Posted in New Kids, New World

Our Children are the Change We’ve been Waiting for.

but first they need our help….

Last week I held the first gathering of magical children. We met in my living room with their parents present; and we discussed all the things that brought these children here:

  • Feelings of not fitting in.
  • Sensitivity to this world (food, spells, lights, sounds, violence, etc.)
  • Strange spiritual experiences. (not strange to me, but strange to the typical human)
  • Empathy (the ability to feel and sense other people’s feelings).
  • A desire to help people around them and the world.
  • A deep feeling as if something is very wrong – very wrong with the world and many of the people living in it.
  • A profound sense that they are here for a reason and a purpose, but not finding any support in this culture for fulfilling this mission.
  • Not finding support in the current educational system (falling through the cracks).
  • And more.

My heart is with these kids because I raised two just like them and have been a source of support and guidance for many others. These are the young people who are here to build the new world after the current world is finished with its collapse.  Actually, they are not waiting until it is done; they are building the new world right this moment as we speak (and watch and hope and dream).

These are the kids who came into this world expecting it to be the world they already know in the deepest part of their Soul, only to be shocked and disappointed by the violence and separation that prevail upon this earth. This is NOT what these kids signed up for…..but it is.  Not because they were meant to be disappointed, but because they came here to build the world they already know in their hearts, and they need the special gifts and sensitivities that they possess to do the work they came here to do.  In the meantime, however, they need to be affirmed, validated and supported in naming, claiming, nurturing and cultivating these gifts so they can use them to build the new world.  And it is our job to help them.

Raising Magical Children

As one who has successfully raised (and continue to support the growth and development of) two of these magical children, I can attest that the work of raising these children begins with us. If we were gifted with a magical child or two, it is because we are magic ourselves.  But the question is, do we know our magic and are we using it?  For many, the answer sadly, is no.  We do not live in a culture that recognizes or supports us in the identification or development of these gifts.  Instead, we are told to comply with the societal norms and tribal rules that govern our patriarchal and capitalistic culture.  In order to own our magic, we have to break free.  We have to pierce through the veil of societal conditioning that tells us only that which is objectively measurable is real, that intuition and empathy are just our imagination, and that there is no communication with other worlds (for example).  My experience has shown me otherwise.

Helping our special children begins by helping ourselves. We must come to know who we are – REALLY – our gifts and talents, our personality and temperament, and all the parts of ourselves we have rejected or hidden away out of fear that to our world they would not be acceptable.  Then we have to pierce through the societal conditioning that has hindered us from being our true, magnificent and magical selves.

Then, while we are doing this work for ourselves, we can support our children in doing the same. This doesn’t mean we need to rescue them from or remove them from the existing culture (though for some this might be the answer).  I raised my children right here in the middle of small-town America within the traditional public education system.  Fortunately for my son (who only tolerates school) there was an alternative option in high school which allowed him to capitalize on his predominantly kinesthetic learning style.  Now they both attend a state university which also follows an outmoded patriarchal model.  With my help they have successfully navigated the dying institutions – taking from them that which serves and leaving behind the rest.

Knowing Ourselves/Knowing Our Children

Supporting our own self-knowledge helps us in knowing our children. When we know ourselves, we can identify and accept the unique gifts (and challenges) our children possess.  The Enneagram, for example, is one of the tools of self-knowledge that I have found helpful.  In using the Enneagram I have come to know myself – the lens through which I perceive my life experiences and the challenges and gifts inherent within this lens.  With knowledge of the Enneagram, I am also able to understand other people and their unique temperaments.  My daughter, for example is a Type 9 on the Enneagram.  This makes her devoted, loyal, steadfast and persistent.  But it also makes her slow to change.  I understand this about her and help support her through new things until she is comfortable doing it on her own. I also try to never spring something new on her out of sensitivity to her needs.  My son is the opposite.  As a Type 7, he is easily bored.  He loves new things, loves to be active and loves a challenge.  With this in mind, I make sure he has lots of activities and I honor his need to be engaged.  With the Myers-Briggs, I have come to understand that my daughter is an introvert like I am, and my son an extrovert.  This helps me to support them in getting their energy needs met (introversion vs. extroversion is all about how we get our energy).

