Posted in Healing, Surrender, Uncategorized


How do we find space and validation for doing nothing in our pragmatic, hard-working, Western culture?  Is it ok to do nothing?

After a week of perceived (notice I said perceived) setbacks I am feeling a little (actually A LOT) deflated.  The primary perceived setback is that I did not get the house I wanted and have been coveting since I first saw it online some 6 months ago.  🙁   I feel as if the rug has been pulled out from beneath me and that everything I thought I knew about this house and how it was supposed to be mine has been shattered.  I feel a little (no, a lot) like someone reached deep into my being, grabbed whatever inner source it is that gives me movement, breath, life-force, etc. and pulled it right out of my being, and all that remains is a shell of my former self, able to move, but only with an enormous amount of effort on my part.

All I want to do is find a cool, dark cave somewhere, crawl into the deepest, darkest corner of that cave, curl up in the fetal position and suck my thumb.  Sadly, there are no caves in Oshkosh that I am aware of, I gave up sucking my thumb long ago (and paid the price with 5 years of braces!) and there are those two things named Maggie and Wil who stare up at me with their loving eyes and remind me that I can’t just run away.   That being said, I still feel inclined to take to my cave – in whatever form that can take in the midst of the responsibilities of life and motherhood.

But then, as I entertain the idea of taking to my cave, I am confronted by the barrage of Western expectations.  I hear the mantras of our culture, “Pull up your bootstraps, kick the dust from your feet and move forward.”  “You should let this one go and start looking for another house.”  “Back to the drawing board.”  “You can’t do nothing, you need to be a productive member of society and productive members of society don’t do nothing!”  As I listen to the cacophony of “shoulds”, I feel the guilt within rising to take its place as agent and director of my life.  Contemplating the idea of doing nothing triggers that darn voice that shakes its finger at me and tells me what to do.  The good news is that I am mostly aware that the finger wagging, guilt ridden voice is not the voice of the higher self, but the voice of fear, manipulation and intimidation brought forth by the outside “authorities” to whom I am tempted to surrender my truth and my energy.

So, as I contemplate the deep desire within me to retreat to my cave, I am reminded of the profound wisdom that my friend Marcy shared with me so many years ago.  This wisdom that she shared was drawn from the wisdom literature that had been her own saving grace during times of struggle and deep spiritual growth.  The wisdom literature from which she drew this spiritual nugget is “A Course in Miracles.”  And these are the words she shared with me as channelled by Christ to the author of  the course:


Startling words, don’t you think?  YOU NEED DO NOTHING.  A great meditation exercise is to state these words aloud several times, changing which word you put the emphasis on each time you read it:

YOU need do nothing

You NEED do nothing

You need DO nothing

You need do NOTHING

The deepest wisdom of these words is that there is nothing I need to do and nothing I can do BECAUSE there is a Divine Source that is doing what needs to be done….all for my highest good.  AND….in order for me to connect with the plan, course, direction of the Divine…I NEED DO NOTHING!  Here it is….permission to indulge my inner hermit and DO NOTHING.  I don’t need to start looking for another house, I don’t need to take time this weekend to execute my marketing plan, I don’t need to work on the manuscript submissions I have floating out there in the universe.  I CAN DO NOTHING!!!!   So, instead of pushing my square peg into the round hole of Western pragmatism and work, I can indulge my NEED to do nothing.  I can lay on the grass and suck my thumb if I want to.  I can take a nap, or two.  I can be extra indulgent and instead of WORKING, I can watch a movie, read a book, or simply sit and DO NOTHING!

So….nothing is exactly what I intend to do and I intend to do it well!  I welcome the cave and welcome the call of my inner hermit that needs to simply be so that the Divine plan can unfold unfettered by me!

How are you called to embrace “YOU NEED DO NOTHING” in your own life?

What are the obstacles within and seemingly outside yourself that prevent you from doing nothing?

Where can you carve out space in your life to do nothing and feel ok about it?

Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries/YourSpiritualTruth

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Posted in Spiritual Practices

Please Press Pause

Today, I will discuss the necessity of taking time out in our personal and spiritual journey’s to allow the learning, growth, healing and transformation to take root and become fully integrated within us.  It is in this place of rest that the Holy Spirit does her magic! 

The past few weeks have been a whirlwind of activity.  Looking at houses, getting contractor bids, trying to figure out how to finance a home on a stay-at-home mom, Spiritual Director’s salary, etc. etc. etc.  In the midst of all this there seems to be deep spiritual work going on as I am forced to face my own inner demons of fear, impatience, control, compulsive planning, lack of trust, and, did I say fear?  My monkey mind cannot find peace as it restlessly plans our new life and decorates the house I do not yet have and adds up all the costs in my head and tries to look for creative financing options.  Oh yea….and I still have a business to run, a family to tend to and the regular duties of a mother – grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, yardwork, tending to basement floods, etc.  I know where this kind of frenetic activity usually leads me and I tried my darnedest to maintain some semblance of balance.  Alas, I found that the monkey won as I fell under a pile of commitments and collapsed in a pool of overwhelm.  Unable to handle one more piece of information or one more commitment, I did the only think I knew to do in that kind of overwhelm – I took a nap. 

Now, I have to tell you, I am not usually a person who naps.  In fact, I really suck at napping.  I don’t sleep well during a nap and I rarely come out refreshed.  Instead, I’m usually more crabby and feeling more like crap than before the nap.  Not to mention, the perfectionistic worker bee in me tends to feel guilty for napping because if I nap, how will the work get done?  While I still haven’t quite made peace with the nap thing, I have come to recognize that there are times in the day and in our lives when we have to PRESS PAUSE! 

In our work-oriented world, we have forgotten the necessity of doing nothing.  While we are oriented toward doing, it is important to know that we are human BEINGS, not human DOINGS.  In this, we are reminded that it is a crucial part of our human and spiritual development to take time to simply BE.  It is important to take time daily and sometimes for extended periods of time to DO NOTHING.  While we are busy measuring our life by the things we do, what we tend to forget is that the deepest and most profound healing, growth and transformation takes place in the silence.  Whether we are sleeping, meditating, or simply taking a break from our usual busy-ness, it is in this time of PAUSE that the deepest and most profound work takes place in the dark, silent places within.  It is in these places of PAUSE that the Divine works its invisible magic.  It is through this invisible magic that all the things we have observed, thought about, read, prayed about, contemplated, learned, become fully integrated within us.  It is also in these places of PAUSE that the Divine works its miracles.  It is in the PAUSE where the answers to our questions resolve themselves, where the things we need come forth and where direction is given and answers received.  It is also in the place of PAUSE where we are open to hearing and seeing through the eyes of the Divine, rather than through the eyes of our ego or false selves. 

So for myself, I am embracing the Divine reminder to press PAUSE and take a break from all the activities of the monkey mind (ok, at least to the best of my ability).  I’m taking a break from the house questions and starting Wednesday of next week, I am officially ON VACATION!!!!  And, I welcome the Spirit-led naps that provide me with the much needed rest to allow the integration of all the learning, transformation and healing to take place.  I embrace this new spiritual practice that I now call “Slintegration” (sleeping-integration). 

My invitation to you this week is to look at your own life and ask the question, Where do you need to PRESS PAUSE?



Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries