Posted in Reiki, Spiritual Direction

Grand Re-Opening

I am excited to announce that I am completely moved into my new office and will begin taking clients for Spiritual Counseling and Reiki on Monday, June 15, 2020!









Spiritual Counseling supports you in:

  • Processing Grief
  • Managing symptoms of anxiety, depression, trauma
  • Releasing symptoms of past trauma
  • Moving through life-transitions (job changes, divorce, moves, children, empty-nest)
  • Processing world changes
  • Finding meaning and purpose in your life
  • Fulfilling your dreams



  • Supports deep relaxation
  • Helps to calm anxiety and worry
  • Brings peace to the body, mind and spirit
  • Calms and balances the mind
  • Restores balance and harmony to the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual body
  • Supports the release of painful emotions and past trauma
  • Supports physical, emotional and mental wellbeing
  • Supports the body’s ability to heal itself


The following appointment times will be available:


Mondays and Tuesdays

3:00 pm, 4:30 pm, 6:00 pm



9:00 am, 10:30 am, noon


All appointments will run 60-90 minutes depending on your needs.


Appointment Fees:  Pay what you are able between $90.00 and $120.00.  Reduced fees are available for those suffering financial hardship.


Email or call (920) 230-1313 to schedule your appointment.


My office is located at 711 Oregon St.  Oshkosh, WI  inside Essentials for Wellness and in the same building as Inner Sun Yoga Studio.

***During the Covid-19 event, I will provide you with the option of mask or no mask.  I am happy to wear a mask if you like.  I will leave this to your own discretion and discernment.  Hand sanitizer will also be made available.  



NOTE:  Phone, Skype and ZOOM sessions are also available.  Please email for availability.



Lauri Ann Lumby, OM, OPM, MATS has her master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology, is a trained Spiritual Director, Reiki Master, and ordained interfaith minister.  She has been providing both Spiritual Counseling and Reiki since 2001 and has supported hundreds of women and men in their journey to wholeness.  Lauri is also a highly regarded educator and published author.  She developed her own protocol, Authentic Freedom™ to support people in identifying and healing the fears that prevent them from experiencing peace and fulfillment in their lives. She incorporates this protocol in everything that she does.

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Spiritual Direction, Spiritual Formation

Authentic Freedom Academy – Our History

The seeds of Authentic Freedom Academy took root when its founder, Lauri Ann Lumby, OM, MATS, was invited to facilitate a program in Christian initiation.  Through this opportunity, Lauri realized that the true hunger of every human being is not for intellectual (or in that case, religious) knowledge or belonging, but to know themselves.  At the same time, she discovered the universal process through which self-knowledge is obtained – mindfulness-based practices and creative expression.  This process, Lumby learned, is then further enhanced under the guidance of a trained and experienced guide – what some might call a Spiritual Director, Teacher, Rabbi, Guru, Life-Coach, Counselor or Mentor.


For twenty years, Lauri has put these tools to the test through curriculum development, teaching and facilitating classes, workshops and retreats.  Additionally, she has served as a Spiritual Director for hundreds of men and women, supporting them in their journey of self-discovery toward its ultimate goal of self-actualization.


During the course of these twenty-years, Lumby has had the privilege of meeting and working with a host of men and women who have learned similar truths and who have put their own gifts to work in similar ways.  Authentic Freedom Academy is the collective effort of these women and men that Lauri has come to know and love and for whom she has great respect in their vocational calling to provide transformational education and empowerment to a waking and hungry world.


You can learn more about Authentic Freedom Academy by contacting our Director, Lauri Ann Lumby at (920) 230-1313 or emailing

Posted in Spiritual Direction, Spiritual Practices, Truth

The Meaning and Purpose of Life

Yesterday, while working with a client, I heard the following words fly out of my mouth:

The goal of our spiritual journey is to believe what we’ve known all along.

Who knew?  While I had not previously thought this thought, as I heard these words come out of my mouth, I knew them to be true. And my client concurred.  The truth of who we are and who we are called to be already lives within us and is just waiting for us to be quiet enough to listen for it, hear it, and most importantly, believe it.  It is only in believing the truth that speaks softly (and sometimes loudly) that we can allow our truth to come into reality and to be fully realized in our life.  Each of us is uniquely gifted to find meaning, purpose and fulfillment in our lives and the truth of this gift lives within us waiting to be known.

As a spiritual director, my job is to help my clients:

1) Learn how to take time to listen for the voice of their truth.

2) Learn effective tools for hearing that truth.

3) Help them believe in that truth.

4) Provide them with the tools and support needed to be empowered in that truth.

What is the truth that you have known all along?

Lauri Ann LumbyLauri Ann Lumby is a professional spiritual director trained in the Ignatian tradition.  For support in listening, hearing, believing and living the truths that you have known all along, call (920) 230-1313 or email .

Posted in Midlife Journey, Relationships

Midlife and Dark Night of the Relationship – Part 3

Part 3 of a series on the Dark Night of the Relationship, what it looks like, why it often shows up during midlife, and some resources to support you in moving through this critical stage of your intimate relationship.  Read Part 2 HERE   and Part 1 HERE.  Today I will share my own experience of the Dark Night.

dark night of the relationship

Causes of the Dark Night

To begin, I want to warn the reader that the Dark Night of the Relationship does not always end in a happier, healthier, reconciled relationship.  For many who identify this stage in their relationship, seek help and do the difficult work, the end result (and the hoped for result) may be a healthier, happier, loving, and mutually supportive relationship – renegotiated to meet the newly identified and claimed needs of both parties.  For those who do not identify this stage and do not seek support, the end result will either be divorce or silent misery.  For others who identify this stage and seek help and support, the most life-giving thing for all involved may be a termination of the relationship, this proved to be the case for me.

How we got there

I want to preface this sharing by saying there are things about my marriage that I will not share here.  I will also not throw my ex under the bus by presuming to know his side of the story.  As such, I can only speak from my own perspective and out of my own particular viewpoint.  That being said, hindsight is 20/20.  I can look back now, through the eyes of wisdom and experience and identify two primary issues that, from the beginning, doomed the outcome of our marriage.

1) I believe that both myself and my (now ex) husband were looking for someone to complete us.  As I mention in Part 1 of this series – relationships are doomed when established on this foundation.  For us, a clear pattern of co-dependency was established and when I began to seek help for these behaviors and began to retrieve the strands of my co-dependent behaviors, the shaky foundation upon which our marriage was built began to collapse.

2) We had nothing in common.  Yes, we shared a few similar core values and have similar philosophies of parenting (which we still do together quite well), but our day to day interests and passions could not have been more different.    Over time, and with some work and parenting decisions that were made, we ended up living two completely separate lives.  There was nothing shared, other than our children, to tie us to each other.  Further complicating this was the fact that we were so incompatible in certain areas that this tended to overshadow any connections that might have been able to be established.

Naming my part

With the co-dependency issues and lack of common interests, the foundation of our marriage was already on shaky ground.  Compounding this were the following issues that I brought into the marriage that exerted their influence, thereby undermining the potential success of our marriage (Of course, I was not alone in contributing to the end of our marriage, but I can only take responsibility for my part.):

  • Unhealed wounds from childhood
  • Unresolved issues of co-dependency
  • Not knowing how to name and claim my needs, set healthy boundaries
  • Inadequate tools for managing grief, anger, disappointment, loss, needs not being met
  • Inadequate tools for managing anxiety, stress, fear, loneliness
  • Issues of low self-esteem

Seeking Support

When the bottom began to fall out on a relationship that didn’t have much of a bottom to begin with, I sought help.  Through 10 years of therapy, spiritual direction and intense personal development, the final outcome was arrived at.  The horse that was our marriage was dead (and I accept my part in this death) and there was truly no way of renegotiating a relationship that could be healthy, let alone mutually loving and supportive, so we decided that divorce would be the most life-giving decision for both of us, and our children.

