Posted in Authentic Freedom, Healing

Ending Violence by Healing Our Emotional Wounds

Before having a discussion about ending violence, we need to explore and then do the courageous work of healing the emotional wounds that cause violence in the first place. Unfortunately violence has become so much a part of American culture that we hardly even think about it until a horribly violent act takes place, such as the recent school shooting in Florida. When these events take place, we should be taking a closer look at the problem of violence in our culture.  Most commonly, however, we are so wrapped up in our own reactionary and often violent responses to the crisis that we cannot see the forest through the trees.  We point the finger of blame, hoping to ease our newly ignited sense of fear and powerlessness, instead of tending to the matter at hand which is the wounds and unacknowledged fears that are the real cause of the violence. Including the shooting in Florida, every violent or non-loving act ever committed by a human being happens as a result of an unhealed emotional wound or the fear caused by that wound. If we hope to put an end to violence, we first have to heal these wounds.

Every single human being suffers from unhealed emotional wounds and the fears that arose in response to these wounds. Whether the emotional wounding was obvious as in the case of physical, sexual, verbal or mental abuse, or more subtle, we have all felt the sharp sting of rejection, disappointment, loss, abandonment, betrayal, failure, of not being heard, of not having our needs met, of feeling insignificant, unimportant or that we have nothing to contribute to our world.  We have all suffered trauma, whether it be the simple trauma that accompanies our birth, or something more dramatic as one might experience in battle.  If we haven’t already, we will all at one time have to face death.  We cannot exist as a human being and not experience some sort of emotional wounding.  When this emotional wounding goes unrecognized or unhealed, it acts like a tightly coiled spring waiting for something….anything….that might set it off.  Not unlike trauma, when our unhealed emotional wounds or their resulting fears are triggered, we experience one of three reactions:  fight, flight or freeze.  When our response is fight – we are doing violence to another.  When it is freeze or flight, we are doing violence to ourselves, which may then end up causing violence to another. In order to heal these violent responses triggered by our emotional wounds, we first need to do the work of naming, claiming and then healing these wounds.

Observation

The first step toward healing our emotional wounds is observation. Through observation, we identify when we are reacting in violent or non-loving ways toward ourselves of others.  Once we have identified the behavior, we can look deeper into what might be the unhealed emotional wound or fear at the cause of the behavior.

Physical Sensations

As a culture we have a very low emotional intelligence. As a result, it might initially be difficult to identify the emotional wound at the root of our violent or non-loving behaviors.  This is where our bodies come in handy. Our physical body will tell us where we are carrying the wound or fear that is being triggered.  Knowledge of the chakra system can then help us to identify, based on the location of the physical sensations, what fear or unhealed emotional wound is being triggered.  For example, in doing a body scan, you might locate a sense of constriction in your lower abdomen.  Perhaps this is related to the emotional wound of shame, or the fear that there is something wrong with you.  (See by book or online course Authentic Freedom for a detailed explanation of  this process). Once you have identified the emotional wound/fear, then you can do the work of healing it.

Healing Practices

There is no medication (other than classical homeopathy) for the healing of emotional wounds or their resulting fears. Talk therapy might prove helpful.  I have also seen phenomenal results from PTSD treatment protocols such as EMDR and Brainspotting.  For normal, everyday emotional wounds, however, there is nothing more effective that a sound mindfulness or spiritual practice.  Practices like mantra, centering prayer, Tonglen, the Ho’oponopono practice, shamanic journey work, and others have all proven effective in healing and releasing emotional wounds and their resulting fears.  (For more on these practices, see again, my book or online course Authentic Freedom). Vigorous physical activity can also prove helpful in healing and releasing emotional wounds as can a good solid cry.  The bottom line with healing emotional wounding is movement.  Anything that we can do to move the emotional pain up and out of our bodies will prove helpful in healing our wounding so that we can put an end to the violence we are doing to ourselves, or might be unwittingly doing to another.

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Posted in Inspiration, world changes

Wake Up People!

A prophet arrives on the scene when it is time for humanity to make a change.  Well, it is LONG PAST time to make a change!  It is time to WAKE UP people!  No more fighting.  No more war.  No more hunger.  No more racism.  No more sexism.  NO MORE WAR!  No more destruction of the vital planet that feeds, clothes and shelters us!  No more hatred.  No more ignorance.  No more fear.

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I don’t care what side of the political fence you are on….you can’t possibly be interested in the continuation of violence, hatred and war in our world, and if you are, then I have great compassion for the fear that lives in your heart that makes you believe violence is the only answer.

Violence is not the answer.  LOVE is.  And I’m not the first to know and believe this.  Neither am I the only one.  In fact, I believe that we who believe in the power of love have now reached critical mass and there are more who believe in love than those who believe in fear.

If you are one who believes in love, then now is the time to SHOW YOUR LOVE.  Raise your voice.  Speak the love that you know in your heart.  BE THE LOVE.  Use the amazing and powerful gifts God/dess gave you to help build the new world….

BECAUSE THE TIME IS NOW!  Wake up from your sleep.  Wake up from your silence and SING the love that wants to be born in the world.

And here’s a little help from one of my generation’s greatest prophets.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAi3VTSdTxU

Posted in Empowerment, Inspiration

The Number One Cause of Violence in Our World

Before I answer the question about the number one cause of violence in our world, let me ask you a question:  Have you had enough of the violence yet? If your answer is YES, then please read on.  If you are excited about continuing the cycle of violence in our world by contemplating retaliation and retribution, then don’t bother reading this blog, you won’t get it anyway.  Today’s blog is for those who have ears to hear and for those who have hearts that yearn for an end to the violence and who want to play a role in bringing this violence to an end….once and for all! 