When we know our children, we are able to support them in knowing themselves – their gifts, their talents along with the shadow. In doing this, we are able to love them without condition, accepting them for who they are instead of trying to make them fit into some pre-determined societal mold. THIS more than anything is what our children need – to be seen and accepted for who they are and to be empowered in their gifts.

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Posted in End of the World Prophecies, New World

A Dying World and Dreams of the Apocalypse

Last night I had ANOTHER apocalyptic dream. I’ve had several (many).  In every dream there is a similar theme – the world around me is collapsing and myself and either a group of friends or my children are trying to save the world.  These dreams always end the same – me waking up completely exhausted and hungover from the frustration over not being able to complete the dream.  I am never able to do what I had set out to do – save the world.

Today it hit me!

 

 

The world in which we have been living – the one based in fear, power and control is in the midst of its own demise (cue Oingo Boingo!). It is imploding upon itself and everyday new revelations come forth demonstrating this reality.  This is the world that has only served the very few and which has been built on the backs of those who have become their indentured servants.  As the very few have grown in power, and their servants have become disempowered, the corruption, lies and betrayals upon which the dying world has been built are coming forth – actually, flooding forth.

Here’s an example of one that I am certain served as the inspiration of my latest dream:

A person shared on FB about the recent changes in the health insurance plan. Their deductible has increased exponentially.  Mind you, this person works for one of the riches corporations in the world.  I did a little research and discovered their top execs make upwards of $10Mil a year and have full benefits at no cost to themselves.  It is only “the worker bees” who have to pay for their health insurance.  HMMMMMMM……something is rotten in Denmark.  I made this point on FB and you should have seen the people running to the defense of their employer!  Ok…whatever.  I got my own undies in a twist over this and henceforth came the dream.

But….here is the thing. THAT world is dying.  People are waking up.  They are asking questions.  They are seeing the truth.  And if the “worker bees” aren’t asking the questions, the very few keep putting their foot in their own mouths, revealing exactly HOW they have become so privileged.  “The worker bees” will only put up with this for so long.  In a hive, when the queen stops taking care of her workers, the workers hastily find themselves a new queen.

 

It is long past time for a new queen! And the queen is rising. In a hive, the “seed queens” are already there.  The nurse bees simply locate the most viable larvae and start feeding them royal jelly.  Henceforth the new queen is born.  The same thing is happening in our own world.  The queens are being made ready to take their place as leaders of the new world.  These are the women and men who carry a vision of love instead of a vision of fear. These are the people who desire a world where the needs of the many are favored over the needs of the few and who understand that if we don’t start taking care of this planet we live on, it will destroy us so as to save itself.

These new queens are not only grown-ups. They are the children who came here expecting a world that is one, only to discover a world that is divided.  They know they cannot “fix” the broken world.  Instead, they long for its demise so they can build the new world that already resides within their heart. These are the Gen Y and Gen Z kids that the dying world fears – calling them lazy, irresponsible and screen addicts instead of honoring them for the amazing gifts they are bringing to our world.  I for one LOVE these kids (Cue  The B52’s)!

It is for the sake of these new queens and the new world we are called to bring forth that I am here. I am not hear to fix, save or heal the dying world (let it die!).  I am here to birth something new and I AM NOT ALONE!

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in Inspiration, New World

Creating the World We Want to Live In

As the patriarchal world in its death throes becomes more and more divisive and more and more violent, I have become increasingly aware of the fact that THAT is a world I do not want to live in. I did not come here to fight or to hate my fellow human beings. I came here to love.  It is for this reason that like my Tuatha de Danaan ancestors before me, I am deciding to “turn sideways into the light.”  I am choosing to step away from the world of hatred and fear and into a world of my own creation made only out of love.

This does not mean that I am not aware of the dire issues facing our world or that I am not using my own gifts to support the betterment of the world. It means that I am no longer engaging in the violence, the arguments or the fights and for the sake of my own well-being, I am disconnecting from the places where this violence runs rampant (ie: Facebook).  For the sake of my own soul, I refuse to place myself in harms-way or in an environment that might otherwise tempt me into fear and hatred and away from love.

