Posted in End of the World Prophecies, world changes

5.39 billion standing at the ready and quietly bringing forth the new world.

In this post I share what came through in our monthly Authentic Freedom (dot) Love ZOOM gathering.  As the fearful and vocal minority hasten the destruction of the world based in fear, power and control, the 5.39 billion majority are standing at the ready quietly bringing forth the new world.


We spoke last night of all the violence and hatred in our world, along with the inverted distribution of power.  The 1% of the 1% seemingly making all the decisions and getting rich off these decisions while the rest of the world suffers. It is like a pyramid with a shiny gold tip – where the power brokers live and plan while the rest of us (the other 99% of the pyramid) work to make them rich. The collective outcry in all of this is “I didn’t vote for this” – meaning NO ONE wants to see the destruction of education, increasing limits on access to healthcare, and most of all – NO ONE wants to go to war.

Sadly, the latter is where we seem to be headed. Not because any of us want it – but because that shiny gold tip of the pyramid gets rich off of war – war is a HUGE money maker – for those who hold the gold and therefore are making the rules.

BUT – as we discussed last night, this is only the part we are being shown. The loud distractions and outcries of a dying system clinging to what (they think) is left of their power. Creating conflict where there is none. Directing the media focus toward “bad news” while filling our bodies with numbing foods and our sight with what “they” want us to believe is the American Ideal. For those of us who are awake, there is no one we are interested in “Keeping up with” but ourselves. And yet, as was once said about Kramer’s portrait on Seinfeld, “It is loathsome and hideous, and yet I cannot look away.”

This is what they want us to see. This is what the sleeping masses are choosing to see. And yet, this vocal minority is just this – the vocal minority. While the dying system clings to what is left of their power (the ability to make people afraid through the media), 99% (well, at least 70%) of us (the bottom of the pyramid) are awake, aware, and quietly doing our work to build the new world that will come forth out of the ash of the old world once it finally dies! AMEN!

Our children are doing their part as well. As I met with the “magical children” yesterday afternoon, I was reminded that they SEE the world. They SEE through the bullshit and they are quietly observing everything that is wrong with the current world and how they will choose otherwise when it is finally their turn.

I can tell you THEY CANNOT WAIT for it to be their turn. They already know what their world will look like – access to quality education (including college) for all, an end to prejudice and injustice, universal healthcare, and no more war.


Where the old world sees and seeks out conflict, our youth are seeking understanding.


They (the ones I know anyway) were born in a state of unity consciousness – seeing no separation between race, religion, sexual orientation, etc. They see all people as one and do not understand why the rest of the world cannot figure this out. Sounds familiar, right!?

Children change the world


We know our mission. We know why we are here. We are here to bear witness to the dying world and to hold the space in which the new world can be planted, take root and grow. The miracle in all of this is that much of our “work” is already done, and so much more is being done. Yet to the dying world – WE ARE INVISIBLE! As we learned last night, THIS IS ON PURPOSE. Our work is being veiled. We are being protected. We and our efforts are only being seen by those who are able to see. To the rest of the world, it’s almost like we do not exist – or at the very least we are looked upon as insane, and therefore irrelevant. But we are not irrelevant and we are here. In fact – WE ARE THE MAJORITY. As the 1% work on destroying themselves, we are quietly, peacefully, subversively planting the seeds for a new world. When we look at our world through this lens, our efforts are evident and in many cases, bearing fruit. If I’m being conservative, that is 70% of 7.7 billion –


5.39 billion standing at the ready and quietly bringing forth the new world.


Not insane.

Not irrelevant.

And critically important for the survival of the human race.


Thank you my sisters and brothers for doing your part in bringing forth the new world – most commonly just by your very presence. It’s most often not what we do that is causing the change – it is simply who we are. Thank you!






Posted in Inspiration, Midlife Journey

Ted and His Friends – Midlife Wisdom from a Slow White Male

Dear Bloggers,

For the past many weeks, I have been blogging about the midlife and menopause journey, all the while, knowing that I only have one small perspective on this journey.  As a divorced, white, college educated, middle class American woman, I can only speak from this perspective.  I have been very much aware that what is missing in this discussion is the masculine voice.  As such, I have invited my dear friend and mentor, Ted Balser to share his insights on the midlife journey (and beyond) from the male perspective. 