Divorce Sucks!

Yes, divorce sucks, and the journey has not been an easy one.  In fact, I do not wish divorce on anyone.  But, what I can say is that after three years of moving through this process – from decision to now, I am the happiest I’ve ever been in my life.  Through on-going support and personal work, I feel more content, more whole, more confident in naming and claiming my needs, setting healthy boundaries, etc.  I have terrific tools for dealing with loss, disappointment, anxiety, sadness, fear and feelings of loneliness.  I know who I am and I know what I want.  And, I honestly believe our children are happier and healthier.  Yes they (we) grieved, and things aren’t always easy, but our children will never doubt that they are loved and cared for and that they will be supported in getting their needs met.

Dark Night Work

The moral of the story is that Dark Night work requires us to identify and transform the behaviors, attitudes, unhealed wounds that we brought into the relationship so that we are made whole and complete.  Only then can we meet at the negotiating table with our significant other (who has presumably also done their work) and determine the future course of the relationship.  For those who are able to negotiate their differences, find common ground and a shared desire to be together, the end result is a relationship better than what you ever could have imagined for yourself.  For those who choose to renegotiate through divorce, the promise is a healthier and happier self and tools through which they might be able to find mutual love, support and interdependence with another.  For those who don’t do the work, the outcome is continued unhappiness and pain.

Lauri Lumby is working with Ted Balser to bring Dark Night of the Relationship support to couples.  To learn more call Lauri at (920) 230-1313 or email

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Discernment, Spiritual Direction, Spiritual Formation

What is Spiritual Formation?


Lauri Ann Lumby sharing and enjoying the fruits of her own spiritual formation

What is Spiritual Formation?

Spiritual Formation is the process through which we come to uncover the answer to the following questions:

  • Who Am I?
  • What is my Source and where do I obtain Inner Guidance and Peace?
  • What are my unique gifts and how am I called to share these gifts for my own fulfillment and for the betterment of the human condition?

Spiritual Formation might also be understood as the process through which we find:

Meaning, Purpose and Connection in our lives.

A formal process of spiritual formation gives us the tools to discern the answers to these questions in an unconditionally supportive environment, free from judgment.  While we may find support for spiritual formation within some of our religious traditions, the inner longing which drives this search to know ourselves, our origin, our gifts and how we are called to use them, is universal and therefore independent of doctrine or belief.

Lauri Ann Lumby and Spiritual Formation

For over twenty years, I have provided spiritual formation for adults.  I have journeyed with hundreds of men and women in their search for meaning, purpose and connection and have witnessed the fruits of this search as clients and students have come to discover, embrace and live out their own unique giftedness.  In uncovering and living these gifts, they have found fulfillment, peace and joy.  I facilitate this journey of spiritual formation through:

  • Spiritual Direction and Spiritual Counseling
  • Creative Mentoring
  • Classes
  • Workshops
  • Retreats

To learn more about spiritual formation and how it may benefit you, please call me at (920) 230-1313 or email


Posted in Spiritual Direction

Our Greatest Desire and Deepest Fear

Today’s blog explores the greatest desire of human beings, which is at the same time our deepest fear. 

My looking ripens things and they come toward me, to meet and be met.

– Rilke

Our Greatest Desire and our Deepest Fear

The deepest desire of the human heart is TO BE KNOWN….to be seen for who we are, to be understood, honored and accepted.  This is also our greatest fear….because if we are known…..truly known…then others will not only see how amazing we are, they will also see our fears, our vulnerabilities, the parts of ourselves that we reject and shun.  But, perhaps worse than our perceived human frailties, if we are truly known, especially for our amazing giftedness, then someone (ps that someone might be ourselves) might expect us to live up to that greatness…we might have to show up to our gifts, our call and our purpose.  As Marianne Williamson once said, the thought of this terrifies us:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”

It is for this reason that deep, personal work such as Spiritual Direction, requires an enormous amount of courage.  Working with a Spiritual Director (by whatever name they call themselves) places us in the vulnerable position of being seen and of having someone hold us accountable for what is seen – both our greatness and the parts of ourselves we might prefer to sweep under the rug.