Short Answer: The number one cause of violence in our world is rage over a world that is too small, and feeling powerless to change it.

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Longer Answer: This is not about a world that is literally too small – as in size, shape, volume, etc. Neither is this about a world that doesn’t have enough resources to feed, clothe and house every single human being on this planet (because we DO have enough resources).  This isn’t even about the systems of distribution that have failed in their duty to care for even the simplest needs of the beings on this planet.

No, this is about a deep inner knowing of the SOUL that the lives we are living are WAY TOO SMALL!

Even Longer Answer: The Soul knows who we are, the reason we were put on this planet and the mission we are here to accomplish.  Throughout our life, the Soul tries to communicate this truth to us and draws into our presence opportunities to nurture, cultivate and ultimately live out this call.  The problem is that we don’t know how to listen and the world doesn’t know how to support us in the fulfillment of our Soul’s mission.  When we feel thwarted in the fulfillment of our Soul, RAGE erupts and if we don’t have proper tools for processing our deep-seated anger at not being able to fulfill our Soul’s duty, we either do violence to ourselves or to others.

Perhaps the violence we do to ourselves is internal through all the voices that tell us:

  • You have nothing significant to contribute to this world.
  • Who are you do think you can do/be/…xyz?
  • Good girls/good boys don’t do that.
  • Your family, friends, tribe, church, won’t understand/love you if you choose this path.
  • If you follow the path of your Soul, something in your life will have to change.

Maybe the violence we do to ourselves is the cultivating of resentment, or the suppression, repression, wholesale rejection of our anger – the very voice that is trying to help us understand our Soul’s calling.

The violence we do to others has many faces:

  • Seething resentment
  • Blame
  • Cultivating inner anger or hatred.
  • Making someone else the cause of our world being too small.
  • Physical, emotional, mental, sexual acts of violence.

When enough individuals are unsupported in the fulfillment of their Soul’s purpose, the rage that we hold within us individually becomes a collective rage where pretty much everyone on the planet is pissed off because their Soul is being ignored.  Yes, we have all sorts of coping mechanisms that self-medicate the pain of a meaningless and unfulfilling life (consumerism, materialism, money, power, achievement, fame, status, drugs, alcohol, sex, war after war after war after war), but there are not enough of any of these things, especially war, to satisfy the ache of a soul unfulfilled.  Until we tend to the deeper call of the Soul, we will never be satisfied and will be forever looking outside of ourselves for the satisfaction of that longing.  When we find that none of those things satisfy, we either turn toward more violence, or we WAKE UP and turn within to the ONLY source of the satisfaction that we seek.  This is as true for the young, dark-skinned men who turn to terrorism, hoping it will satisfy a life unfulfilled, as it is for the pasty white guys gathering piles of wealth as the rest of the world is starving.

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Longest Answer: Our world is a mess and it is a mess because for lifetimes, we have not supported ourselves or each other in the QUEST FOR OUR SOUL.  Instead, we have turned to outside perceived authority as the author of our lives and have allowed them to create structures while crafting rules, regulations, expectations, etc. that tell us who we are and the roles we will play in THEIR games.  (hmmmmm…..sounds like Hunger Games).  We have followed their rules because, quite frankly, it is easier.  It is way easier to do what we are told and to follow the 10 rules for “happiness” than it is to take the time to BE STILL and listen for the voice of our Soul.  It is also easier to follow the herd of sheeple than it is to follow our own inner voice and calling.  Listening to the voice of our Soul takes work and it takes, COURAGE.  This is not a journey for the faint of heart, especially in a society that mostly wants us to follow the rules – or at the very least, to follow the crowd.  “Don’t rock the boat.”  “Don’t disturb the status quo.”  “Don’t question, challenge, turn away from what WE want you to hear, know, do.”  These commands are then followed up with the biggest threat in their arsenal – “Do what we tell you or LEAVE.”  And in some places, “leave” means “die”….literally.

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The Solution: As much as we would like to cure the world of its violence, the solution to the problem will not be exacted on a global scale (yet).  Instead, it starts with ONE person – YOU deciding to make a CHANGE.

  1. It starts by turning away from the violence in the world – turn off the TV. Stop watching Fox News. Don’t read (or believe) the newspapers. Find sources of information that are not influenced by the institution of violence and propaganda. If you aren’t sure which ones those are….LISTEN TO YOUR GUT! Your intuition will guide you. (Turning away from the violence doesn’t mean we aren’t informed. Neither does it mean we don’t care, or pray, or hope for a different outcome. We are just choosing not to participate, not to add to it, and not to allow it to harm or influence us toward fear or violence).
  2. The second step is all about SELF CARE! Turn into your SOUL. Listen as it tries to communicate truth to you, your mission, your gifts, your purpose and your call. Learn how to manage your anxiety, anger, frustration, impatience, sense of powerlessness. Find support in overcoming your fears and resistance to your SOUL and in moving through the societal constructs that week to keep you from the path of your SOUL. Find support for living the path of your SOUL. (PS THIS is what I do for a living….if you want support call (920) 230-1313 or email lauri@authenticfreedom.love.)
  3. Find community. You are NOT ALONE in the desire to be free of a world of violence and to live in a world where all people are supported in finding wholeness, meaning, purpose, fulfillment, peace, love, and joy. Find others like you who have had enough of the violence and who are willing to do the HARD WORK of extracting yourself from the herd of mindless sheeple blindly following the voice of fear and who desire instead, to create a new wave – a wave of love that will one day grow large enough to wash the world clean of fear and restore it to the world of love that it was meant to be.