Posted in Lessons, Spiritual Development, Spiritual Formation

The Dangers of Spiritual Bypass

Spiritual bypass can best be described as: “the tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks”(Welwood, J. (2000) [1984]. “Between heaven and earth: principles of inner work”. Toward a psychology of awakening: Buddhism, psychotherapy, and the path of personal and spiritual transformation. Boston: Shambhala Publications. pp. 11–21.).

In spiritual bypass, we avoid, ignore, deny, suppress and repress the challenges, difficulties, disappointments, and suffering that are inherent within the human condition. Spiritual bypass also includes avoidance and denial of the shadow.  The shadow is made up of our unhealed wounds, unacknowledged fears and includes all the aspects of ourselves that we have rejected because we have deemed them unacceptable.

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Spiritual bypass takes many forms, but in essence the action is the same – hoping, believing, acting as if we can simply meditate, pray, chant, or positively affirmation our struggles away. The universal outcome of spiritual bypass is always the same and is best articulated in the Buddhist saying, “What we resist will persist.”  Through spiritual bypass, we are not dealing with, confronting, healing or transforming anything; we are simply sweeping it under the rug. As is true of everything we avoid, deny, ignore, the rug can only hold so much.  The rug will eventually explode and everything we have shoved under it will come out to haunt us.  Even if we are successful in keeping it all under the rug, what we have resisted and ignored will find its way out sideways – usually in non-loving behaviors toward ourselves or others. Often these behaviors become compulsive (ie: addictions), are disproportionate or uncharacteristic of our true nature.

Some very clear examples of spiritual bypass and the negative consequence of this pattern of behavior includes: the clergy sex abuse crisis, narcissistic behaviors, abuse, co-dependency, homophobia, racism, sexism, violence against children, school shootings and other forms of terrorism. What we resist will persist and what we suppress will find its way out whether we want it to or not.  I would further suggest that we are currently living in a world seriously caught up in its own bypass – ignoring, denying, projecting away the darkness and pretending that it is all ok when in fact it is not!  Societal bypass is exhibited in our divisive culture where many refuse to see the truth that is staring them in the face because it makes them feel uncomfortable (triggering their own unacknowledged anxiety or unhealed fears), or who instead of acknowledging their role in the darkness that exists in our society, either ignore it or project the blame onto someone else.  The bottom line is that we cannot meditate, mantra, pray,“beam love,” think good thoughts, repeat positive affirmations, “La La Lightworker” the darkness away. Until we learn to face our darkness (individually and collectively) we are guilty of bypass and the darkness will not only persist, it will become worse.

I will wholeheartedly admit that I am not innocent as it relates to spiritual bypass.   I too have ventured down its path.  I will admit that it felt good there – for awhile – but eventually it kicked my ass! I have since learned that the only way out is through. If we want to be free of our inner fears, unhealed wounds, and perceived imperfections, we have to go deep into them, feel them, wallow in them, and THEN through our spiritual practices, find our way through them.  In this, we are not covering the darkness with the light; neither are we turning the darkness into the light.  Instead, we are finding the light that is already present within the darkness – if only we have the courage to go there.

The work of dealing with our shadow and confronting all that is broken within us is hard! It requires personal accountability, self-knowledge, courageous honesty, humility, vulnerability, and discipline.  It also requires the understanding and belief that in the overall scheme of things, what we are tempted to call “darkness” is in fact our light.  Within the struggle, suffering, struggles, challenges and all the things we want to deny or reject about our human experience is there to serve the light.  It is within these perceived challenges where we find our greatest gifts.

Authentic Freedom is a powerful transformational tool for identifying and moving through our unacknowledged fears and unhealed wounds. Learn more HERE.

Posted in addictions, Authentic Freedom, shame, Spiritual Practices, Superheroes, world changes

Superheroes and our Relationship with Mood-Altering Substances

Superhero Report – July 28, 2014

Our Relationship with Mood-Altering Substances

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It is not something we like to admit, but the New Superheroes have often had trouble with mood-altering substances.  Whether it is caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, marijuana, a whole host of illegal substances or ones that have been prescribed by our doctors for ADD, anxiety, stress, depression, or panic attack, certain ascetic meditation practices, television, video games, the internet – the New Superheroes are likely to have (or had) some sort of habitual relationship with one or several of the above.  There is a sound explanation for the attractiveness of these substances and to the way in which we are almost irresistibly drawn toward them and why they can so easily become addictive.  There are also some simple practices we can engage in which can render these substances unnecessary.  (Note: if you have an addiction, please seek out the support of your local 12-Step recovery program.)

 

The question of why we are drawn to mood-altering substances has a many-layered response:

 

1) We remember our true nature and our original home and we want to go home!

On an unconscious and often conscious level, Superheroes remember what “heaven” feels like. We also know our “true self” is not of this earth, but that we are pure, spiritual beings. Mood-altering substances stimulate the brow and crown chakras and give us an experience of being “home.”

2) We were given a vision of what the earth is supposed to be like, and this is not it.

Until we know how, we often resist this human form and are looking for ways to ESCAPE. The earth we are currently residing in is the not the vision of earth that was planted into our hearts and that we are here to make real. Again, mood-altering substances give us an experience similar to being home, thereby allowing us, at least temporarily, to escape the painful human condition.

3) The false belief that spiritual is better than human.

This is a biggie – especially among certain members of the New Age, Ascension, and Lightworker communities. We are NOT here to be spiritual, we are not here to ascend the limitations of our humanness, we are not here to sprinkle fairies and stardust upon the world singing songs of light and love and perfection, believing that if we think good thoughts all will be well and we will have everything we want. No, we are not here to do these things – not at the expense of being HUMAN anyway. WE ARE HERE TO BE HUMAN. PERIOD. We are ALREADY fully Divine. We came here to experience being human AND to bring our already perfect Divine nature fully into this experience. Rather than Ascension, the journey of the New Superhero (and the rest of the world with us), is actually INCARNATION – transcending the illusions of duality and becoming BOTH fully Divine AND fully Human. We already know the Divine part….let’s figure out how to be human! (ahem….I know a pretty cool dude who lived about 2000 years ago in and around Palestine/Israel who came here to do the same.)

4) Shame

As strangers in a strange land, we often have the experience of not fitting in, of being judged for being weird or strange. People don’t understand us, or the vision we carry in our hearts and the drive to make it real. When we feel rejected by those around us, and sometimes even by those we love, we take it personally. This rejection becomes internalized as shame. Mood-altering substances are a great way to numb the pain of this shame.

5) Loneliness

Just ask Superman, Wonder Woman and Batman, being a Superhero is lonely business. Until they discovered each other and formed the Justice League, these Superheroes were out there on their own trying to make the world a better place and feeling very alone. The same is true of us. We often feel alone in the world with few who understand our unique temperaments, gifts and call. Mood altering substances help us to numb the pain of feeling alone and misunderstood.

Again, if our relationship with mood-altering substances has reached the level of addiction, then it is time to seek help.  12-Step recovery programs are a great way to get support in stopping the use of the substance and Authentic Freedom helps to identify and heal the inner fears/wounds which led us to the compulsive behavior in the first place.  If our relationship to mood-altering substances is less problematic but we still find ourselves drawn to them, the following practices may prove helpful.

 

1)Tonglen 

Tonglen is a Tibetan Buddhist meditation practice which incorporates visualization and breathwork for the intention of transforming painful emotions. For the Superheroes, applying Tonglen to feelings of loneliness and shame can prove effective. Here is the practice in short:

  • Identify the feeling you want to work with (shame, loneliness)
  • Call that feeling up in your body.
  • Identify where in your body you feel it.
  • Breathe INTO that place in your body, while feeling the emotion (shame, loneliness).
  • While breathing into that place, follow your breath with your mind.
  • Now breathe out love, following the love with your breath as you imagine it flowing out of you from the place of the painful emotion.
  • Continue with this practice until you feel something change – perhaps the emotion shifts to something else, maybe you begin to weep.

2) Embodiment

Embodiment is a practice that I discovered while struggling with an overactive and fretful mind.  The intention of this practice is to REMEMBER that we are here to have a HUMAN experience – no matter what we remember about our “heaven home” or our true nature as spiritual beings.  Embodiment allows us to set aside the false belief that spiritual is better than human and gives us the tools for bringing our, already perfect, Divine selves FULLY into the human experience.  When our spirit is fully incarnate in our bodies, we feel safe and secure and are less likely to be tempted to FLEE.  It is not, however, until we INCARNATE that we feel safe in our human selves, so let’s get to incarnating, shall we???

 

  • Close your eyes and draw your awareness deep into your body.
  • See if you can identify the distinction between your spiritual and human self. (Note, the spiritual self, until we are incarnate, tends to hang out in the upper chakras, especially our head, or even somewhere outside and above us.)
  • Conscious of the distinction between your spiritual and human self, bring your consciousness deep into your body.
  • Imagine the Earth beneath you as hands reaching up to hold, support, protect, and nourish you.
  • Feel the sense of safety in resting in this supportive space.
  • Imagine your HUMAN self as supported by the Earth and receiving its nourishment from the Earth.
  • As you begin to feel the safety of humanness, imagine that your human self is like a chalice – an empty vessel waiting for your Spirit to be poured into it.
  • From this place of security, observe as your Spirit willingly pours itself into the safe home of your human chalice. You are not pushing, forcing or pulling it in, it willingly enters in the knowledge that the Human form is safe.
  • Returning to the awareness of your human form, FEEL the sensation of being fully human and safe in this experience, while completely filled by your Divine Spiritual nature. Feel the wholeness and completeness of this experience. As you sit in this feeling of safety, you become aware of all illusions of separation melting away. Your Spirit and your Human natures are now one – no longer separate or distinct from each other, but ONE.

 

Embodiment eliminates the temptation to FLEE because when we INCARNATE, we find that WE ARE HOME and that there is a home for us in the human condition and that with our embodiment, it looks a whole lot like the heaven we remember and the heaven we were sent to make real upon this earth. 🙂  In this experience, we know that HEAVEN IS REAL and it is right here, within and among us.

 

Asked by the Pharisees when the kingdom of God would come,

Jesus said in reply, “The coming of the kingdom of God cannot be observed,

And no one will announce, ‘Look, here it is,’ or ‘ look, there it is.’

For behold, the kingdom of God is within (and among) you.”

 

Luke 17: 20-21

 

Posted in End of the World Prophecies, Inspiration, Mystics, world changes

Calling all the “Different” Ones

Have you always felt “different,” like you didn’t quite fit in, but have always known, on a very deep level, that you are here for a special purpose and that perhaps the time for that purpose is drawing near?  If so……this one is for you.  Your time is now.  The world needs you to wake up, to share your gifts and to start creating our world anew!  Wake up!  Wake up!  We need you and your amazing, magical, miraculous gifts!  And, we need you to find each other, to come together in communities to heal our world and to turn our world from fear to love.  This is the purpose you have been waiting for and the time is now!

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We Are Living in an Important Time

I believe that we are currently living in a critically important time in the history of humankind and our beloved planet, Earth.  We are at a crossroads.  Depending on which path we choose, we are either headed for our demise, or the manifestation of heaven on earth.  My hope and belief is that our choice will lead us toward the latter, but in order to get there, we have to wake up, we have to help others wake up, and we have to do so QUICKLY! 

The Different Ones

As I have mentioned before, I believe that EACH OF US has a unique, important and critical contribution to make toward the betterment of our world and that in discovering and sharing these gifts, we find joy, peace, love and fulfillment.  I have also learned that there is a unique group of humans, who have a unique set of gifts and will have a very unique contribution to make toward the manifestation of heaven on earth. These are the men, women and children who have been sent here to wake us up and to show us our way home, ushering us into a place where we will once again dwell in peace on a planet ruled by love.  For lack of any better word, and only for the sake of making a point, I am calling these people “The Different Ones.”  And I will bet my life that you already know who you are.  But, if you need some help remembering, or an affirmation of your differentness and specialness, here are some of the unique characteristics and experiences held by “The Different Ones.”

  • You have always known, in a very deep knowing, that you were different, perhaps even special.
  • You never felt as if you fit in with the regular world or society.  Perhaps you even felt like a stranger in your own home, wondering who these people were and what God did with your real family. You definitely felt like a stranger in the traditional institutions – school, church, work, etc.
  • As a child, you found yourself drawn to the mystical, magical, the world of fairies, angels, fantasy, miracles, etc.  Perhaps you believed in magic and knew, in some deep level of your being that you could do magic or at the very least, facilitate or participate in the making of something miraculous.
  • As a young child, and maybe again near puberty, you had experiences, communications, etc. with “other realms.”  Perhaps you saw or spoke with “angels,” God, saints, the deceased.  Maybe you could see dead people.  You knew these other places/beings were real – but when you shared these experiences with others, they were discounted as the workings of an overactive imagination.
  • You were very sensitive as a child and most likely still are as an adult.  You could “feel” the energy of a room, you could “feel” other people’s energies, perhaps even their thoughts.  You found yourself repelled by some people and situations based on no other information than “a feeling” and in contrast, found yourself inexplicably drawn to some people and places, because of a “feeling.”
  • You may have been sickly as a child – sensitive to the environment, ultra-sensitive to human-made chemicals, fabrics, etc.  You found yourself sensitive to light, sound, chaotic spaces, technology, etc.  It seemed anything that was not purely organic, nature-made, somehow made you ill or if nothing else, made you feel “icky.”
  • You had/have a strange way of being able to “read” people.  Specifically, you could detect truth vs. deceit and found you had no tolerance for the latter.  This often caused problems in relationships as people discovered your ability and grew uncomfortable under your gaze (even if this happened subconsciously….as it usually does.)
  • You have a keen sense of knowing that you are here for a special purpose and feel driven to pursue this purpose – often not even knowing what this purpose is, no matter how irrational this drive may appear to the “real” world.
  • You have always possessed a different way of viewing and experiencing the world.  You believe in the goodness of the world, in justice, in the right of all to be loved and cared for.  You have a deep drive to pursue the course of peace and justice and you will defend the rights of those who have none.
  • You may have a profound affinity with nature and the night sky.  You feel drawn to the earth and to the stars and find comfort there.
  • You are known by a “look” in your eyes and you know others like you through that same “look.”  There have been people in your life with whom you felt an immediate connection along with a deep knowing that this is someone like you, someone from your true “family” and someone you can trust and love without condition. These are people with whom you have an immediate and enduring affinity.
  • And here’s my favorite one “you seem to be born with a different set of rules, values and laws to abide by.  Actions that were perfectly acceptable for everyone else are harmful to you, while you are able to do things that are not permitted most of humanity. (Solara, 2012)”

No Mistaking it, You Are Different

There are a million terms which have been tossed around to categorize those who feel “different” – Indigo children, Crystal children, Rainbow children, Slackers, Starseeds, Wayshowers, Lightworkers, Healers, Star Borne, Star Children, etc. etc. etc.   Ultimately, names mean nothing, but what is important is that YOU KNOW that you have been sent here for a special purpose and that this purpose is to help usher in THE NEW WORLD.  Your ways are different because the world needs to be different.  Your ways are more sensitive, more loving, more justice-oriented, because the world needs to evolve toward this or it will destroy itself.  AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE!  In fact, there are millions like you waiting to wake up, waiting to connect and waiting to GET TO WORK.

I’ll Tell You a Little Secret

I’m sharing this with you, because all of the above characteristics are true of me and I have found a whole slew of men and women who also possess these gifts.  I have also found that the unique gifts I have been given are:

1) To wake people up. (I can’t help it, it just happens)

2) To help you overcome the inner obstacles to being and living your purpose.

3) To empower you to connect with others like you and to work together toward bringing forth our gifts for the betterment of the world.

So….toward the goal of item #3, please feel free to connect with other ones like you through the Authentic Freedom Facebook Page.  Start a conversation.  Make some connections.  And let’s get to work making the world a more loving, peaceful and harmonious place!

Love,

Lauri

Sehmi Aniyakah, Sehmi Oniyakah

Posted in Authentic Freedom, End of the World Prophecies, Inspiration, Spiritual Practices, The Divine, The Seven Deadly Compulsions, world changes

Waking Up in the New World

Today’s blog is for EVERYONE.  The world is changing, the universe is changing, the sun’s poles are flipping, and in the midst of all this change, we get to decide…….old world or new world?  The choice is up to us.  Today’s blog explores the consequence(s) of staying in the old world and the Why and How we might choose the new world instead.

"Wake up!  Wake up!"
“Wake up! Wake up!”

Old World

The old world is the world that the human species has been living in for the past 5000 or so years.  It is a world rooted in patriarchy which elevates the masculine principle while demonizing the feminine.  It is a hierarchical world in which decisions are made from the top down by those in power, and usually in not very loving ways.  The old world is one that manipulates through fear and intimidation.  Power, control and wealth are TAKEN by the few while the rest suffer in silence, made mute by their feelings of powerlessness.  The old world is one in which the seven deadly compulsions reign – gluttony, lust (power-over), wrath, envy, greed, sloth and pride and where “success” comes through ceaseless striving, manipulation and force.  Unless you exist within the (less than) 1%, the old world feels constricting, painful, fearful, limiting, and your life is therefore defined by feelings of anxiety, depression, frustration, impatience and longing.

New World

The new world, on the other hand, is the complete opposite of what we have known for the past 5000+ years.  The new world is rooted in love, known by peace and lived out in harmonious cooperation.  The new world is neither patriarchal nor matriarchal, but is instead rooted in egalitarianism – where masculine and feminine (and everything in between) are valued as unique and equal.  Decisions are made through collaboration and arrived at through consensus and are made to meet the higher good of the all.  In the new world, each and every person is valued as uniquely creative expressions of the Divine and are honored for their own unique giftedness and empowered to contribute their part in the betterment of the world.  In the new world, all that we have used to separate will fall away and all will be honored as sacred and unique.

Continuing to Choose the Old World

Because we have been gifted with the power of freewill, we may continue to choose the old world.  We can continue to choose anxiety, constriction, longing, impatience, frustration and for many….failure.  For some, this will indeed be their path.  For those who were placed on this planet to envision and help support the creation of the new world however, continuing to choose the old world will only lead to their demise. If you have been gifted with a vision of the new world and feel called to help make it happen (lightworkers, wayshowers, starseeds, indigo children, crystal children, rainbow children, galactic federation of light, ascension, kundalini), the Universe will conspire in your favor to make this happen.  If you have been gifted with the vision of a new world – and feel called to help make it real and if you are facing your own demise or coming against one obstacle after another after another, your relationships are a sea of conflict,  or you are seeing the world you have tried to create crumbling in your hands, there is a reason for this.  The harder things get for you, be assured that the more the Universe is trying to wake you up to your vision and your call.  As such, if the world you are living in is filled with conflict, struggle and catastrophe, you might want to reexamine your choices.  Perhaps you have been unwittingly choosing the old world instead of the new.

Choosing the Old or Living in the New?

The hardest thing in the world is choosing the NEW world because all we have known and been taught is how to choose the old.   Old habits die hard.  Choosing the old world or living in the new are distinguished from each other in  a number of ways.

The old world is:

  • ruled by the ego
  • where decisions are made in fear
  • known by a constant inner state of anxiety
  • characterized by striving and pushing to “make things happen”
  • known by the quest for power and control
  • where people feel limited, constricted, ignored, insignificant, unsatisfied
  • defined by separation – gender, orientation, nationality, ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion, race, etc.
  • rife with conflict, struggle, suffering, discord, etc.

the new world is:

  • ruled by the Divine within
  • known where decisions are not made but arise naturally out of our connection with the Divine
  • where life is allowed to happen and to unfold in a gentle, effortless way
  • known in generous sharing and equal participation
  • where people experience a life that is fulfilling, rewarding, sustaining, abundant, life-giving, joyful, peaceful and loving
  • defined by oneness

Living in the new world is made possible when we commit ourselves to the following:

  • A disciplined spiritual practice (which I define rather widely) through which we take time aside to be quiet, listen for and be open to hearing and believing the voice of the Divine within us.
  • Disciplined attention to and healing of one’s own fears, compulsions, projections, etc.
  • Management of our shadow.  When we confront our own demons, we stop projecting them on to others.
  • Exploration of our own unique giftedness, followed by the cultivation and generous sharing of these gifts in an environment where are gifts are readily and enthusiastically received and where we experience the abundant fruits of our labors.
  • In a nutshell – disciplined attention to our own journey of spiritual, emotional, mental and physical growth.
  • And finally…..LOVE.  Loving ourselves first so that we may then reflect love to others, igniting in them the spark of wanting to remember the love that they are and setting them on the journey as outlined above.

Choosing the New World

Choosing the new world is not an easy task, primarily because in choosing love we have to overcome 5000+ years of conditioning, not to mention our own fears and inner resistance.  However, if we have been gifted with a vision of the new world, along with the call to make it happen, we don’t really have a choice – unless, however, we want to continue to live in misery.  Please note, that this is true not only for individuals, but also for institutions which have also been gifted with this vision and this call.  The call is the same – “Wake up, Wake up”  It is time to awaken to your call and time to bring forth the new world.

Posted in Authentic Freedom, creativity, Inspiration, Mystics, shame, world changes

For Those Not of This World – Releasing Shame

Today’s blog is targeted for those of you (us), who have often felt a misfit in this world.  Freaks, geeks, dweebs, artists, creative geniuses, rightbrain thinkers, lightworkers, healers, Indigo’s, Crystals, Rainbows, Starseeds, lightwarriors, children of light. Whatever name we have called ourselves, we have always felt as if we stand outside the norm, as if we do not fit in, and that no matter how hard we try, we cannot embrace the lifestyle, expectations, and values of the hierarchical, patriarchal, materialistic, consumeristic, Western world.  Instead, we find ourselves embracing what many would consider countercultural values and lifestyles and either working seventeen jobs or becoming (as one friend recently observed about me) “chronically self-employed,”  in order to live our truth and follow our dreams.  Some, familiar with the Matrix movies might suggest that we have taken “the red pill.”  Others, might just shake their head in disgust as we continue to rock the boat of “normal,” challenge perceived authority, and shake the foundations of status quo, even though the work that we do is ALWAYS geared toward making the world a more loving, harmonious, peaceful and beautiful place.  But, people don’t like change and they don’t appreciate different, so we are often cast out as weird or condemned as shit-disturbers.  If any of this sounds familiar to you, keep reading because I am about to offer you the ONE CURE for all your frustration and impatience over simply trying to be who God/dess made you to be and the ONE CURE for any obstacle you might be facing in living your truth freely and enjoying the abundant fruits of sharing your amazing gifts. 

Releasing Shame
Releasing Shame

THE ONE CAUSE

The ONE CURE came to me in my own struggle to live my truth and trying to find my place in the world.  I have to thank my friend who first called me “chronically self-employed,” and the completely disproportionate reaction I had to these words as it gave me an opportunity to identify THE ONE CAUSE of my history of paralysis, lack of confidence, immobility, perceived failure, financial lack, vocational and relational struggles.  The ONE CAUSE, I discovered, was shame.  “What is wrong with me that I cannot work in the real world and have a real job?” I moaned.  “What was wrong with me that I couldn’t be content in an unhappy marriage?”  (millions of other people find a way to be).  “Why doesn’t anybody get what I do or understand who I am?”  I realized at the root of all these questions was ONE emotion, and that emotion was SHAME.  I felt shame for being different and for seemingly not fitting in and for feeling driven to live a life outside the norm by naming, claiming, cultivating and living my gifts and my dreams.

THE ONE CURE

Once I was able to identify SHAME as the cause, I knew I had also found the cure.  If shame is what is keeping me small and stuck, then shame needed to be confronted, transformed and released.  Intellectually, I knew there was nothing wrong with me and there was no rational reason that I should remain stuck.  But shame, as an underlying inner state, trumped all I “knew” in my mind.  So, I applied one of my favorite spiritual practices to shame and allowed it to find its release.

Releasing Shame

If you find that shame is also at the root of your own tendency to remain small, or believing that you are different and in your difference, somehow wrong, then try this practice which I am borrowing from Tibetan Buddhism – Tonglen.

1) Connect with your feelings of being different or not fitting in.

2) Identify the emotion underlying these feelings – perhaps it is shame.

3) Become aware of where you are feeling this emotion in your body.

4) Allow yourself to be present to this emotion.  FEEL it, instead of pushing it away.

5) Breathe in this feeling.  Breathe it into your heart as you allow yourself to feel the feeling.

6) Breathe out love.

7) Breathe in the feeling and breathe out love until you feel something in you shift.  Maybe a new feeling surfaces, or you begin to cry, or you feel yourself growing stronger, more confident, more self-assured. Stay with this practice until you feel it is resolved.

Why This Practice Works

Once you have released the shame, you can no longer remain small or have feelings of being rejected or condemned, or experience failure, because, there is nothing left for these negative experiences to hook on to.  Before, shame acted like a cement block that we were tied to with thick, black straps of elastic.  Every time we tried to crawl out of our feelings around being different, and every time we tried to “think” ourselves to greatness, all it would take was one crossed eye, or shaking finger of criticism to pull us right back into the pit of our shame.  Once shame is released, there is nothing left for the hooks to hang on to…..so we are free.  The proof in this practice is that once we release the shame, every door that was previously closed to us miraculously opens because we can no longer be rejected, condemned, ostracized or banished because there is no more shame to hold us hostage within ourselves, and then we are free to be our weird, creative, countercultural, shit-disturbing selves and we are happier (and maybe even richer) for it.

Lauri Lumby provides one-on-one mentoring for those seeking to birth their Soul – the uniquely creative part of themselves through which they were gifted to find meaning, purpose and fulfillment and through which they are called to contribute to the betterment of the world.  To learn more call (920) 230-1313 or email lauri@yourspiritualtruth.com.

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Strange Days and a Vision of a New World

A message on the strange times we are in and on the hope of birthing a new world.  I dedicate this to my children and the other young people who will ultimately bear the consequences of this current transition.

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For the children!

Strange Days

These are strange times with all the conflicts going on in our world, most obviously the failure of the US government to do its job, thereby forcing a shutdown.  In addition to these outward signs, people have been sharing with me, personal feelings and experiences of disproportionate anxiety, depression, restlessness, impatience, anger, rage and the feeling as if their world is in a complete state of chaos and overwhelm.  I heard it described as if we are riding a rollercoaster of unexpected and unpleasant (for many) happenings. The people who might call themselves sensitives, or just plain “spiritual” seem to be feeling all of this even more acutely.   As spiritual people, we are compelled to wonder, “What does this all mean, what is the purpose in all of this and what can we learn?”

Death Throes

In a nutshell, what we are experiencing is the death throes of the hierarchical and patriarchal cultural and sociological paradigm in which we have been imprisoned for the past 5 – 10, 0000 years.  If any of you have ever witnessed a death, you know what that looks like – extreme anxiety, depression, restlessness, bursts of anger and impatience, physical, emotional, mental and even spiritual discomfort.  This is ultimately what we are experiencing both on an individual and collective level.  Hierarchy and Patriarchy, and every structure built upon these models of leadership are coming to an end. And, those invested in these kinds of power structures are desperately clinging to the life they have known and are resisting the release of what has, up until now, given them the false sense of power and control.  As the shields, which have carefully guarded government and corporate structures founded on corruption and greed, are falling away, the American people (and the world) is saying, “ENOUGH!”  Our job, in the midst of this, is to let the old order self-destruct (which it is doing at a rapidly increasing rate) and be ready to step in to re-create a world that is based in something more life giving.

How to Manage the Dismantling

As I see it, there are two levels to this dismantling: 1) One that is personal and 2) one that is collective.  Here is how we can support this dismantling, both within ourselves and within the world around us.

1)      Personally:  For each of us personally, the dismantling is about undoing the parts within us that are ruled and manipulated by fear.  It is about identifying the parts of ourselves which are feeling anxious, depressed, restless, angry, sorrowful and which might even be experiencing these sensations physically.  In short, our fearful/egoic self is dying, right along with the fearful/egoic parts of our culture.  A portion of this personal dismantling also includes a life-review of sorts.  All those unhealed wounds within us or things we have suppressed or ignored seem to be finding their way to the surface in order that they may be named, healed and released.  The simple formula for participating in this dismantling is to imagine your fearful/egoic self as a separate individual.  Visualize this part of you and HOLD IT in love and compassion.  Thank it for enduring the suffering of the human condition and project thoughts of healing and release to all it has carried for you so that it may ascend to a place of peace.

2)      Collectively:  For the world, the dismantling is the same – allowing the fearful/egoic parts of our human community to die.  And, the practice is the same.  HOLD the world in love.  THANK it for bearing the suffering it has born for the sake of our fear.  Project thoughts of healing and release to the broken, fearful, hurting and wounded parts of our world so that they too might ascend to a peaceful place.

Healers Unite

This part of my message is specific to those who have identified themselves as healers, lightworkers, lightwarriors, Indigos, Crystals, peacemakers, lovers, etc.  Whatever name you call yourself, you have been aware of a special call within you to be a vessel of love and healing in this world.  You have a special job.  Because of the gifts you have been given, you are especially skilled in transforming fear into love, ignorance into wisdom, confusion into insight, hatred into compassion.  You all have your own unique way of bringing love into the world, you are now called to step forward and do what you know you have been called to do.  Additionally, I have heard many rumblings about the healers coming together.  I’m not sure, exactly, what that means, but let that invitation ring in your heart and guide you toward what that might mean for you.

Way showers and Pioneers Get Ready

And, now is the time for the way showers and pioneers, the millenials, post-moderns, Gen-X’ers and Gen-y’ers to GET READY!  As the outgoing power-hungry hoards have accused you of being “slackers,” (which we all know has never been true!) this is YOUR TIME to shine!!!  You were born with the knowledge of what the new world needs to look like, and you were born with the vision, gifts and passions to make that happen.  Of course, the old regime first needs to fall away.  But GET READY….because the new world is YOUR world and will be crafted by your hands, your vision, your wisdom and most importantly, your compassion.  You are the most loving and compassionate generation yet to be born on this planet and as the old world falls, you will be the ones bringing the new world to life!  Get ready….your time is very, very near.

A Vision of the New World

Of course, no one can predict exactly what the new world will look like, especially since it will be the generations behind me (at 48) who will grow the roots of the new world.  For my generation, we are merely the seed planters and the bridge.  My sense is that the new world will look nothing like what we have previously known.  The new world, will not be ruled by fear or power over, but by love and cooperative collaboration.  Perceived separations will fall away and we will come to see how we are ONE, while honoring what is unique and special among us.  We will learn to be STEWARDS of our planet, not rapists.  We will honor the planet for the gifts it gives us and we will treat her with gentleness and kindness.  We will learn to grow crops organically and without harmful and deadly chemicals, and we will see that there is enough to feed every mouth on this planet when we emphasize the growth of living foods.  In a spirit of unity, we will ensure that every person is fed, housed, clothed, kept safe, provided with adequate medical care and a quality education.  We will honor cultural differences, while finding the love between us.  The world will be governed by peace, harmony, love and compassion.  We will learn that when we come together in love, there is enough, all of our needs are met in abundance, we will find our own unique gifts and discover meaning and purpose in sharing these gifts for the on-going betterment of the world, we will find support for who we are, we will know love, the value of honoring our own truth as well as the truth of others, we will find direction in wisdom instead of fear and we will discover that we are never alone.  Too big of an order?  I don’t think so.  In short, we will discover the kingdom of God among us and we will walk in peace.

My prayers and blessings to you as we witness the death of what has been, in anticipation of the birth of love.

 

Lauri Ann Lumby

http://yourspiritualtruth.com

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A Message of Hope

A message of hope for a fearful world.  On behalf of love.  For the sake of peace.  In the company of my brothers and sisters of light.  Lightworkers.  Lightwarriors.  Healers.  Teachers.  Sojourners and Guides. We walk among you with hearts and hands wide open, here to help you find your way home.

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People of the Earth:

It is time to wake up!  It is time to remember why you are here and for whom.

People of the Earth:

You are here to love.

You are here to share.

You are here to care for each other, for your planet, for your own wellbeing and the wellbeing of all who walk and crawl, swim and fly across this planet.

The time of darkness has come to an end.

No more will you choose to live in fear.

No more will you tolerate a world burdened by war, driven by greed and in the control of the power-hungry and gluttonous few.

No more will die in the name of oil, in the name of a so-called god of hatred, ignorance and prejudice.

No longer will the innocent be sacrificed for the sake of the gods of money, power and control.

Your people lie starving and naked, alone and afraid while the powerful few destroy your forests, poison your crops, desecrate your waters and pollute your air.

You have lived in darkness long enough!

No longer will you tolerate a world ruled by fear; instead, you shall seek the path of love.

And, in that search, you are no longer alone, for we are here among you – your brothers and sisters of light.

For lifetimes we have lived among you, hidden behind the veil of ignorance and fear, but now, the veil has been removed and you see us for who we are:  Sojourners.  Guides.  Helpers.  Healers.  Friends.

We are here for the purpose of love, to guide and assist you in remembering who you are, in remembering your original nature as love, contentment, fulfillment and joy.

We are here to help you because at one time, we too forgot, but now we remember and we seek to help you to do the same – for the sake of love and for the sake of your own survival, for as you teeter on the edge of extinction, it is only in remembering love that you can ever hope to survive.  And in remembering this love, not only will you survive, you will thrive and enjoy the bounty of a world that lives in peace, that cultivates harmony and that seeks to provide for the needs of the all.

Brothers and Sisters of Earth:

The time of darkness has come to an end and you are called to once again live in the light.  As you search your heart, you will know this to be true and you will finally agree to accept the help that we have offered again and again and again, only in the past to have it fall on deaf ears.  But now, your ears have been open and your eyes can see.  Look for love, and we are there.  Seek peace, and we are there too.  Know joy and you will find us among you…..waiting with hearts and hands wide open to help you find your way home.

authentic freedom and midlifeLauri Ann Lumby,

on behalf of love, for the sake of peace and in the company of all who live in the light.

http://yourspiritualtruth.com

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