You Can Run But You Can’t Hide

I have seen this time and time again with clients, family and friends.  Because of the gifts I have been given, I can’t help but see the truth beyond the words and for some strange reason, the people around me can’t help but be awakened to the deeper truths about themselves.  Unfortunately, this revelation doesn’t always go well.  Some are not ready to face, acknowledge, accept, explore, cultivate or embrace their deepest truths.  So to those people, I sometimes become the enemy….for no particular reason except for the discomfort they feel within themselves as the truth within them struggles to find its way out…and a discomfort they are unwilling or unable to acknowledge.  They just know that when they are around me (or read something I’ve written or hear something I say that strikes an unresolved fear, hurt, disappointment in them), they feel badly, so they either lash out or run…or both.  I have come to sense these departures and to accept them as a matter of Divine timing.  One thing I do know, however, is that you can run, but you can’t hide.  Our truth will HOUND us until we acknowledge it, learn to accept it and embrace it.  However, for some, the fear of the unknown world to which their truth might lead, loses out to what is comfortable, predictable and familiar.  Having walked toward my truth through the hellfires of my own fears, I can’t fault anyone for choosing the perceived surety of familiar.

Relief in Being Known

For others, the revelation of their truth provides a sustaining moment of profound relief and empowerment.  The pressure of holding back the part of ourself that seeks to be known in the world, is like holding back a volcano.  The pressure keeps building until we feel like we are going to explode.  Sometimes this pressure is only known by our inner feelings of discontent, anxiousness, depression and despair.  When someone is able to recognize our truth and does so with honor, the pressure is relieved and we are freed to be the person God made us to be.  The revelation of this truth is exhilarating, motivating, liberating and empowering.  We are pushed forward, knowing that someone else knows our truth, loves us for it and supports us in our efforts toward living that truth.

lauriwebshot1The Purpose of Spiritual Direction

It is this unconditional love, honor and support that is the purpose of Spiritual Direction.  A good Spiritual Director will hold us in our fear, support us in moving toward our truth, challenge us to name, claim and cultivate our truth, and will hold us accountable not only to that truth, but also to the vulnerabilities that surface in the face of that truth.  Most importantly, a good Spiritual Director does all these things gently, tenderly and with great compassion.  The job of a Spiritual Director is to create a safe place in which you can be known.

Lauri Lumby is a Professional Spiritual Director in the Ignatian Tradition.  Lauri is available for Spiritual Direction in person, over the phone and via Skype.  To contact Lauri call (920) 230-1313 or email

Posted in About Lauri, Authentic Freedom, Spiritual Direction

Spiritual Direction – Lauri Style Part III

When people ask me what I do for a living, I often wonder how to respond.  As my friend Derek says, “It’s……just…..Lauri.  She’s awesome and you have to try her classes and services.”  Thank you Derek, and as we have both observed, this is usually not enough to get people to make the call or show up for the class.  When my Board of Director’s and I came up with my mission statement: Through compassionate listening and attentive presence, I partner with those longing to find meaning, purpose and connectedness in their lives, this at least explains the benefits that you receive from working with me and how I do it…..but still, what the heck is Spiritual Direction and why am I person you might want to work with?

Windows to the Soul by Catherine Case
Windows to the Soul by Catherine Case

Yesterday, I revealed a little about the “what.”  Today, let’s talk about why me? And just because I sometimes like to have fun….I’m putting it into the language of Spiritual Gifts.

Why Working with ME (Lauri Lumby) differs from other forms of counseling, therapy, recovery work, spiritual direction:

  • Speaking in Tongues: While my background is Roman Catholic and my guru is Jesus, I speak AND understand all forms of religous, spiritual and even non-religious language.  More importantly, I speak YOUR language.   If you are Buddist, we’ll speak in that tongue.  If you are Christian, we’ll speak that language.  Athiest…yep, I can speak that one too.  Bottom line:  differences in religious beliefs and practices are NOT an obstacle to the work we will accomplish together.
  • Discernment of Spirits: I can identify in you when something is coming from your truest self.  More importantly, I can see, feel and hear the fearful, anxious, worried, stunted parts of you.  The fear in you waves like a red banner that I see and help you to identify so that it no longer has power over you.
  • Prophecy: Prophecy is the ability to hear, see and evaluate the sign of the times.  In one-on-one work, it is the ability to HEAR, SEE, and PERCEIVE, the truth beyond the words.  You say one thing….but your heart wants, desires, reveals, something else.  My job is to be attentive to this and help you to see it too.  And trust me, I CAN see it.  😉
  • Teaching: It has been said that more than anything, I am a teacher.  A teacher’s job is to INFORM, SUPPORT, UPLIFT and most importantly…..TO EMPOWER you to be your most authentic and most fulfilled self.   Effective teachers also hold us accountable.  I will let you know when your ego is in the way, when you are clinging to your need to be right or harboring resentment against yourself or another.  I will also let you know when you need to grieve a loss instead of wallowing in the guilt over your depression or sorrow. And finally, I will encourage you to BE GOOD, GENTLE, TENDER and KIND toward yourself. And, I will give you the tools to help you do all of these things.
  • Healing: The work we will do together is HEALING.  I give you the tools you need to heal your unhealed losses, hurts, disappointments, wounds and more importantly, the tools to help you MOVE THROUGH your fears so that you can live a life that is joyful, happy and free.

To schedule your session, call Lauri at (920) 230-1313 or email Lauri is available for appointments over the phone, via Skype and in person. 

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Spiritual Direction

Spiritual Direction Lauri Style Part II

Are You:

  • Feeling Restless, Impatient, Unfulfilled?
  • Grieving  a loss (death, diagnosis, divorce, job change, unemployment, empty-nest)?
  • Facing a life transition?
  • Longing for connection or healthy intimacy?
  • Suffering anxiety, depression, panic, worry?
  • Searching for answers?
  • Seeking balance?
  • Learning to name and claim your needs?
  • Recovering from abuse, addictions, loss?
  • Yearning for clarity?
  • Healing from childhood wounds?
  • Desiring to know the Source of peace?
Lauri and her brother, Patrick
Lauri and her brother, Patrick

Lauri Lumby is a professional Spiritual Director in the Ignatian tradition, Lay Minister and  Reiki Master Practitioner.Lauri has developed, Authentic Freedom, an approach to Spiritual Direction that goes beyond traditional counseling, therapy or recovery work, supporting you in identifying and transcending the deeper fears that are the source of your  compulsive behaviors and unhealed wounds.

Through compassionate listening and attentive presence, Lauri supports you in enjoying a fulfilling life of contentment, love and joy.

Lauri is available for appointments in person, over the phone and via Skype. You can reach Lauri at (920) 230-1313 or

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Discernment, Spiritual Direction, Spiritual Practices

Longing for Purpose and Direction

Each of us long for meaning, purpose, direction and connectedness in our lives.  Today’s blog continues to explore how Authentic Freedom Ministries serves to help you find the fulfillment of this longing, specifically as it relates to your search for purpose and direction. Call or email Lauri today if you are interested in setting up a one-on-one session.  (920) 230-1313

Uniquely Gifted

Each and every one of us has been uniquely gifted to reveal and to be God’s love in the world in service to God and for the betterment of humanity.  And…..each of us are called to be this love through our own unique set of life experiences, gifts, talents, passions and charisms.

To learn more about this truth along with effective tools for embracing this truth and uncovering your own gifts, call Lauri for a private session  (920) 230-1313 or email lauri@yourspiritualtruth.comOr…..purchase my book. 

The Challenge

While we may intellectually agree with the possibility that we are each uniquely gifted and somehow participating in God’s plan for a better earth, we don’t really believe it.  Or, we absolutely DO NOT and CANNOT even consider the possibility that we have anything to contribute to this world.  Instead, we feel worthless, depressed, insignificant, undeserving of the joy one experiences in naming, claiming, cultivating and generously sharing our gifts.  This is where Spiritual Direction and Spiritual Practice come in.

If you believe that you are unworthy, undeserving, insignificant and have nothing to contribute, call Lauri TODAY for a private session  (920) 230-1313 or email lauri@yourspiritualtruth.comOr…..purchase my book.   

Spiritual Direction, Discernment, Spiritual Practice (not necessarily in that order!)

Discernment is the process through which we discover our PURPOSE and the DIRECTION to, into and through that purpose. Through discernment, we are able to distinguish the true, authentic, expansive and loving voice of God vs. the fearful, constricting, imprisoning, false voice of the ego.  It is through our Spiritual Practice (meditation, contemplation, prayer, movement, creative endeavors, etc.) that we are able to be open to listening and hearing the voice of God in our lives.  Spiritual Direction brings it all together.  Because we are often too emotionally invested, too afraid, too resistant to the voice of God within us, we need an outside, objective party who can help us recognize the truth in our words or the truth beyond our words.  A good Spiritual Director, through compassionate listening and attentive presence provides a safe place in which your deepest, most authentic truths can find their way to the surface and into your life and will be able to help you to move through the fears and resistance that naturally surface when we and our truth come face to face.

For help identifying your purpose and life direction,  call Lauri for a private session  (920) 230-1313 or email

Not For the Faint Of Heart

A note of caution:  This journey toward purpose and direction are NOT for the faint of heart.  As Gloria Steinem says, “The truth will set you free, but first it will kick your ass!”  Oh man is that true!  When we discover our PURPOSE and the DIRECTION through which we are called to live that out, we are required to CHANGE.  And there is nothing we fear more than change.  Once we identify our truth and how we are called to live it……a flood of fears, resistance, excuses all show up.  It is for this reason that I say I PARTNER with you because I can’t do this for you…..but I will do it WITH you.  For every fear, there is a spiritual practice that helps us to move through that fear.  For every resistance, there is a mantra to help us be courageous in the face of change.  For every excuse, there is a Spiritual Director kicking you in the butt saying, “That sounds like an excuse.  Get off your butt and MOVE through that fear!”  While the journey to our purpose can be hellish, the invitation is to JUST KEEP WALKING and a compassionate and loving Spiritual Director will help you to do just that!

If you are looking for the support to MOVE through the fears that are blocking your way to your PURPOSE, call Lauri for a private session  (920) 230-1313 or email

Now for a Few Examples

I want to close today’s blog with examples of some of the DIRECTION and PURPOSE questions that have surfaced with clients and the answers that we moved through together toward a life of greater contentment and joy for the client:

Q:  Why can I never find happiness in these job(s)

A:  I am called to start my own business in the field of my expertise.

Q:  Why am I always being rejected?

A:  I have seen the world through the lens of rejection and have now embraced the lens of love and now know that no one has the power to reject me.

Q: Why can I never find fulfillment with a woman?

A:  In my heart, I really love men.

Q:  Why am I restless in this job?

A:  I am called to find a job that is reflective of my gifts.

Q:  Why am I always feeling depressed?

A:  I am in an emotionally abusive relationship and need to get out.

Q:  Why am I having panic attacks?

A:  My inner voice is trying really hard to get my attention.  There is a truth I need to recognize in my life that I have been ignoring.

Q:  Why am I always getting eye infections?

A:  There is a truth I am supposed to see that I have been ignoring.

To learn more about yourtruth along with effective tools for embracing this truth and uncovering your own gifts, call Lauri for a private session  (920) 230-1313 or email lauri@yourspiritualtruth.comOr…..purchase my book.   

Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries