Posted in Being Human, Inspiration, Spiritual Practices, temptation

Facing the Scariest Things

Sometimes there is no amount of healing, processing, meditation or prayer that will help us make it through the scariest things in life.  In these situations, the only thing we can do is JUMP IN and hope for the best.

The Supports that Help Most of the Time….but not Always

I have spent the past many years of my life helping people to live a more peaceful and fulfilling life.  Clients and students seek my support in helping them to identify the fears that are standing in the way of contentment and joy in their lives and for the tools to help them move through these fears.  While process work and spiritual practices go a long way in helping us to achieve the fulfillment of our desires;  there are some things that are just so scary that no amount of process work or meditation is going to help us move through them.  These are the situations in our lives when we have to jump in and do it regardless of how terrifying it might be.

Taking the Leap

Skydiving is one of those situations.  In preparation for a dive, skydivers learn about all the ways they could die and about all the precautions they must take to prevent otherwise certain death.  Regardless of all this learning and preparation, however, when you are staring out of the door of a plane and looking at the earth 10,000 feet below you, you are going to be terrified.  There are no meditation or mindfulness practices that are going to save you from the blood curdling fear that is now coursing through your veins.  The only answer to this fear… to jump.  And then, pray like heck that the parachute actually opens.

Applying for a Job

Applying for a job is like that.  We come to the door with our past experiences, humiliations, hopes, dreams, fears in hand.  And again, no  amount of processing, meditation or prayer is going to help us get to the door.  We have to leave our house.  Get in the car.  Put the key into the ignition.  Drive.  AND…get out of the car and apply for the job.

The Danger of Love

And perhaps the scariest of them all….falling in love.  We show up at the door of our new possibilities with the baggage of all our past relationships – our past hurts, betrayals, disappointments and all the ways in which our heart has been broken.  Beside that luggage is the valise which contains our hopes, our dreams, our expectations and our desires.  And beside that, the carry-on of all our human frailties, our imperfections, our compulsions and our fears.  In the face of new love, there is no amount of processing our past hurts, healing our old wounds or letting go of our attachment to outcomes that will ensure that this love will last, let alone work at all.  There is no amount of meditation or prayer that will insure that this love will be the perfect love.  instead, it is as the poet, David Whyte reminds, “Every love is an unrequited love.”  As such, we have no choice but to jump in.  Try it on.  See what happens.  Take a risk.  Knowing that in all likelihood, here too we will be hurt, betrayed, disappointed and that our heart will be broken – perhaps a million times.

With Risk Comes Reward

Whether contemplating skydiving, seeking a new job, leaving a marriage, trying a new relationship or becoming a parent the most dangerous temptation is to avoid these things all together.  We are tempted to allow the fears to prevent us from taking the risk.  When we avoid risks however, we also miss out on the rewards.  While all of these are the scariest things, the benefits are so enormous that regardless of how scary we all know them to be….we keep doing it.  We willingly jump out of planes for entertainment.  We have children.  We accept a new job.  We fall in love.  And the reason we do this is because on some level we know that the benefits far outweight the costs.  And with that I will leave you with a poem that I wrote about taking such a risk.

Be willing to have your heart broken by love.

Be courageous enough to love, knowing that:

You will be imperfect in it.

You will trip and you will fall.

You will disappoint and be disappointed.

Your heart will be broken

And you will break another’s heart.


For what other reason could you be here but to love

And to know love in return?

And finally, the YouTube link to my favorite song from my favorite movie about taking the risk:

Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries

Posted in Freedom, Gifts of Contemplation


As we grow spiritually we come to rely more and more on our higher power (God) for guidance and direction.  As we allow ourselves to set aside our ego and be open to Divine guidance, doors open and the path is made smooth….that does not mean, however that the path will not involve change (in fact, it probably will).  Today’s blog explores the Divine path, change and our reaction to it.

As I sit down to write today’s blog, I have David Bowie’s song, Changes, running through my head. The past few months of my own spiritual journey has included a mountain of changes…..some of which you are witnessing here today – namely the launch of a new website with a new URL, new marketing strategy, etc.  All of these are changes that I probably could not have made even a year ago, but gratefully, I have learned to let go of certain attachments that would have prevented this change.  I have also learned to accept help in a way that I never could have before that became the ultimate catalyst for these changes.  Being open to receiving help and letting go of attachments are both gifts that we receive when we diligently attend to our spiritual journey.

So, here is what brought me to these changes………

1) Daily meditation and prayer.

2) An out of the blue contact from a potential client from overseas.

3) The step into the modern age by going live through video capability via internet and Skype for international calls.

4) The sudden awareness that perhaps I would have more opportunities to reach people if I were available for Spiritual Counseling via phone and internet.

5) The realization that if I am going to target a global audience, I would need help.

6) The awareness that I deserve to invest in a professional marketing consultant to help me grow my business, but more importantly, reach those people who are looking for help along their spiritual path.

So, what you see here today is the culmination of several months of research, consultation and HUGE leaps off of the technology platform (mind you….computers TERRIFY ME!!!!).  I can attribute this part of my journey to God and to God alone, and to my willingness to set aside my own personal fears and ego attachments that previously prevented me from stepping into this strange and foreign territory….the territory of self-promotion, accepting professional guidance (and in some cases, correction), and doing so without going into my normal place of rejection.

Previously, I would not have felt myself worthy of the financial investment in a professional marketing consultant.  Previously, I would not have been able to accept this guidance and possible critique.  Previously, I would not have been able to set aside my own attachment to the beautiful website I had created on my own in my favorite color of red.  Previously, I would not have been able to accept that at least for today, my current website will not be “perfect”, that there might still be a couple bugs to work out and the fonts might not yet be exactly what I want.  All this is because I have really tried hard to let go and let God so that I could surrender to God’s plan – rather than clinging to my own.

In our spiritual journey, this ability to let go and let God is the fruit of diligent practice.  As we focus our attention to our Divine Source and allow the Divine to be our guide and the light of illumination, all the doors to our highest good are open wide, and we need only step through them.  We find that this process of growth becomes somewhat effortless and that if it does become a struggle, it is only due to our own clinging to attachments.  We are invited to let go of that which is no longer life-giving or supportive of our highest good, to grieve the losses of these former attachments and step fully into the Divine plan which is that of freedom, expansiveness and growth.  So, in this process, I welcome these changes that the Divine has offered as growth opportunities for me and anxiously await to bear witness to their results.

What changes are you being invited to make as you step more fully into your highest truth?

What are you being invited to leave behind?

Lauri Lumby

Your Spiritual Truth – Where your truth shall set you free.