In choosing love, I am creating the world I want to live in – far away from the loud, screaming, self-centered and narcissistic world that begs for our attention. Instead, I am tending to myself and in doing so, creating the foundation upon which I can be a source of loving support for others who want to do the same.  As more and more of us make this choice, we are depriving the patriarchal/hierarchical world of its food-source, thereby hastening its death.  (Hurray!).

THIS is how we create the new world as the old world lies there dying:

  • We become diligent in choosing love instead of fear.
  • We recognize when our own fears are being triggered and we do the work of healing and transforming these fears.
  • We learn to identify our needs, claim them and set boundaries around them.
  • We turn away from our conditioning and toward the voice of our soul.
  • We recognize that the material world has absolutely no bearing on our happiness and that peace and joy can only come from within.
  • We find the practices that support us in finding peace within and we DO THEM!
  • We say no to that which causes us harm and yes to what supports our own wellbeing.
  • We connect with others who want to live from love and we support each other in this endeavor.
  • We walk gently upon this planet.
  • We treat ourselves with kindness and then we share that kindness with others.

Hmmmmmm. As I write these words, the following scripture comes to mind.  Perhaps Isaiah was not prophesying the coming of just one man – but meant his words as an invitation for all of us and as a recipe for building a new world:

Here is my servant, whom I uphold,
my chosen, in whom my soul delights;
I have put my spirit upon him;
he will bring forth justice to the nations.
He will not cry or lift up his voice,
or make it heard in the street;
a bruised reed he will not break,
and a dimly burning wick he will not quench;
he will faithfully bring forth justice.
He will not grow faint or be crushed
until he has established justice in the earth;
and the coastlands wait for his teaching.

Thus says God, the Lord,
who created the heavens and stretched them out,
who spread out the earth and what comes from it,
who gives breath to the people upon it
and spirit to those who walk in it:
I am the Lord, I have called you in righteousness,
I have taken you by the hand and kept you;
I have given you as a covenant to the people,[a]
a light to the nations,
    to open the eyes that are blind,
to bring out the prisoners from the dungeon,
from the prison those who sit in darkness.

 I am the Lord,that is my name;
my glory I give to no other,
nor my praise to idols.
See, the former things have come to pass,
and new things I now declare;
before they spring forth,
I tell you of them.

Isaiah 42: 1-9

 

Meditation Activity: Prayerfully re-read the passage from Isaiah above, replacing “He” with your own pronoun….or (making it more universal) with They. As you are reading this passage in a more personal way, how does it now speak to you?  How are you being called to fulfill this teaching? How are you being called to create your own world anew and in doing so, showing others how to do the same?

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Posted in Death, New World, Spiritual Direction, world changes

How to Survive Soul Death

The short answer to the question: “How do you survive soul death” is YOU DON’T. Soul death is what many are experiencing right now as we are facing the death of the world that we have known and the void between what we have known and what has not yet come into being.

Soul death can be recognized by:

  • Feeling as if you are weighted down
  • Life feels as if you are walking through wet cement
  • You feel heavy, depressed, unmotivated, paralyzed.
  • NOTHING seems to be happening in your outside world.
  • Inside you feel vacant and empty.
  • You feel the need to weep but you don’t know why.
  • It feels as if there is nothing to hang on to, nothing holding your attention or interest in this world.
  • You don’t want to die, but THIS doesn’t feel much like living.
  • You are SOUL WEARY. Exhausted.  Worn out.  Physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
  • The spiritual practices that normally provide some measure of comfort feel empty and lifeless. They provide no relief.

Symptoms of soul death seem to be the common theme for sensitives at this point in our human evolution. The world we have known is dying (thank God) and we are in that void between what has been and what has not yet been brought forth into our lives and world.

There is no surviving soul death because death is the point. All that we have done, been, believed, been a part of in the old (patriarchal/hierarchical) world needs to come to an end.  We cannot leave the old world behind while clinging to what gave our lives meaning and purpose in that world.  Neither can we leave that world behind while clinging to the beliefs, structures, practices or habits that supported our survival in that world. It all needs to go.  It all needs to die. And that is terrifying.

Once we have allowed the death of all that has been, we enter INTO THE VOID! This is the state of complete emptiness where we know nothing and where WE ARE NOTHING.  This can be a frightening place – especially for those (like me) who seek after some measure of surety.  We long to have something to hold on to.  In the void, there is literally nothing, so there is nothing to hang on to.  Instead, our only option is to SURRENDER. Here, instead of resisting, we enter deeply into our soul death.  We allow ourselves to courageously face the darkness, the emptiness, the nothingness and to feel the deep pain of separation, knowing that this perceived separation is only an illusion for in the perceived darkness where it appears there is nothing, THERE IS EVERYTHING.  Everything that has ever come into form came into being from this place of emptiness.  In entering into the nothing we discover EVERYTHING.

Surviving soul death requires to us surrender to it….enter into it….be with and allow it. Survival comes in allowing the death and being with it every step of the way. Only then can the new life come into being.

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Posted in New World, non-violence, Oneness with God

Heal Jerusalem Heal the World

For 5000 years Jerusalem has been the epicenter of Western cultural and religious conflict. The cause of this conflict is not Judaism, Islam or Christianity, but something even more ancient than any of the three religions who vie for the privilege of calling Jerusalem “home.”  If we truly want peace in the Middle East, this something more ancient needs to be healed.  In healing the wound that for 5000 years has festered in Jerusalem, we will be taking a quantum leap toward the healing of our world.

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We don’t know exactly how, when, why, or under what circumstances it happened, but somewhere around 5000 years ago, there was a major shift in the cultural and spiritual beliefs of the Western world (For a detailed description of this shift and the cultural ramifications, please read the work of Riane Eisler). Where before this shift people lived in relative peace and harmony, after the shift, there has been nothing but war. Prior to this shift, the spirituality of the Mediterranean region was earth-centered, and the Divine was known as both female and male, both of which existed as humanity’s loving parents.  After the shift, the feminine was supplanted, along with her beloved partner, and both were replaced with an exclusively male, vengeful, jealous and warring god.  Judaism, Islam and Christianity emerged out of the wound of this split and have been at war with each other and themselves ever since.

This primordial shift represents the core wound of Western culture – the separation of holy masculine and feminine resulting in what I have come to call either the unholy or wounded aspects of our human nature. When the holy aspects of our human nature are supplanted, the result is a culture rooted in and based in fear, power and control.  In Western culture, this is the patriarchal/hierarchical structure which has ruled for the past 5000 years.  In their imbalanced expressions, Judaism, Islam and Christianity embody this patriarchal/hierarchical privilege which can result only in conflict because where there is privilege, there will always be those “without.”

Hence the violence that has defined Western culture for 5000 years which is currently playing out in Jerusalem – the city known as “God’s peace” even before Judaism began (GN 14: 18). This current wave of violence is the same as every previous conflict over who gets to claim Jerusalem as their personal possession – the Jews, the Moslems or the Christians – a strange projection of the age-long battle over whose God is the true God. In their imbalanced expressions none of their gods are “the true god” for they are gods made out of fear, power and control.

The truth that the primordial tradition knew is that the Divine is love and that this Divine bears many (infinite) faces and an equal number of names – or as Rumi said, “is nameless and faceless.” This is the Divine Abraham, Moses, Mohammed and Jesus all came to know.  God as love.  Until we, like the ancients to whom we give credit as the founders of our Western religions traditions, know this love within ourselves, we will never know peace.  And until we know this love, we will never know what the ancients knew, that Jerusalem is at once no body’s home and everybody’s home for God’s peace is known not by a temple on a hill, but by what we know in our hearts.  When we heal the separation between Jerusalem (God’s peace) and ourselves, only then can we begin to heal our world.

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Posted in Inspiration, Love Warriors, New World, world changes

Love Warriors – Sharing the Love

Please join us in turning our world from fear into love.  We can all be Love Warriors. Copy and save the memes below to your computer and then share liberally through your social media sites!  Please and thank you!

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Posted in men, New World, self-actualization, women, world changes

A Man Speaking Truth

A HUGE Thank you to Bob Russo, a loyal reader of this blog in whom I have found a kindred spirit and spiritual brother and friend. Below is Bob’s beautifully articulated response to my recent blogs inviting the men to speak to the ongoing question of gender roles and how we understand the flow of the masculine and feminine within us.  Bob beautifully speaks what I could only hope to have the words to say.  THANK YOU BOB!  Following Bob’s words is my own response (warning:  transparency and feeling alert):

From Bob:

Hi Lauri,

I have been meaning to respond to your article on “Inviting Men to Join Us”. So, it feels good to finally get around to it. I tried to post this on your blog but was unable to. Hope you had a relaxing Thanksgiving.

My response may come across as “politically incorrect”. But, my intention is not to be insensitive to anyone but speak from my heart. And, I don’t claim that what I am about to write is correct – but only as I have perceived things over the years.

IMO, both the feminine and male energies are being compromised by the current attitude that exists in America. The women’s movement in the early 1970s was an effort by women to gain recognition for the gifts they have and can contribute in a male-dominated society. It was a comprehensive effort by women to gain the recognition and equality as human beings that they deserve, and an effort to assert control over their own lives.

Unfortunately, this movement encouraged women to become more “masculine” in order to be accepted in a “man’s” world. And in so doing, many of the graceful feminine qualities that are uniquely part of a woman’s makeup have been significantly discounted. Some of the qualities that I am referring to are motherhood, nurturing, protection (of children), intuition, feelings, space, receptivity, inwardness, softness, communication, compassion, and so on. I’m not saying that these qualities are only in women, no. But, it is my belief that they are more pronounced in women than men.

Regarding men, the current attitude in our society as to what it means to “be a man” has undermined the male energy as well. Society often equates “manhood” with such qualities as aggressiveness, overwork, materialism, strong egos, and war. This has caused a lot of confusion and disruption for many men today who are trying to find their place in this chaotic world. What’s been lost in this definition of manhood are many of the positive inherent qualities in men such as protection (of the feminine and family), provider, warmth, giving, consistency, vision, clarity, activity, analytical, and so on. Again, most women share many of these qualities with men. But IMO, they are more naturally a part of a man’s makeup than a woman’s.

We are witnessing a breakdown of both the masculine and feminine energy in our society, and consequently a major collapse of the family unit. Women are no longer honored for being mothers or care givers, for example, but are given high strokes when they are CEOs of a large firm or working 12 hours a day along-side their male co-workers. And, men are no longer praised for being good providers and consistent in their lives but given strokes for being more feminine and passive, or at the opposite extreme, for being aggressive and survivors of war. No wonder we’re so confused and messed up. We can only deny our inherent nature for so long.

As you know, each of us is comprised of both feminine and male qualities. It is this integration that make us the unique person we are. We become a fully-functioning man or woman when these qualities exist within us in a balanced way. As a man, I need to know when to hit the gas or put on the brakes. My long-term vision in combination with my wife’s intuition have provided us with a reliable road map during our marriage. When the natural qualities of both sexes work together, good things happen. It’s that simple! But, when they are out-of-balance or one dominates the other, like we are witnessing today, suffering and war result.

Bob Russo

 

My response:

Bob, YES YES YES YES YES!  You eloquently articulate the feelings that are living in my heart, that have been part of my own lived experience and exist in my deep inner knowing.  Thank you for speaking what I could not find the words to express.  This is one of the many reasons I appreciate your presence so much in my life!  Thank you!

As for being “politically incorrect,” the world in which we are currently living is humanly incorrect and our politics simply support this incorrectness.  Our job as prophets is to shine the light on what is no longer working so that something new may come into being.  We need to speak our truth for this to occur….so speak away!!!!!!  (Besides, I don’t find your words to be politically incorrect in the least, in fact they reflect a politic we SHOULD be embracing – IMO).

At the risk of being “politically incorrect” myself, I want to speak to what you wrote from my own lived experience.  When you speak of the devaluing of what have traditionally been considered the inherent gifts and calling of women, I agree there seems to be a correlation of this devaluing to the women’s movement.  I have often said that while the women’s movement was necessary (critical, in fact), there has been a damaging effect on both women and men because of it – for exactly the reasons you stated.  In my own lived experience, I have really struggled with this.  My deepest drive is to love, nurture, care for, heal, support, build connections, teach and form – tasks we traditionally associate with the feminine.  I have lived this out professionally and most joyfully in my role as a mother.  But NEVER have these gifts been valued. Neither have the masculine traits that reside within me.

First, we live in a culture that doesn’t value the work I do.  I have been expected to do this work for free and criticized for daring to charge for the services “their priest gives them for free.” Because of the structure of our society, most people don’t see value in the inner work of coming to know themselves.  Instead they would rather spend their money on things.  When in the Church I was condemned for daring to think for myself, stand up for my truth and for not being silent and obedient (the expected feminine role).  In my marriage none of what I did in my role as mother, running a household, managing two businesses, taking care of the details of medical appointments, bookkeeping, etc. etc. etc. was valued – it was simply assumed that I would and should do it because it was my job as “the wife.”  When I asked for help I was told, “It doesn’t bother me.  If it bothers you, you do it.” While doing all of this I was also expected to be provider but the work I did outside of the home wasn’t a “real job,” and therefore had no value and neither did the money I brought home from that job.  To say that I felt resentment for not being valued would be an understatement. (I have a deep scar on my forehead showing the effects of resentment not tended to.)  Now as a divorced, single, working mother of two, I find I have to do all of it and quite frankly I am frickin EXHAUSTED.  I am finding I can’t do it all and I don’t want to do it all!!!!!

I know I am not alone in this.  The current structure of our society does not value the inherently feminine as you so eloquently described:  motherhood, nurturing, protection (of children), intuition, feelings, space, receptivity, inwardness, softness, communication, compassion, and so on.  Neither does our culture seem to value the masculine as it resides within women.  As a woman, I long for the feminine and for the traditionally masculine qualities I embody (courage, strength, risk taking, independence, etc.) to be valued.  At the same time, having to take on too much of the masculine qualities (provision, protection, etc.) is killing me.  It works against my nature.  It has caused me harm.  When I am too much in the driving, striving, trying to succeed mode, I become ill.  So I find myself stuck between a rock and a hard place – longing to fulfill the feminine longings within me while exercising meaningful and fulfilling work in a healthy and balanced way that does not do harm to myself, while trying to provide for myself and my children.  UGH!  The cost of caring for myself in a disasterously dysfunctional and imbalanced world has been staggering.

And I feel for the men – for exactly the reasons you stated:

the current attitude in our society as to what it means to “be a man” has undermined the male energy as well. Society often equates “manhood” with such qualities as aggressiveness, overwork, materialism, strong egos, and war. This has caused a lot of confusion and disruption for many men today who are trying to find their place in this chaotic world. What’s been lost in this definition of manhood are many of the positive inherent qualities in men such as protection (of the feminine and family), provider, warmth, giving, consistency, vision, clarity, activity, analytical, and so on.

I have also seen the demonization of what we have been conditioned to think of as feminine in men – nurturing, caring, giving, healing, intuitive, etc.  I believe this demonizing has done great harm to men and caused them to ignore or suppress these traits as they find them within themselves.  I have seen the inner struggle this creates in men, especially in those who have been raised to be “manly men.”  This makes me sad.  We are clearly in need of a cultural overhaul…the likes of which we have never known!

As much as our culture wants us to believe we can and should be able to do it on our own…..WE CANNOT.  As much as our culture says that women and men should be able to do the same things and be equal in them, we cannot if we want to be healthy.  Looking at the current state of our culture we are anything but healthy.  We are doing a terrible disservice to ourselves and to each other in the values we have embraced as a culture and quite frankly, it is killing us.  Something’s got to give!

Or rather, everything’s got to give!  Every single way in which we have defined ourselves as a culture is currently up for evaluation – IMO, especially how we know ourselves.  I believe that in order to arrive at a healthier balance within our culture we first have to come to know ourselves.  As it relates to the masculine and feminine we need to come to know how those qualities are present within us and how those qualities are helping or harming us.  In order to do this we need to be REALLY HONEST with ourselves.  Are we (male or female) called to be provider and protector?  Are we (male or female) called to receive, allow, nurture, etc?  How are we called to do these things in a way that is healthy and supportive for ourselves and for those around us?  In this, it is not about male or female, masculine or feminine, it is about understanding what is unique within us as human beings, owning and valuing it…..both for ourselves and for others.  Maybe in doing this for ourselves we will begin to see the transformation in our culture that many of us long for.  And Oh My God…on some days it is sooo hard trying to live ahead of the curve.  😉

I know this doesn’t even scratch the tip of the iceberg of the healing we need in our culture and in our world……and THANK YOU Bob for your beautiful contribution to this conversation.  As ever it is unfolding.

