Posted in New Kids, New World

Our Children are the Change We’ve been Waiting for.

but first they need our help….

Last week I held the first gathering of magical children. We met in my living room with their parents present; and we discussed all the things that brought these children here:

  • Feelings of not fitting in.
  • Sensitivity to this world (food, spells, lights, sounds, violence, etc.)
  • Strange spiritual experiences. (not strange to me, but strange to the typical human)
  • Empathy (the ability to feel and sense other people’s feelings).
  • A desire to help people around them and the world.
  • A deep feeling as if something is very wrong – very wrong with the world and many of the people living in it.
  • A profound sense that they are here for a reason and a purpose, but not finding any support in this culture for fulfilling this mission.
  • Not finding support in the current educational system (falling through the cracks).
  • And more.

My heart is with these kids because I raised two just like them and have been a source of support and guidance for many others. These are the young people who are here to build the new world after the current world is finished with its collapse.  Actually, they are not waiting until it is done; they are building the new world right this moment as we speak (and watch and hope and dream).

These are the kids who came into this world expecting it to be the world they already know in the deepest part of their Soul, only to be shocked and disappointed by the violence and separation that prevail upon this earth. This is NOT what these kids signed up for…..but it is.  Not because they were meant to be disappointed, but because they came here to build the world they already know in their hearts, and they need the special gifts and sensitivities that they possess to do the work they came here to do.  In the meantime, however, they need to be affirmed, validated and supported in naming, claiming, nurturing and cultivating these gifts so they can use them to build the new world.  And it is our job to help them.

Raising Magical Children

As one who has successfully raised (and continue to support the growth and development of) two of these magical children, I can attest that the work of raising these children begins with us. If we were gifted with a magical child or two, it is because we are magic ourselves.  But the question is, do we know our magic and are we using it?  For many, the answer sadly, is no.  We do not live in a culture that recognizes or supports us in the identification or development of these gifts.  Instead, we are told to comply with the societal norms and tribal rules that govern our patriarchal and capitalistic culture.  In order to own our magic, we have to break free.  We have to pierce through the veil of societal conditioning that tells us only that which is objectively measurable is real, that intuition and empathy are just our imagination, and that there is no communication with other worlds (for example).  My experience has shown me otherwise.

Helping our special children begins by helping ourselves. We must come to know who we are – REALLY – our gifts and talents, our personality and temperament, and all the parts of ourselves we have rejected or hidden away out of fear that to our world they would not be acceptable.  Then we have to pierce through the societal conditioning that has hindered us from being our true, magnificent and magical selves.

Then, while we are doing this work for ourselves, we can support our children in doing the same. This doesn’t mean we need to rescue them from or remove them from the existing culture (though for some this might be the answer).  I raised my children right here in the middle of small-town America within the traditional public education system.  Fortunately for my son (who only tolerates school) there was an alternative option in high school which allowed him to capitalize on his predominantly kinesthetic learning style.  Now they both attend a state university which also follows an outmoded patriarchal model.  With my help they have successfully navigated the dying institutions – taking from them that which serves and leaving behind the rest.

Knowing Ourselves/Knowing Our Children

Supporting our own self-knowledge helps us in knowing our children. When we know ourselves, we can identify and accept the unique gifts (and challenges) our children possess.  The Enneagram, for example, is one of the tools of self-knowledge that I have found helpful.  In using the Enneagram I have come to know myself – the lens through which I perceive my life experiences and the challenges and gifts inherent within this lens.  With knowledge of the Enneagram, I am also able to understand other people and their unique temperaments.  My daughter, for example is a Type 9 on the Enneagram.  This makes her devoted, loyal, steadfast and persistent.  But it also makes her slow to change.  I understand this about her and help support her through new things until she is comfortable doing it on her own. I also try to never spring something new on her out of sensitivity to her needs.  My son is the opposite.  As a Type 7, he is easily bored.  He loves new things, loves to be active and loves a challenge.  With this in mind, I make sure he has lots of activities and I honor his need to be engaged.  With the Myers-Briggs, I have come to understand that my daughter is an introvert like I am, and my son an extrovert.  This helps me to support them in getting their energy needs met (introversion vs. extroversion is all about how we get our energy).

When we know our children, we are able to support them in knowing themselves – their gifts, their talents along with the shadow. In doing this, we are able to love them without condition, accepting them for who they are instead of trying to make them fit into some pre-determined societal mold. THIS more than anything is what our children need – to be seen and accepted for who they are and to be empowered in their gifts.

Authentic Freedom Academy knows that our children are here to build the new world and they need our help! Find support for yourself in raising these children, along with tools through which you can help them along the way. If you are one of these magical children ( or young adults), you might like these tools yourself! 

 

 

 

Posted in Inspiration

The Wisdom of Mary Poppins

Exploring the profound wisdom of Mary Poppins – lessons in parenting, social justice, compassion, play, spiritual beliefs, mystery and magic.  Mary Poppins continues to inform and inspire.


The Walt Disney Movie, Mary Poppins (based on the children’s book series by P.L. Travers) is my FAVORITE FAVORITE FAVORITE FAVORITE FAVORITE movie.  As a child, I simply found it fun with all the great music and a fantastical story about magic, mystery and wonder.  As an adult, I can still call this my all-time favorite movie and through older (and hopefully wiser) eyes, I can appreciate the timeless and ageless wisdom of this amazing tale.  In the movie as well as in the book, there are lessons aplenty about parenting, embracing enjoyment, creativity,  caring for others, surrendering to Divine timing, etc. etc. etc.   Today we will explore the lessons that Mary Poppins invites us to embrace:


1) When you neglect, ignore, forget to spend time with your children….THEY WILL BE NAUGHTY In one of the early scenes in the film, we get to see all the naughty deeds performed by the Banks children against their nanny(s), and learn the history of their bad behavior.  It is their shenanigans that compels their current nanny to leave and places the Banks in the position of having to hire a new nanny – here comes Mary Poppins!

2) When you ask for something from place of sincerity, deep within your heart, directed by your highest self – the universe provides. The Banks children argue with their father about what they want in a nanny and in one of the most poignant songs in the film, express their deepest heart desires of what they want (in a nanny, but even more so, in a parent).  Their father rips up their request and tosses it into the fire considering their requests frivolous and impractical.  Oh….will he be surprised! (HERE’S the link:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ln-cK-qyK38&p=CFBFD9367428D902&playnext=1&index=18 )

3) When you believe in magic and mystery, your needs are provided for in ABUNDANCE – Mary Poppins’ Magic Carpetbag – need I say more?  (PS Shout out to my friend Jen who has one of those amazing bottomless purses!)


4) A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down. – In other words, find the joy in life, grab on to the sweetness, life can be hard and there are things we can embrace to lighten the load, help it taste a little sweeter, ease the burden.

5) Make time for play – In the movie we are invited to join Mary Poppins, Burt, Jane and Michael Banks on a day of playful imagination where chalk drawings come to life and where we can enter into a world of playful fantasy where merry go round horses can fly and race and where penguins dance and sing.  FUN FUN FUN  Imagination !


6) LAUGH LAUGH LAUGH – Remember Mary’s crazy uncle who loved to laugh and when they laughed they found themselves enjoying a tea party in the air?  How fun is that???  Never forget to make time for laughter!

7) Pay attention to those who have less than you and freely and openly share your resources – In a word:  Feed the Birds.  On a trip to their father’s office at the bank, Mary points out to the Banks children a woman who has less than they and yet gives from all that SHE has to those (the birds) who have even less than she.  In this encounter with the Birdwoman, the children learn compassion and generosity and are compelled to seek out ways to exercise this kind of generosity in their own lives.  And if you don’t cry when you hear this song….(I’m just saying) : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XHrRxQVUFN4


8) Money and work to earn money are not the most important things in life. Michael Banks is encouraged (bullied might be a better word) to deposit his money into his father’s bank so that it can make him more money, instead, he runs away to give his money to the Birdwoman.  He learned from Mary Poppins that freely and openly sharing our resources is more rewarding than hoarding and withholding our resources.  He experiences the enjoyment of helping another….and still trusts that all he needs will still be provided for.  (a lesson we can all learn!)

9) Life is full of changes – and we are invited to surrender to them: When the direction of the wind changes, Mary Poppins must depart the Banks’ household for places unknown.  Rather than resisting the change, she unfurls her umbrella (the one with the talking parrot head) and simply lets the wind take her to her next destination.


10) In every death is the promise of new life (and would you go fly a kite already?) – The loss of Mary Poppins could have been a devastating moment for Jane and Michael (and they were sad), but it also created the opportunity for a new life to begin for the Banks family.  Thanks to Mary’s (and Burt’s) help, Jane and Michael’s parents realized the value of spending time as a family, that work and money are not the pathway to happiness and that play can be fulfilling, nurturing and life-giving.  The closing scene – the Banks family at the park flying a kite.


The invitation today is to examine the wisdom of Mary Poppins for the lessons that might be speaking to you and to explore ways in which you can embrace this wisdom in your everyday life.  For in every life we need to make time for laughter, play and imagination, we are invited to seek the sweetness in the struggles of the human experience, freely and openly share our gifts, help others, spend time with our parents and our children, fly kites, sing songs, dance, ride a merry go round, create, trust in abundance, magic, mystery and surrender to the changes of life.  And in the end, we are reminded that in every loss, change, transition, death is the promise of new life.  What is the new life you are being invited to embrace today?????


Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries/Your Spiritual Truth

http://yourspiritualtruth.com

PS If you enjoyed this blog, share it with others or make a donation that will continue to help make this blog possible.  I offer a heartfelt prayer of gratitude for your support.