This weekend, I had the profound confirmation of a theory to which I have long-subscribed – the theory that no matter how hard one tries, truth will not stay long hidden. Truth always finds its way to the light where it can be readily seen by those who have the eyes to see, bringing justice to situations where untruths otherwise prevailed.
In this particular case, I was well aware of these truths. Although the revelations of these truths would have provided me with much vindication, I had kept silent about these truths for the sake of others who might be hurt by them. These truths had been the cause of much pain in my own life, truths that the human part of me wanted to shout to the world as a way of “getting back” at those who had hurt me. Instead, I chose silence, knowing and trusting that these truths would eventually find their way to the light for those who needed to know in a time that was perfect for them.
And this is exactly what happened. The truth came to light bringing healing and closure where neither were previously thought possible. In addition, the way in which these truths came to light brought empowerment for those, who through their own observations had intuited these truths. The revelation of these truths brought great validation for me in having taken the “high road” in choosing silence and trust over revenge. It also served as a great reminder that no matter how hard one works at disguising, denying or avoiding their truth, truth cannot be hidden for long and the deceiver will always give themselves away, if not directly then by slips of the tongue or getting caught in an outright lie.
This is the advice I offer to students and clients who are faced with similar situations of untruths – where harm has been done to them, and they want to take revenge on the “other” by telling everyone the truth. I say, “Wait. The truth will win out in the end. Those that need to know will find out if and when they need to.” This weekend’s experience proved my theory true.
Choosing silence, trust, and a patient heart allows us to turn away from the human desire for revenge and toward forgiveness practices – those practices that free us from the resentment, hurt, sense of betrayal, anger and hatred that we might otherwise harbor against the other. Here we are able to free ourselves of the pain of the hurt while not causing harm to another. Choosing this path gives us freedom.
As I also advise my students and clients, “Karma is a bitch.” While I do not believe in a punitive God, I do believe in (and the human part of me takes great comfort in) the law of cause and effect. What you put out to the world will come back to you 100-fold. If you (intentionally) cause harm to another, that harm will come back to you. If you betray another, you will be betrayed. If you are a liar, you will be deceived. If you cheat, you will be cheated, etc. etc. etc. There is comfort in knowing that we reap what we have sown and for those who sow deceit this is what they shall reap. Truth, on the other hand, always wins. Choose truth.