 

Love,

Lauri

 

 

 

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Finding a New Language in the Non-Dual World

Yesterday I received the following response to my recent blog, Inviting the Men to Join Us.  First of all I want to thank Shakur for offering these insights.  They could not be more perfectly timed.  Please read Shakur’s insights below, followed by my response.

Lauri, I really appreciate the call for men and women to join together and create the world that we wish to live in and the work you are doing to help more femininity blossom in our world. As a man who has been deeply involved in spiritual pursuits over the last decade and someone who tends to appreciate feminine traits more than most men I have met, I also appreciate the acknowledgement that the systems we have been living in affect both men and women.

However, I struggle with the dichotomy you seem to be creating, which I think many others do as well, in defining some traits and behaviors as holy or divine and therefore others as unholy and toxic. I think the frequency with which we, especially those involved in spiritual community, divide while calling people together is counterproductive. From what I can see in doing so we are just changing the divide from men vs women to holy people vs unholy people. And from what I have seen there are many traits and behaviors that some would label as unholy / toxic masculinity that others would consider holy. When a man (or a woman for that matter) seeks to preserve their culture, defend their family, believes that competition leads to excellence and is desirable, I often see those in spiritual communities or in progressive communities denounce and judge them. And I believe that act of judgement is counterproductive as it tends to generate anger and shame on both sides, and as I said just changes the dividing line instead of diminishing it.

I believe that if we want more peace we are going to need to accept that there are many views of what is holy, that as Jesus said we will be surprised to see who is sitting at his table, and we will need to be ok with disagreeing about those things and allow each other the ability to choose different ways of living. I say this trusting that we can be one and yet be many, while understanding it doesn’t mean it will be easy. I say this in the belief that accepting these differences will allow those of us who do wish to create the union of masculine and feminine, and that share a similar viewpoint about what that would look like, can focus our energies on coming together and creating that which we wish to see in the world without being distracted by the effort to coerce anyone else into living the way we want to. And honestly, I think if we did that and created places where what you describe as the divine feminine and masculine come together and support one another that many people who would not have thought they would want that will come to see the beauty in it.

I hesitate to post this because I am concerned it will come across as combative and my views on this won’t be popular, but I offer them in the hope that we can have some dialogue about it and have the chance to broaden my way of thinking as well.
– shakur

Shakur, I cannot thank you enough for sharing your thoughts and concerns.  You are absolutely right on every point.  I don’t find your sharing combative in the least.  Instead, I find it compelling.  There are a million thoughts I have in regards to your sharing, and I think the bottom line is that our language is failing us.  Even in writing my most recent posts on what I am calling the “Holy Masculine,” I found myself struggling to find appropriate words.  There are no words in my native tongue that truly describe what I am feeling in my heart and in my soul – a longing for union – where as a species we can come together in celebration of what is holy and sacred and unique and magnificent in each of us while also celebrating the things within us that make us human – insecurities, fears, unhealed wounds, illness, disease, etc.  And yes, what one person considers holy another might judge as profane.  And yet, I believe we are being called into an even greater expression of our humanness where we might begin to move beyond judgment toward loving compassion.  And yet, our language has no words for this.  Instead we are stuck with the inherent dualism of the English language where everything is either/or, black or white/ right or wrong/ male or female/ etc. etc. etc.

Image credit: Robert M. Place

Shakur, the phoenix I see rising out of your beautiful words is the idea that as we move through this evolution in consciousness, we need to move beyond the words we use to separate – male/female, masculine/feminine, holy/unholy, and find something new. What is beautiful about this is that as the English language is inherently dualistic and there are few words for the fluid movement within unity, we will have to work together to find/create a new language.  Shakur, perhaps this is part of your calling….to help us find a new language that more closely describes a humanity that is one in celebrating diversity and where we are all empowered to find our own unique expression of our personhood.  My sense is that this will be an ongoing conversation as we find our way and our place in this new world we are creating.  Shakur, thank you for the amazing gifts and insights you bring to this co-creation!!!!

 

Love,

Lauri