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Celebrate Christmas with Authentic Freedom Academy!

Authentic Freedom Academy has been called to offer two ways for you to celebrate Christmas with us! 

  • A local Christmas Day celebration in Oshkosh, WI
  • An online service for those out of the area or who are unable to attend in person.

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Christmas Day Service in Oshkosh:

December 25, 2016

10:00 am

Theme: Birthing the Christ Within

Facilitated by Lauri Ann Lumby

Service held at:

Inner Sun Yoga Studio

On the northeast corner of Oregon and 8th (parking and entrance in the back of the building).

Dress casually – jammies permitted!  😉

I will have coffee and tea available, feel free to bring Christmas treats to share for after the service.

Donations welcome!

Online Service:

For those interested in experiencing a Christmas service in the comfort of your own home and at a time convenient to you, check out the online service.  Click on image below to learn more and to register! 

Click HERE to learn more and register. Only $13.00 to attend.
Click HERE to learn more and register. Only $13.00 to attend.

 

Wishing you and your loved ones a blessed Christmas and a very Happy New Year!

 

Love,

Lauri

 

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Empowerment, End of the World Prophecies, world changes

Authentic Freedom Spiritual Community

Building BEING the New World!

Authentic Freedom Spiritual Community

Mondays 6:30 – 8:30 pm

And

Tuesdays 9:00 – 11:00 am

 Choose the day and time that works for you!

Suggested Donation:  $10 – $20

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The world as we have known it is dying. All institutions which were built on the model of fear, power and control are in the midst of collapse:

  • Government
  • Healthcare
  • Education
  • Banking
  • Money
  • Corporations
  • Religion
  • Agriculture
  • Commerce
  • Manufacturing & Production
  • Distribution
  • Police and Military

As these systems are collapsing, something new is in the process of being born. Something rooted in:

  • Unity
  • Love
  • Collaboration
  • Cooperation
  • Equality
  • Tolerance
  • Acceptance
  • Peace
  • In harmony with the planet that seeks to provide for and sustain us and where all separation falls away and we see each other as one – one within ourselves, one with each other and one with all of creation.

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In our hearts, we all want to support a sustainable world, where we are prudent in the use of our resources, stewards of our fragile planet and of one another – where people live in peace knowing all their basic needs are being met and who work together for the good of the all.

But we cannot do this alone. We need community.  We need support.  We need inspiration and the tools to find the guidance from within as to how we are called to use our unique giftedness for the sake of our own fulfillment and in support of the betterment of our world.

The Authentic Freedom Spiritual Community seeks to provide all of the above.

  • Weekly inspiration and guidance.
  • Support for your own inner reflection and discernment.
  • In the company of a like-minded community.
  • Empowerment and support in the discovery, development and empowerment of your gifts.

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Facilitated by: Lauri Ann Lumby, OM, MATS,

Owner and founder of Authentic Freedom Academy, Oshkosh, WI.

(To find our more about Lauri’s personal mission in BEING the New World, read this BLOG!)

 

If you live in the Fox Valley, join us for our weekly gatherings at:

Authentic Freedom Academy

1103 School Ave.

Oshkosh, WI

Suggested Fee: $10 – $20

Call or email Lauri for more information (920) 230-1313 lauri@authenticfreedom.love

If you are not in the Fox Valley and wish to engage in spiritual community, please check out Authentic Freedom Weekly.  Click on the image below to learn more and to register:

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Posted in About Lauri, Authentic Freedom, Authentic Freedom Academy, Discernment, Jesus, Magic, Raised Catholic, self-actualization, Spiritual Formation, Spiritual Practices

My Magic is This……What is Yours?

Each and every one of us is uniquely gifted to be LOVE in the world. When we came into this world, we knew what our unique gifts were, but through societal conditioning (“writers are a dime a dozen,” “you can’t make a living doing that,” “what you think you are seeing or hearing is only your imagination,” “Good Girls don’t do that!” “Cool or straight boys don’t act or sing or dance…”) we learn to forget, hide, or set aside the magic we came into this world to enjoy and to share.  In order to fit in and to go along with societal expectations, we forget our gifts, but at some point, we realize that what society asks of us is not life-giving or is making us either sick or crazy, so we begin to search. We then spend the next several (many) years of our life trying to find our gifts and then overcoming the fears of actually nurturing, cultivating, enjoying and sharing our gifts….or we remain unfulfilled and/or sick.

Each and every one of us LONGS for a life that is meaningful, fulfilling and which gives us a sense of purpose. It is through our gifts (magic) that we are able to experience this life that we long for.  For me, it has been a 51 year journey of knowing, forgetting, exploring, discovering, learning, growing, healing, transforming and then being empowered in my gifts.  The journey never really ends, but at 51 years old, with confidence I can say what my gifts are (explaining how I use them is a whole other matter!).  I think the image below, which came out of a recent class I was facilitating, pretty much sums it up:

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As one dear friend once acknowledged, “Lauri, your gift is hearing the truth beyond the words.” I have also come to understand that this is also true of my vision – I can SEE the truth beyond the illusion.  In the language of spiritual gifts, these abilities fall under the category of “discernment.”  I then use these abilities in my work as a teacher and a counselor – also spiritual gifts.  Knowledge is one of my spiritual gifts (magic) which is further supported by my love of learning.  Contemplation (prayer) is one of my gifts and helps to support me in all that I have mentioned above.  Put all of these gifts together and they further support my magic of being a leader and a visionary, a pastor and a prophet. It is the prophecy part that often gets me into trouble.

Prophets, as I have learned, are not those who predict the future, we are those who are able to “read the sign of the times” – who are able to see where society is going if things remain on their current path. We are then called to SEE and SPEAK the better way – the way of correction, if you will.  We see where reform is needed and we are called to live that reform and share it with other.  The place I have ultimately called to be prophet to….is what we have traditionally called “church.”  Specifically, moving beyond the institutions to Jesus’ original message of LOVE  – reclaiming that message and doing what Jesus originally called us to do – to support each other in becoming self-actualized.  This takes Jesus’ universal message out of the hands of power and privilege and brings it out into the world where ALL can benefit from this LOVE – no matter what one’s personal beliefs might be.

This is what I have come to understand to be my MAGIC. What is yours?

If you are interested in knowing more about your own unique giftedness and what your magic might be, check out my course, What is Your Magic? This course will be starting in Oshkosh on June 21st and the online course is available at 40% off through July 4th.  Learn more HERE. 

Posted in End of the World Prophecies, Inspiration, New Kids, New World, world changes

Our Kids Are Not Alright!

This week, another one of my daughter’s classmates committed suicide. This young woman is the fifth in a graduating class of 200-some students to commit suicide.  Something here is wrong.  Very wrong.

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I want to begin by presenting what is NOT wrong. The problem is not the school(s).  Oshkosh schools are some of the best in the nation and while our governor keeps whittling away at our budget and other resources that support quality education, our schools have risen above the chaos and are providing the best possible education with the few resources that are left.  In addition, Oshkosh North, the school my children attend, offers a wide range of programs and services to help support their diverse population, many of which have been funded through grants and private donations. The community, teachers, staff and administration have advocated for our students beyond what the budgets would normally provide.

As a subparagraph of the problem not being the school – the problem is not bullying, neither is it a lack of support or counseling services for troubled students. The local schools have an extremely stringent anti-bullying policy and all ranges of diversity are not only honored, but advocated for.  Every school has counselors and social workers on staff who are there to support and advocate on students’ behalf.  The problem is not lack of support.

The problem is not a lack of suicide or mental illness awareness or support. While this may have been somewhat the case with the first two suicides, since that time, efforts, resources, advocacy has been RAMPED UP to educate parents, students, and the community on the challenges of mental illness and the signs of a child or adult in distress.  In addition, there are trained professionals in the community who work specifically to educate the public and to support families on suicide and to support families with a child or adult who is at-risk and to support families who have experienced a death due to suicide.

Finally, the problem is not the parents. I know the parents of some of these children and I can tell you, beyond the shadow of a doubt, these parents have done absolutely everything they could for their children.  They loved them.  They did the best they could to keep their children safe.  They got their children help when help was needed.  They got help for themselves when they were at a loss over how to further help their child.

The problem is not the schools, peers, the lack of mental illness awareness, or the parents.

The problem, and the reason our kids are not alright is:       Our world.

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Our world is a mess. Our world is a mess for all of us – and for some of us, it is just too much to bear.  Let’s look at the facts:

  1. For as long as our children have been alive, THE WORLD HAS BEEN AT WAR.

If it’s not a conflict or a war with a name, (Desert Storm, Iraqi, Afghanistan, Israel and Palestine, etc. etc. etc.) it is “the war on terrorism.” And the worst of all the terrorist attacks have been accomplished right here on our own soil by our own U.S. citizens.  The media does not help in this regard by triggering our fears through sensationalism.  As my son said, “Hundreds of people a year are shot in Chicago and no one cares, but as soon as one guy gets shot in Oshkosh, the whole world is in a state of panic.”  (This also points to media and racial bias which is a topic for another blog another day.)

For our children – the world does not feel safe.

  1. In the U.S. success is determined by external measurements like money, status, power and fame. And some of these measurements are literal – how much money you make, how many time you are Tweeted or your Facebook post gets “liked,” if you have your own reality show or not, and do you measure up to the current standards of “beauty.” For those who do not know their true selves and who have no way of knowing themselves except in comparison to others, success feels like an impossible goal – especially when they look at the TRUTH of our economic situation – which brings me to #3
  2. Education does not mean what it used to. In the old days, a high school education was enough to prepare you for a regular job with a decent rate of pay. Then, college became the necessary gateway to a career, a paycheck and economic security. Then, a master’s degree became the gateway, then a PhD. Now….none of this really matters – and our children know this. A college degree guarantees you nothing, or as a friend of mine told her daughter, “Do what you love because there won’t be any jobs for you after college anyway.” Bleak, but true. As much as politicians are touting the economic recovery and that the “recession is over,” this is not the truth.
  3. The world as we know it is dying. Our children know this and they know that they will be the ones who will be creating the new world. For some, this is just too overwhelming a task. Imagine, for a moment, that you are a player in the Hunger Games and the entire world (as you have known it) crumbles at your feet and you are left with the task of building the new world. While the endless possibilities and the excitement of building something new is enticing for some, for others, it is overwhelming and feels impossible and they shut down under the burden of the task.
  4. And finally….this is the whoo whoo part…..our children are empaths. What this means is that not only are they feeling their own anxiety in the face of a world that is a mess, they are feeling EVERYONE ELSE’S anxiety. They feel the anxiety of their parents, their siblings, their classmates, their teachers, and the entire world around them. When there is a terrorist attack on the other side of the world, they feel it – maybe not consciously, but they feel it. When a weather system is moving through that will cause people anxiety, they know it – again, maybe not consciously, but they feel it. For those that don’t understand the gift of empathy and who don’t have tools for managing this gift, the emotions come out sideways – temper tantrums, disproportionate negative behavior, anxiety, depression – and you guessed it, suicide.

Which brings me full-circle. I don’t know what caused that young woman to jump off the bridge into a freezing and raging river to her death.  What I do know is that her death should not be in vain.  Her death should be another wake up call for us as parents, teachers, and other adults.

Our children are not alright!

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Our children need our help. While we cannot change the outside world, there are things we can do to help our children, and in helping them, find help for ourselves in a messy and broken down world:

  1. Lead them to resources to help them manage anxiety. Resources that have been proven to help manage anxiety include: meditation, mindfulness, regular exercise, a healthy diet, adequate and deep sleep, creativity exercises, being in nature, being with others in healthy community interactions.
  2. Support them in knowing their TRUE selves. Self-knowledge increases self-esteem, confidence, and the ability to be ok with our differences in a world of great diversity, and to weather the storm of other people’s judgements.
  3. Help them develop a different set of values. This starts with us. We need to stop valuing ourselves in terms of money, fame, status, power, and physical characteristics. What we are wearing, whose bag we are carrying and what car we are driving DOES NOT MATTER. These external measurements of “success” or “popularity” do not give us happiness. In fact, all they do is create more ANXIETY. If we want our children to be comfortable in a world that will NOT have the resources in which everyone can be a Kardashian, we have to help them find value in the internals – peace, contentment, joy, and fulfillment in knowing and exercising their gifts. We then need to give them tools for finding this inner peace which leads us back to items 1 and 2.
  4. Support them in their dreams. Our children see and know the new world. They see a world that is free from the separation with which we have defined the world. Instead of separation, they see only oneness. They do not comprehend the separation we keep placing between ourselves and others we view as different from us and they definitely do not comprehend the violence that arises out of these perceived separations. Our children do not see race, religion, sexual orientation, or even gender as barriers, they only see this as the miraculous and amazing diversity among human beings and they seek to know more and to honor these differences. Let’s get out of the way and let them do this, shall we!?
  5. Teach them what to do with Empathy.  Empaths are healers and those with this gift (all of our children) possess this gift because they are here to heal our dying world so that a healthier and happy world can emerge. Our children need to know what to do with these feelings and how to stop taking responsibility for everyone else’s pain. Interestingly, this also brings us back to items 1 and 2.

While we cannot change the world, we can change the world in which we are living and the journey starts within. Let us join together to help our children, and in helping our children, helping ourselves so that we can survive in a world in the midst of change and through our children’s dreams, help to support the birth of a new and better world. Then perhaps these children would not have died in vain.

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Authentic Freedom Academy provides empowerment training for those who want to change their world, which starts by changing the world within.

 

Posted in grief

Education in Wisconsin – Budget Cuts, Grief and Anxiety

Today’s blog goes out to all those men and women who are educators in the state of Wisconsin, and specifically to all my friends who are on the faculty and staff at the University of Wisconsin – Oshkosh and the Oshkosh Area School District. All of these talented and hard-working men and women are suffering under the effects of recent legislative decisions, including a $250 million cut to the UW system. (Read the details HERE: http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/answer-sheet/wp/2015/07/13/gov-scott-walker-savages-wisconsin-public-education-in-new-budget/). Many will lose their jobs. Those who are chosen to remain will still have a job, but likely with a lower rate of pay, significantly reduced benefits and an ever-increasing workload. Schools will have to do more with a LOT less and everyone is afraid.

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I’m writing on this topic because I have been a part of several major institutions that have experienced similar traumas and I have seen the effects these kinds of losses have on an institution, most importantly, on its employees. While the administration may be skilled at making the difficult decisions about which programs need to go, where expenses can be reduced and where benefits can be shaved, they typically have no experience in addressing the “soft” issues of grief, anxiety and fear. This was recently confirmed for me when I offered my services as a grief and transitions expert to a local institution and was told (in so many words), “Thanks, we got this!” Based on the conversations I have had with various faculty and staff who related to me the deep grief they are feeling, the chaos that is unfolding, and the fear and anxiety that have now become part of the academic culture; No, you don’t “got this.”  The administration does not “got this” because, as is common in our culture, they have no knowledge of, or experience in dealing with grief or anxiety. Instead, they take the typical attitude of “get over it and move on.” This is NOT a helpful response to grief and anxiety especially when you desire productivity and effectiveness in your employees.

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The analogy I like to use when addressing budget cuts such as those currently facing Wisconsin schools is that these cuts are akin to receiving a cancer diagnosis. For those who will be impacted by these cuts (not likely to be the person in charge), the greatest and unspoken fear is that of death. In this case, that they will be without a job or that the salary for the job they retain will be greatly reduced forcing them into financial hardship. The second fear is that they will not be valued for the work they are doing. When professors have to fundraise for their own programs and research, or do the work of three professors, this greatly devalues their gifts, along with the experience and passion they once brought to the job. When these fears and their resulting grief are not acknowledged and tended to, the anxiety, fear and grief begin to come out sideways. Morale decreases. Apathy sets in. Productivity decreases and company loyalty is all-but eliminated. Soon the institution suffers a mass exodus of its greatest assets – its teaching staff.

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Perhaps this is what the academic institutions want – a mass exodus of their greatest assets so as to make their job easier. If people leave (in droves) of their own volition, the institution doesn’t have to make the difficult decisions of who or what to cut. I must believe, however, that this is not what our academic institutions want. I want to give educational institutions the benefit of the doubt in believing they do want to retain their quality staff and provide a supportive environment, in a difficult time, for those who choose to remain. If, this is true, then educational institutions need to be providing sound grief and transition support for their employees, faculty and staff; including training on how to manage the inherent anxiety of these kinds of transitions.

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Grief support provides effective tools for moving through the faces of grief including: denial, bargaining, depression/apathy, anger and sorrow and provides resources in helping the grieving manage their anxiety. Grief support gives individuals the tools for identifying grief when it shows up and effective means for dealing with that grief. Supporting the grieving process and giving people tools for managing anxiety clears the ground for the new life that is waiting to emerge on the other side of the loss. In the case of education the new life that will emerge will be more creative, efficient and cost-effective ways of providing a quality education for people of all ages. The question facing Wisconsin schools is, do they want to arrive at this new life the hard way by denying and ignoring the grief, anxiety and fear; or through the easier path by tending to their grief?  Only time will tell.

 

Posted in mental illness

Teen Suicide, Depression and Mental Illness – Repeat

NOTE:  This is a repeat of yesterday’s blog.  I felt the topic to be of such urgent nature it bore repeating.  My invitation to the readers is to share this blog.  Share it on your social networks.  Share it with your family and friends.  As many of yesterday’s comments stated, “It takes a village.”  Teenage suicide is largely preventable if we know the signs and symptoms of the underlying mental disorders that can leave a teen feeling as if suicide is their only option and we do something about it.  This is an opportunity to educate and inform, guide and support.  Thank you for your loving and generous assistance!

– Lauri

This Thursday, a second classmate of my fourteen year old daughter, committed suicide.  In the past several months, a third failed in their attempt and a fourth has been making regular threats.  What is happening in our community is happening everywhere.  Suicide is epidemic among our teens and while I am not a therapist or a psychiatrist, I can Google as well as anyone.  According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), “scientific evidence has shown that almost all people who take their own lives have a diagnosable mental or substance abuse disorder, and the majority have more than one disorder.   In other words, the feelings that often lead to suicide are highly treatable.”  ( http://www.nami.org/Content/ContentGroups/Helpline1/Teenage_Suicide.htm  ) 

While bullying, breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, experiencing stress, rejection or loss may be the catalyst, it is most often a diagnosable and treatable mental disorder (depression, anxiety disorders, bi-polar, manic depression, etc.) that is the underlying cause of a teen choosing suicide as the coping mechanism for dealing with life’s challenges.  According to teendepression.org, TWENTY percent of teens will experience depression sometime before adulthood.  That is a STAGGERING statistic.  That is two out of every ten teens.  I believe the statistic is much greater than that.  And this statistic is only for depression, this does not take into consideration schizophrenia, bi-polar disease, anxiety disorders, etc.  It is for this reason that education, diagnosis, treatement and support are so important.  In order to help our teens, we need to be EDUCATED on the symptoms of potential mental illness and to seek proper support and treatment when we suspect there might be an issue.

So, what are we to look for as signs that our teens might be suffering from an undiagnosed mental disorder that could lead to suicide?  This is what the NAMI website says to look for:

Some common symptoms of these disorders include:

  • Extreme personality changes
  • Loss of interest in activities that used to be enjoyable
  • Significant loss or gain in appetite
  • Difficulty falling asleep or wanting to sleep all day
  • Fatigue or loss of energy
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
  • Withdrawal from family and friends
  • Neglect of personal appearance or hygiene
  • Sadness, irritability, or indifference
  • Having trouble concentrating
  • Extreme anxiety or panic
  • Drug or alcohol use or abuse
  • Aggressive, destructive, or defiant behavior
  • Poor school performance
  • Hallucinations or unusual beliefs