See Ted’s current bio below, but let me tell you a little bit about Ted from my perspective.  What I have learned about Ted Balser is that he is 1 part Albert Einstein, 1 part Thomas Edison and 1 part Tommy Chong.  Ted is a creative and intellectual genius with a heart as wide as the sun who generously shares his time and resources with women, children, the jobless and anyone else who needs a listening ear, a compassionate heart and a helping hand.  At the ripe, young age of 72, Ted has seen his fair share of challenges and tragedies and has learned and grown through them.  I am grateful for the day that Ted showed up in my life with his pile of binders, career search files, spiritual hand-outs and laminated inspirational quotes and saved me from succumbing to the pressure of finding a “real job.”  Ted made a commitment to me on that day which he has enthusiastically upheld, “Lauri, we will leave no stone unturned until you are able to do what you love and make a living doing it.”  We’re still working on the “making a living part,” and I am forever grateful for Ted’s enduring love and support!  Thank you Ted!  I love you! 

So….without further ado…..I introduce you to Ted Balser, his words and his wisdom:

Ted Balser
Ted Balser

Ted and His Friends – We must suspend our disbelief


Who am I?  I am a slow white male, the easy definition for which is “the buck stops here.”  Because, for the rest of the world, the 78 cents stops here. This fact begs the question, why can’t we all make the same amount of pay for the same job? (See AAUW research on this social injustice!)

Allow me to continue to introduce myself. I have several causes that I quite literally wear on my sleeve:  Live United, Suicide Prevention, Live Strong, Cancer Survivors, Prevention of Childhood Abuse, Breast Cancer Awareness, Mental Health Awareness, and Alzheimer Awareness. And there is one cause that I wear in my heart – a cause which is really three-in-one.  It goes like this: Every Woman Counts, Every Mother Counts, and Every Child Counts. I feel it is my responsibility as a slow white male to assist with their lives on a daily basis.

I have developed a mantra to help me with the how part of my responsibilities, both to myself and to my chosen causes.  As a slow white male, my mantra goes like this and takes the form of a mathematical formula:

V+ M+ G 1 + G 2 + C to the third power = J over the number 168

V = vision – the vision to provide an environment where people can be successful. This vision requires a listening attitude.

M = mission – my personal mission in this life is to have fun. Fun is a common theme for me, and I feel that none of us can be successful without having fun.  Unfortunately, this is something many, if not most have forgotten.  Can you name, for example, the 7 dwarfs?  If you forgot one, I bet it is Happy.  He is the one we too often forget.

G1= My first goal, which is to share.  Sharing is not hard to do. Didn’t John the Evangelist say that if we have two coats that we should share one with someone who doesn’t?

G2 = Learning, my second goal. I make it a point to learn something new every day. It is simple.  If you haven’t learned something new today, get out a map out a find out the population of Omro. As of the 2010 census it was 3517!  And of course, if you have a bible on your bed stand, open it, read any page, and learn something new.

C = Caring.  Caring to the third power.  Caring first for myself.  If you are in an airplane and you need the oxygen mask, you are always instructed to put yours on first before assisting others with theirs. The second type of caring is to care for the person(s) who listens and does not judge. These are your true friends. Take care of them by listening and not judging them as well. Caring to third power is to care for the group you are with at the time.  People need to know they are cared for before they will care about you or your causes.

A life driven by commitment to a vision, mission and goals that in some way reflect caring for self and others results is J/168J = JOY and 168 is the number of hours in a week.  And who would not want that – a fulfilling life with meaning and purpose that gives you joy 168 hours a week?  This is what I strive to attain in my own life and my hope and challenge for you!

If you don’t yet have a cause you care about, you are welcome to join one of mine, or find what it is that gives you passion and keep on keeping on.

May peace be our journey!

Ted and his friends. 

Ted Balser:  Explorer, Strategist, and Problem-Solver.

Ted claims he’s never worked a day in his life, but his resume will tell you otherwise.  Ted was named Alumni Relationship Specialist for the University of Wisconsin, Oshkosh in July of 2007.  Prior to that, he was the director of Career Services for eleven years, and the assistant director of Residence Life in charge of Operations and Facilities Management for twelve years.

His professional experiences and educational background are diverse:  He managed his own family business, was the director of Auxiliary Services and Student Union at St. Norbert College, and was the program advisor and University Center Supervisor at Northern Illinois University.

