find the same, thereby making our world a more peaceful, loving and harmonious place.  The challenge is that in the journey toward Soul, we will encounter every possible reason, excuse, obstacle, fear, insecurity, worry, criticism for NOT following this path that the journey toward Soul sometimes feels like nothing short of war.

The War of Art

Author, Steven Pressfield, acknowledges the truth of the battle toward Soul in the title of his book, The War of Art.  The journey to Soul often feels like a battle as we come face to face with every inner and seemingly outer obstacle to our enjoyment of our unique creative gift, drive and passion.  First of all, we create every excuse for NOT tending to our Soul/art/gifts/passions including, “I don’t have enough time, money, education, support, resources, space, room, blah blah blah.”  We also create all kinds of ridiculous stories in our heads like, “I’ll tend to my art when my husband, children, mother, father, sisters, the world, can fend for themselves and no longer need my attention and care,” or “I’m too old/young, it’s too late, I don’t have the right teachers, blah blah blah.”  Or the most damaging and potentially threatening words to our art, “What if no one likes it?????”   While we are entertaining all the voices in our head that tell us all the reasons we can’t or should not pursue our creative and spiritual dreams, somehow the universe gets in on the conversation and begins throwing challenges in our path.  Let me tell you a little story to give you an idea of how this works….

The subtlety of resistance

Last night, I was given an opportunity to step into my Soul by facilitating my first workshop on creativity.  The workshop was planned, I knew what and how I was going to present.  As such, I had nothing to do during the day but the normal everyday things of bathing, cooking, cleaning, feeding my children, etc.  Well, everything that could possibly go wrong with the simple everyday things of life did, and in the process, every one of my deepest insecurities and worries were triggered….all completely unrelated to this workshop (or so it would seem).  The end result was me in a fit of rage, losing my temper with my kids and melting down in a flood of tears at the dining room table.

Get behind me Satan!

Author, Julie Tallard Johnson, in her book, Wheel of Initiation, refers to this seemingly exterior form of resistance as The Trickster and relates the trickster to the coyote (as an animal totem).  Joseph Campbell refers to this exterior obstacle as the supernatural helper.  In the Judeo-Christian tradition, this adversary is known as Satan.  (Read more about the exterior obstacle click HERE.)  This exterior form of resistance is made up of all the things that seem to be outside of us that give us the opportunity to question, doubt, even cease the journey toward Soul.  As my day seemed to be going to hell, I was confronted with every fear, worry, doubt about the path of Soul that I had been taking.  As the sh..t was hitting the fan, I wondered, “should I throw it all in and get a ‘real’ job?”  I doubted the current course of my path and wondered if I was good enough, capable enough or if I was once again barking up the wrong tree.”  (for the record….I don’t really believe there is a wrong tree, but the trickster makes us think in that way!)  The trickster showed up and I was caught up in the whirlwind of chaos it seeks to create.

The Irony of Resistance

The irony in all of this drama is that I didn’t realize it was the trickster of resistance until after the workshop – hindsight really is 20/20.  After the meltdown at the kitchen table, I packed my kids off for their dad’s, headed off toward the workshop and facilitated one of the most well-attended and successful single evening workshops of my career.  In attendance was an enthusiastic and open group of women, excited to awaken their latent creativity and open the door to their Soul which they did through poetry, prose and proclamation.  It was an exciting and rewarding evening which also happened to benefit the local shelter for victims of domestic abuse.  As Julie Tallard Johnsons reminds in The Wheel of Initiation, when the trickster shows up, it is there because something really amazing is about to happen.  Last night was the perfect example of this truth and another reminder of the battle of arriving at Soul and the courage and tenacity needed for staying on the path.

How does resistance show up in your life?

How do you deal with resistance when it appears?

How do you move through the challenges of resistance?

SOUL is the unique way you are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose and connection. Soul, when engaged, leaves you feeling fulfilled, content and whole.  My mission is to help you BIRTH YOUR SOUL. To schedule one-on-one mentoring, classes, workshops or retreats, call Lauri Ann Lumby at (920) 230-1313 or email