If we want to be a source of support for our teens, it is our job to become educated and to communicate.  We cannot hide behind our fear of confrontation or our denial of the situation.  If you suspect your child or one of their friends might be exhibiting signs of depression, anxiety or is making threats of suicide….GET HELP immediately.  If it is a crisis situation and suicide seems imminent, call 911.  It was through this kind of intervention that at least one Oshkosh teen was saved. If it is one of your children’s friends, CALL THEIR PARENTS and let them know your concerns.   For education, counseling referrals and support, contact your local NAMI chapter, a local counseling center or your pastor.    In Oshkosh, you can contact NAMI at 651-1148 or go to their website:  http://www.namioshkosh.org.  Let us be a source of support for our teens so that we can help to prevent these unnecessary deaths!

Lauri Lumby

Merrill Middle School Parent

Authentic Freedom Ministries

Oshkosh, WI

http://yourspiritualtruth.com

Posted in mental illness

Teen Suicide, Depression and Mental Illness

This Thursday, a second classmate of my fourteen year old daughter, committed suicide.  A third failed in their attempt and a fourth has been making regular threats.  What is happening in our community is happening everywhere as I recall the suicide of nine teenages in the Anoka Hennepin school district- a suburban community just outside of Minneapolis.  Suicide is epidemic among our teens and while I am not a therapist or a psychiatrist, I can Google as well as anyone.  According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), “scientific evidence has shown that almost all people who take their own lives have a diagnosable mental or substance abuse disorder, and the majority have more than one disorder.   In other words, the feelings that often lead to suicide are highly treatable.”  ( http://www.nami.org/Content/ContentGroups/Helpline1/Teenage_Suicide.htm  ) 

While bullying, breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, experiencing stress, rejection or loss may be the catalyst, it is most often a diagnosable and treatable mental disorder (depression, anxiety disorders, bi-polar, manic depression, etc.) that is the underlying cause of a teen choosing suicide as the coping mechanism for dealing with life’s challenges.  According to teendepression.org, TWENTY percent of teens will experience depression sometime before adulthood.  That is a STAGGERING statistic.  That is two out of every ten teens.  I believe the statistic is much greater than that.  And this statistic is only for depression, this does not take into consideration schizophrenia, bi-polar disease, anxiety disorders, etc.  It is for this reason that education, diagnosis, treatement and support are so important.  In order to help our teens, we need to be EDUCATED on the symptoms of potential mental illness and to seek proper support and treatment when we suspect there might be an issue.

So, what are we to look for as signs that our teens might be suffering from an undiagnosed mental disorder that could lead to suicide?  This is what the NAMI website says to look for:

Some common symptoms of these disorders include:

  • Extreme personality changes
  • Loss of interest in activities that used to be enjoyable
  • Significant loss or gain in appetite
  • Difficulty falling asleep or wanting to sleep all day
  • Fatigue or loss of energy
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
  • Withdrawal from family and friends
  • Neglect of personal appearance or hygiene
  • Sadness, irritability, or indifference
  • Having trouble concentrating
  • Extreme anxiety or panic
  • Drug or alcohol use or abuse
  • Aggressive, destructive, or defiant behavior
  • Poor school performance
  • Hallucinations or unusual beliefs

If we want to be a source of support for our teens, it is our job to become educated and to communicate.  We cannot hide behind our fear of confrontation or our denial of the situation.  If you suspect your child or one of their friends might be exhibiting signs of depression, anxiety or is making threats of suicide….GET HELP immediately.  If it is a crisis situation and suicide seems imminent, call 911.  It was through this kind of intervention that at least one Oshkosh teen was saved. If it is one of your children’s friends, CALL THEIR PARENTS and let them know your concerns.   For education, counseling referrals and support, contact your local NAMI chapter, a local counseling center or your pastor.    In Oshkosh, you can contact NAMI at 651-1148 or go to their website:  http://www.namioshkosh.org.  Let us be a source of support for our teens so that we can help to prevent these unnecessary deaths!

Lauri Lumby

Merrill Middle School Parent

Authentic Freedom Ministries

Oshkosh, WI

http://yourspiritualtruth.com