Ted’s most significant job has been Sunday School teacher for twenty years, including ten years teaching high school students.  Through working in this role, he has learned about the conflicts that people, especially young people, encounter in their journeys of discovering identity and preparing for college.   

Posted in Midlife Journey

Midlife and Menopause – Revisioning Work

The purpose of a midlife crisis, perimenopause and menopause (from a spiritual perspective) is to move us beyond childbearing to birthing ourselves…and this is as true for men as it is for women.  During midlife and menopause, we are invited to leave behind the life we have known to make room for the new life that is trying to be born through us.  In birthing our new selves, we are birthing our Soul – the unique way we are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose, connection and fulfillment in our lives and the way in which we find fulfillment by contributing to the betterment of our world. In birthing our Soul, we are also birthing a new vocation and in birthing our new vocation, we are required to revision work, what it means to us and how we want it to look in the second and third trimesters of our lives. 

Lauri in Santa Cruz, CA
Lauri in Santa Cruz, CA

Midlife and Menopause – Revisioning Work

While this is not true for everyone, the ideal outcome of the midlife process for men is a new relationship with work where work becomes less about being the “provider” and more about doing what they love.  For women, the midlife journey transitions them from being a caretaker of children and partners to tending to themselves – specifically their creative gifts, passions and dreams and finding a new vocation in this.  For women who did not choose, or were not gifted with motherhood, a shift in career from “work” to “passion” is the ideal outcome.  In order to be open to this life-giving transition, however, both men and women have to revision work, what work means to them and what they want it to look like in the second and third trimesters of their lives.

Midlife and Menopause – Letting work define us

For many, in order to revision work, we have to confront old and familiar attitudes about work.  For many, work comes to be how we are defined and how we find our validation.  We come to associate ourselves with what we do.  “Hi, I’m Lauri.  I am a counselor.”  “Hi, I’m John, I’m a financial planner.”  Unfortunately, we live in a society which supports this illusion – that we work, therefore we are.  The truth we learn in midlife, however, is that work is not who we are, it is simply what we do.  The other problem with work is that we also live in a culture which says, “In order to be recognized, validated, loved, you’d better be working and productive.”  Work then becomes a source of validation….if I’m working, I am good…if not, I’m being lazy or bad.  In midlife, we are invited to learn that none of this is true.  In fact, we discover that in order to be happy, healthy, fulfilled and whole, not only do we need meaningful work that engages our uniquely creative gift and in some way gives service to the world, we also need time to DO NOTHING!  The outcome of a healthy midlife transition is a balanced relationship between doing (something meaningful and fulfilling) and Being… other words, doing nothing!


How are you being invited to revision your relationship with work – finding something that is meaningful and fulfilling and enjoying a healthy balance between working and doing nothing?


Lauri Ann Lumby provides guidance and support for those undergoing the midlife transition.  To schedule your own personal, one-on-one mentoring session, call (920) 230-1313 or email  Sessions are available in person, over the phone and via Skype.


P.S. Thank you Bob Russo for catching me in the act of simply BEING!  🙂

Posted in Inspiration, Lessons, world changes

Beyond Connecticut – a Poet’s Invitation

Today’s blog is contributed by my dear friend – poet, author and healer – Jay Ramsay.  Thank you Jay for your heartfelt invitation for us to see beyond the violence to the changes we are ALL invited to make.  May we open our eyes, see and act so that this violence can finally stop.  You can learn more about Jay through his website:

Jay Ramsay
Jay Ramsay

The Sacrifice


They give their lives so that we can see

because we don’t have the courage of our own.

He died in Totnes High St, frozen, only 40

to the horror of the whole community.

His friend sleeps out three nights

to raise the money to buy him a cardboard coffin

when all he had was cardboard.

Homelessness, the disgrace of our affluent society

as we gaze towards stardom, tanning our egos

in its sunlamp…fame plays with fame at facing pianos.


A line of screaming children emerging from the school

guided by a terrified teacher’s hand.

The sociopath in black is angry with his mother

using her own gun to kill for good measure.

The President wipes a teary eye, while Neil Young

is blasting through the chords of ‘Throw your weapons down’.


We are a living sacrifice: slaves, Jews, Palestinians,

ME sufferers, dissidents, displaced refugees…

and the girl who camped under a big leaning tree

that the flooding rains brought down on her head.

She had nothing anyway

we are nothing anyway

until our hearts are open and our eyes begin to see.

Oh crucified ones of this Everywhere Coming

that is now our reality.

– Jay Ramsay; December 16, 2012

The Holy Cow of War

She’s not beautiful and honey-brown on an Indian street

she’s the front end of a bus covered in khaki

(and weapons advertisements) randomly leaving the road

to mow down pedestrians as the radiator becomes a mouth

a maw, then a tank phallus emerges—

before she backs off ready to charge: her eyes

full of hate-filled street faces fuelled

on an eye for an eye, retaliation at any price

rage denying grief, and more rage, and if she

ever had a just cause she’s a runaway whore

that needs lampooning, and more, and more

no space for any posturing or the lie of justification

the endless excuse that leads to the death of more innocence

more fractured ruined lives the world over,

SHE MUST BE OUTLAWED—so we have to

find another way, to talk like human beings

not calculating monsters, sociopaths

legitimate squaddies on a psychotic pub-crawl

called defence of any realm—Hell—indefensible;

SHE HAS TO BE STOPPED like a ranting patient

reaching his end-sentence while everybody waits

holding the space, more more glorification

no more retro nostalgia dressed up as poetry either,

Ms Ostrich…imagine Bob Marley being right

and not just dreaming off the end of a spliff:

NO MORE WAR between nations or neighbours,

but the far harder labour of loving peace

that goes on everywhere unreported

and climbs on my podium to take gold

for thousands of years, and an age to come.

– Jay Ramsay; December 4, 2012

Jay Ramsay is an internationally recognized poet and author of over 30 books including Crucible of Love, The Poet in You and Gita – a dialogue of love and freedom.  As a psychotherapist, Jay’s speciality is to help his clients uncover and express their true feelings, emotionally and creatively, and to find ways of translating that authenticity into action. He works with people of all backgrounds and at all stages of our life journey. Jay has 15 years in private practice, and has been accredited with UKCP and APP since 2004. Jay also works energetically as an experienced spiritual healer and is a full healer member of the National Federation of Spiritual Healers (MNFSH, since 1998).  Jay lives in Stroud, England and can be reached through his website:

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Spiritual Formation

Spiritual Teachings for Children

Years ago I was looking for a spiritual story for children that I could use to teach my own children about the chakras, and about the spiritual truths I had come to embrace.  After a fruitless search and sharing my frustration with a colleague and friend, she responded, “Why don’t you write it yourself?”  So, I did.  Below is that story, currently titled, Sons and Daughters of Freedom.  PS….it is a great story for grown ups too!  🙂

Sons and Daughters of Freedom

I’m made of God’s Spirit inside and out,

this is the truth that life is about.

Energy flowing from my head to my toes

Keeping me healthy and helping me grow.

Nurturing this Spirit will help me to be

my most true self, loving and free.

The power center at the base of my spine,

reminds me the earth is ours, yours and mine.

The gifts of creation promised to me,

blessings received most abundantly.

Food, clothing, shelter, this place feels safe.

There’s always enough, fear can’t show its face.

The center in my belly is where new life is made.

Here, nurtured dreams and visions won’t fade

When secure in the truth that support will be mine

As I create life with our Source that’s Divine.

Courage is centered where ribs separate.

Believing the truth, “I AM GREAT!”

I can be and do and live what is true.

Fear cannot stop me or make me feel blue.

At the center of my chest lies a heart filled with joy.

Love is what made me and each girl and boy.

I breathe deep of the love and the joy that is mine,

as I share it with others, their hearts too will shine.

Hearing my truth and speaking it well,

Allowing the life in me its story to tell.

Freedom is mine, not bars, ropes or chains.

My throat sings out its happy refrain.

I see with my eyes and know in my mind,

That truth is really easy to find.

A dream, a vision, a feeling a thought –

is how I know what is good and what’s not.

Through the top of my head flows the Spirit of peace –

The Divine Source within me that never will cease.

When I’m quiet and still, I know me to be

One with this Spirit and all that I see.

I’m made of God’s Spirit inside and out.

This is the truth that life is about.

Energy flowing from my head to my toes,

Keeping me healthy and helping me grow.

Nurturing this Spirit will help me to be

my most true self, Loving and Free.

copyright 2009  Lauri Ann Lumby