Posted in detachment, End of the World Prophecies, New World, world changes

Finding Peace in the Unknown

Good morning!  These are interesting times in which we are living and as an empath I am feeling it all.  This is what I posted on Facebook earlier this morning:

FRUSTRATION is the energy of the day. A night spent with dreams of frustration and woke up with an overwhelming external sense of frustration. This morning I prayed hard and will soon be returning to prayer to help loosen and free this energy – an energy that is not mine but is the current energy of our world. Humanity is unnecessarily fighting a battle against each other. There is literally nothing to fight against. To make it through the Covid-19 event, we have to simply let it be. Let it runs its course. Find our own peace in the midst of the external chaos. The only one we need to be concerned about is ourselves and our own peace. Find that peace and stay there. Once the chaos has completed its task the dust will settle and then we can begin to create our new world. In the meantime, let the chaos do its work of clearing the old to make way for the new.

Not only am I feeling this frustration on a global level, I am feeling it personally.  It’s not my frustration, but it is the inner conflict I am feeling as I stand in the middle between people I dearly love.  As it relates to Covid-19, the current conflict seems to be centered around:

Stay at Home vs. Return to Work

I have dear friends sitting at both ends of this spectrum.  Some are actively protesting the stay-at-home orders and want to see businesses back up and running.  Many of these are business owners themselves, so I get it.  On the other end of the spectrum are those I deeply love who are actively protesting “return to work.”  Many of these are considered seriously at-risk for not only contracting but dying from the virus.  So I get it.  The challenge with these opposing movements is that there is so much we do not know.  We are living in a state of complete unknown.

 

  • By staying at home are we simply delaying the inevitable?
  • Are we missing our opportunity to gain herd immunity?
  • If the original intention for the stay-at-home was to flatten the curve while also giving medical facilities an opportunity to gear up for what would eventually happen anyway and if the medical facilities are ready, does it make sense to stay at home?
  • Has the stay at home order simply been a government play to put us into a state of fear and to put us at their mercy?
  • Has the stay at home only provided an opportunity for those who created the virus to launch their vaccine (and God knows what might be in that vaccine?)?
  • Will returning to work put more people in danger?
  • Will millions of more people die because we returned to work too quickly?
  • Is it even safe for people to return to work?
  • If we return to work, how do we protect those who remain at serious risk?

 

The reality is that we have no idea the answer to any of these questions.  We don’t know what will happen when we return to work and we don’t know what will happen by continuing to stay at home. Meanwhile businesses are struggling and some will not survive the shutdown.  Government support has not been sufficient for many and has not been forthcoming for some.  Millions of people have contracted the virus and nearly 70,000 have died (in the U.S.). People are afraid.  And we do not know what we are looking at now, let alone in 2 years from now (when the CDC predicts this will finally be over).

We are living in a state of complete unknown.  Even that which is proclaimed as known one day changes the next.  We don’t know what information we are being given is true and what is made up.  We don’t know which conspiracy theory will prove true and which ones are simply false.  We don’t know which protests are real and which have been staged with paid actors to create an environment of fear.

The world has gone insane (or rather, the insanity that has always been there is simply coming forward into the light).  At the heart of this insanity are two things:

FEAR and GRIEF

People are afraid and have been made to be afraid.  On the outside, the fear is over the virus, but when we look deeper the fear is over our inability to control the unknown.

And beneath the fear of the unknown, is the even deeper fear which is the very real fear that arises in the face of death.  I’m not talking about the fear of dying from Covid-19 (though for many that fear is real).  Instead, I’m talking about an even bigger death.

Whether people are aware of this consciously or not, the world as we have known it is dying.  The world made out of fear, power and control is crashing down around our feet and in its dying, it is showing its hideous face.  And all this flailing about that we are currently witnessing in our world is the very real and human reaction to what we do not know or understand and that over which we have no control.

Herein lies the remedy to the current insanity we are experiencing: the world as we have known it is dying.  It has never been sustainable (except for the very very few).  Our best course of action is to stand back, get the heck out of the way, and let it burn.  We cannot control its death and we are hurting ourselves by trying.  For the sake of our own peace, we can acknowledge that there is too much we do not know while surrendering to the fact that we cannot control the old world in its dying.

And as the old world is dying, what if instead of creating opposing positions and fighting and arguing with each other over what we do not know and cannot control we came together in cooperation.  What if while the world is burning itself to the ground we came together (at a safe distance) in conversations around what we might begin building instead?

Posted in Authentic Freedom, Being Human, detachment, Forgiveness

The Journey from Vengeance to Compassion

I hear the whisperings of many:
“Terror on every side!
Denounce! let us denounce him!”
All those who were my friends
are on the watch for any misstep of mine.
“Perhaps he will be trapped; then we can prevail,
and take our vengeance on him.”
But the LORD is with me, like a mighty champion:
my persecutors will stumble, they will not triumph.
In their failure they will be put to utter shame,
to lasting, unforgettable confusion.
O LORD of hosts, you who test the just,
who probe mind and heart,
Let me witness the vengeance you take on them,
for to you I have entrusted my cause.
Sing to the LORD,
praise the LORD,
For he has rescued the life of the poor
from the power of the wicked!

Jeremiah 20: 10-13

 

I must humbly admit I sympathize with Jeremiah in his rant against his enemies and his desire to see vengeance meted upon them. In the many years I have had to deal with those who “hate me” I have gone from praying for their suffering and basking in satisfaction as I watch karma enacting its justice upon them to where I am today – still finding some satisfaction in karma (I’m still human!) but mostly having compassion for the suffering they continue to choose while I (mostly) live in peace. Not a peace born out of satisfaction for karmic retribution, but my own peace in knowing the Love that I am in God and doing my best to live from that Love.

The peace that I now know is the fruit of 25 years of diligent attention to my spiritual practice. This is a practice that goes beyond sitting in silence and includes unwavering accountability to everything within me that might otherwise infringe upon my ability to know Love. This unwavering accountability has nothing to do with freeing myself from “sin” out of a fear of Divine retribution. Instead, it is an acknowledgment that I have wounds from my past, social conditioning and fears that have kept me from knowing God’s love – not because God’s love is being withheld, but because these wounds, etc. prevented me from feeling and knowing the Love that has been here all along.

In knowing this Love, I feel whole and complete within myself. When I waver from this feeling of wholeness, I tend to the wound that is still asking for healing. Now, this is where I’m going to lean a bit in Jeremiah’s direction in describing in contrast the inner life of my “enemies.” For the record, I no longer consider these people my enemies, but I know that to them, I am the enemy. I am the enemy because I dare to question, challenge, and confront the doctrine they cling to – a doctrine they cling to mostly out of fear of God’s punishment.

These are those I have come to refer to as “the self-appointed inquisition” who for years harassed me, tried to sabotage my work, spread rumors against me, called the contemplative practices I teach “the work of the devil,” called my healing work “sorcery and witchcraft” and wrote letters of complaint to the local bishop so much that I understand the file on me is enormous and that I have been officially blackballed in the local diocese. To them, my work is “dangerous.” And, I guess it is. I invite people to use the brain God gave them to reason, discern and exercise their truth and to challenge anything cloaked in fear.

In the past, I was heartbroken by the action of these people – many of whom I thought were my friends. I was traumatized when a group of them came to one of my classes and turned it into an inquisition. I was further traumatized by the local chancellor who harassed me about a class I was teaching on the Aramaic Lord’s prayer. I was profoundly insulted and disappointed when the same chancellor promised to let me speak on behalf of Reiki – arrived 45 minutes late to our meeting and then issued the Reiki prohibition (which he always intended to issue) the very next day. I found myself writhing in anger, hatred and confusion of how these so-called Christians were treating me. I felt like a victim to their constant harassment.

Then the harassment stopped. Not because the self-appointed inquisition ceased their relentless inquiry and reporting on everything Lauri Lumby – but because I no longer care. Not caring is not a defense mechanism born out of fatigue. Instead, “not caring” is the detachment born out of Love. The more I have come to know the Love that I am, the less I am triggered by other people’s fear. The more I know God’s Love, the less I care about what other people think of me or my work. And in this I have peace – a peace my “enemies” will likely never know.

This is where my dreams of vengeance turn to compassion. Today when I see or hear from my “enemies” I no longer see their cruelty, I see their fear. I see a fear born out of shame – shame for who God made them (it’s not ok to be gay in the Catholic Church), shame for past actions for which they have never forgiven themselves, shame out of secrets that might destroy ones place in society, shame out of something so deeply suppressed that the only thing that can come through is prideful self-righteous. As it relates to the officials of the Church who have made me their enemy, I see fear, shame and in some an arrogant quest for power – using fear, deceit and manipulation to acquire that so-called power. For all of these I now bear compassion knowing that they will never know the peace I know in coming to know the Love that I am as God’s beloved daughter – the same love available to all of us if only we have the courage to heal the fears that keep us from knowing this Love.

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Freedom in Not Knowing

Many moons ago, I thought I knew. I thought I knew and understood the workings of the world.  I believed in God.  Jesus was my teacher.  I wasn’t really sure about the whole thing about hell, but I definitely believed in heaven.  I thought there was a distinct line between right and wrong and that life functioned in absolutes (kind of but not really….which is why I kept getting in trouble with the priests.) I believed that Jesus lived, died and rose from the dead.  I even believed that the “fullness of redemption” was in the Catholic Church (how silly of me!).

As I grew and began to explore my beliefs, my theology, my spirituality, myself, my beliefs began to change.  I no longer believed in a place called hell. I still believed in heaven, but longed for something more in this life. (Why did we have to die to meet God face to face?) While my beliefs were changing, I continued to cling to the idea that what I believed was absolutely true – at least for me.  At this stage in my journey I was ok with others believing differently, but I still thought it was my job to convince some of my beliefs (especially the Institution of the Catholic Church), and that in some (many) cases there were some things that were just inherently wrong and that I knew what was right. (Again, how silly of me!)

Then, life taught me otherwise. Now, at the ripe young age of 54, I KNOW NOTHING.  I don’t know a thing about (that which we call) God.  I don’t truly know anything about Jesus – he sounds like he could have been a cool dude, but what evidence do we have that he was even real (so says the scientist in me)? I don’t know if there is a heaven – or a hell for that matter.  I don’t even know if I’m real or if this is all just a dream!

I don’t know…..and I’m totally ok with that! I don’t need to know, because if there is one thing I have learned in this life, NOTHING is certain.  Nothing. Not even my own discernment, sense of right and wrong, or my “calling” to serve the cause of love.  I don’t even know if my own beliefs are true as it is quite possible that everything I think I know I simply made up to make myself feel better.  And, I’m totally ok with that too.

Why? Because it does not matter. I no longer care what is real or not, what is truth or not because I am no longer clinging to the need to know in a world that is anything but predictable or even definable. I know nothing.  And that’s ok.  I’m also totally ok with whatever you want to believe and I have no need to convince you otherwise.

There is freedom in not knowing. I no longer need to convince.  I no longer need to change things.  I no longer need to stand on my soapbox waiting for “the other” to agree with my ideas, philosophies, or beliefs.  I am ok with being me and I’m ok with you being you.  And if you need to be “right” – that is ok too.  It is a natural human desire to want to KNOW – to be able to define, explain, make sense of the human condition and to be sure that our own knowledge is right.  Knowing gives us a perceived sense of safety and surety in a world that is everything but.  Knowing that at any minute Jupiter might tumble out of its orbit, pummel to earth and destroy us all makes us seek after something to hang on to – our beliefs, our philosophies, our theologies.  We need what we think we know to be right because it makes us feel “safe” in an otherwise unsafe world.

But knowledge is an illusion. At the most basic core of who we are – WE DO NOT KNOW.  We don’t know a single thing!  When we understand this about life – realizing that life is uncertain and then become content in that uncertainty – we find peace.  When we are no longer seeking after truth or clinging to our need to be right, we are free.  We can let go and stop worrying about everyone else and what they do or do not believe.  We are free to be ourselves. At the end of the day, this is (my belief) what we are here for…..or not.  The choice is up to you!

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Wiping the Slate Clean

I have spent the past two weekends in DEEP CLEARING mode. Doing my year-end bookkeeping, deep cleaning my home, and yesterday I spent all day gathering and completing paperwork for a process that will free me from something that has held me prisoner for the past 7 (or s0) years.  It is time to be FREED from the past to make way for the new.  Beyond the material, this has also been a time of deep inner clearing – facing, identifying and healing wounds from the past, letting go of attachments to certain ideas, plans, fixations, etc. and listening deeply for what might still be cluttering my ego and which is yearning to be freed.  All of this has been for the purpose of making room for the new to step in.  As I have been diligently tending to the process of wiping the slate clean, I am finding the new peeking out from around the corner waiting to be seen.  I see you and I welcome you!

Wiping the slate clean is a process we are all invited into from time to time. When what has been is proving to be no longer life-giving, it is time to let it go.  When things from our past have become a burden or an obstacle to our forward movement, it is time to let them go!  When we are clinging to old hurts, betrayals, wounds, etc. we cannot move forward until we let them go.  The same is true of our ego attachments – attachments to fame, money, power, etc.  In order to fulfill the Divine plan for ourselves (our Soul’s plan), we first have to be cleared of anything and everything that is not in harmony with that plan.  It is time to wipe the slate clean.

But wiping the slate clean isn’t always easy. We have become comfortable and familiar with what has been.  Comfort, however, does not equal freedom.  And our Soul demands freedom!  Sometimes what our culture tells we “must do to be successful” is not in harmony with our Soul’s path so we must let that go, while facing the sure judgment of those who cling to the culture’s definition of success and how to get there.  Going against the flock is never easy – and yet in the path of the Soul it is almost always necessary!

Let me give you an example of this from my own journey. For years I’ve been told that I need to “be famous,” “be on Oprah,” or at the very least on Ellen.  In order to be successful, I need to take my show on the road – get out there and do all those big workshops famous people do (you know the ones you pay thousands of dollars to attend and then the only one getting paid is the promoter?).  I’ve had people promise to “make me famous” and that the key to my success will be travel.  Well, here’s the deal folks……after a bizarre virus in 2015, I cannot travel.  I cannot drive for more than an hour (sometimes 90 minutes) without becoming very ill.  It then takes several hours – sometimes days for my inner equilibrium to return. It isn’t car sickness.  It isn’t panic attacks.  No one seems to know what it is and even after 18 months of physical therapy for “vertigo” the symptoms are still the same.  There is no long distance driving travel in Lauri Lumby’s future.  But beyond this limitation that can certainly be worked around (hire a driver, fly, etc.) what my Soul has said to me VERY LOUDLY and quite succinctly is “BLOOM WHERE YOU ARE PLANTED,” while showing me all the people right here in good ole Oshkosh, Wisconsin who are in need of my gifts.  And it’s time. It’s time to stop hiding in my home and get out into the community sharing my magic.  (something I am already doing on a daily basis informally….but now it’s time to do it more formally).

Wiping the slate clean requires that we diligently tend to all those things that are currently in the way of us pursuing and fulfilling the path of our Soul. As we recently explored in my Order of Melchizedek course, the plan our Soul has for us is far beyond what we could ever imagine for ourselves:

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The Prophet’s Curse – Why Caring is Dangerous

As a prophet, we see too much, hear too much, feel too much and know too much.  We see the truth behind the veil and the face you hide behind your mask.  We see the truth beyond the illusion.  We recognize and see the sign of the times.  In our ability to see we are able to “predict” where things are going and the likely outcome if things continue on their current trajectory.  We are able to hear the truth beyond the words and it is difficult for us to be deceived.  You might not know your own truth, but for those with the gift of prophecy, we hear it. Even if you are in denial of your own truth, we know it.  In addition to all this seeing, hearing and knowing, we FEEL you!  We feel what you are feeling – your anxiety, your fears, your worry and concern, all the shame, past traumas and wounds that keep you imprisoned in the current patterns of your life.

The purpose for the prophet in possessing all of these gifts is so that we might be a source of support for those who desire the gift of healing that comes with our gift. For those who are interested in being free of past traumas, shame, woundedness and the unacknowledged fears that keep them small; and for those who are willing to do the difficult work of healing their soul, the prophet’s gifts are wholeheartedly welcome and received and the prophet’s purpose is fulfilled in the exchange.  As prophets, when this happens we are able to live fully from the love that ultimately drives our gifts and our desire to be of service to the world.  More than anything else, the prophet is one who deeply cares about the wellbeing of the world and the people in it.  Unfortunately, not everyone is willing to receive our gifts.  This is where caring becomes dangerous…..

 

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Posted in Authentic Freedom, detachment, grief, Inspiration, Surrender

Saying Goodbye

A week ago Tuesday, I awoke to the voice of (I’m not sure who – Spirit, The Mother, God, My Higher Self) speaking these words to me:

Say Goodbye.

How appropriate these words are as I face the end of an era. The life as I have known it has drawn to a close and all that defined that life has come to an end.  Or rather, the purpose of that era has drawn to a close.  I am tempted to point to church stuff, changing the world, Mary Magdalene, etc. as being the purpose of the past nearly 20 years, but in truth, the deeper purpose seems to have been for one thing and one thing only –

My own healing.

While the externals that gave expression to the past 20 years has been about God, Jesus, Mary Magdalene, Church stuff, wanting to heal and change the world, creating a space in which people can find support in their own spiritual exploration and journey toward self-actualization……at the core of all of it has been my own healing. Every book I have written, every course that I have created came first out of my own personal experience of being open to the Universe giving me what I needed to find healing and in receiving this healing, discovering MYSELF. I then took what I found to be supportive and formed it into a structure that could be shared with others for the sake of their own journey of healing from their past so as to discover themselves. Looking at the lives of those I’ve supported, I have to say I think I’ve done a pretty good job (PS I’m pretty sure this piece is NOT coming to an end).

As this era comes to a close and is ritualized by a literal physical move (from the home we have enjoyed for the past 6 ½ years), I’m letting it all go. I’ve grieved through this transition.  I’ve said goodbye to cherished objects, personal labels, dreams of riches and fame, attachments to outcomes and even the hope of a specific kind of love and the dream of a regular life with a regular job.  I’ve grieved the loss of the home we have loved and in which not only myself, but my children have found healing.  I’ve grieved the loss of a routine that I’ve known.  And most importantly, I’ve grieved the loss of the familiar life in which I’ve lived which has been defined mostly by isolation, illness, depression, poverty and loss (bahbye!).

I do not know what is waiting for me on the other side of this transition, but I am grateful for what has been and open to the opportunities that will present themselves in this letting go. I figure if the Universe is inviting me into this depth of emptying, something ENORMOUS must be coming to fill its place.

To whatever that is I say “Hello.”

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in Being Human, detachment, God, Inspiration, Surrender

God Doesn’t Care Part II

In saying the God doesn’t care and asking the question, “then why do we?” (Read part I HERE), I am speaking about a specific kind of caring. I’m not referring to the caring and loving acts we demonstrate or show towards others.  I am also not talking about the proper concern we have for our fellow human beings, all of creation, and the world we live in.  All that we do to demonstrate caring, love, compassion, and concern are natural and healthy drives within us as human beings supporting our connection and fostering peace and harmony between us.  These are all healthy expressions of caring and supportive in building a happy and healthy world.  This is the highest expression of ourselves coming forth, arising out of love and grounded in compassion.

The caring that I am referring to about which God does not, is that which arises out of judgment and/or fear and is recognized by powerful emotional reactions. This is the kind of “caring” that we often see in ourselves and in others.  “Caring” that comes through as highly charged emotional reactions to the experiences, circumstances, events and people around us.  “Caring” that causes us to get our “undies in a bundle,” as we pick up our sword and ready for battle.  This is the “caring” that compels us to take up a cause and fight for that cause.  This is the “caring” where we judge something or someone’s actions as bad, disordered, etc. and the “caring” that causes us to build a wall of separation between “us” and “them.”  These are human actions and human responses and a guaranteed path to anxiety and conflict.  When we assign these kinds of attitudes and behaviors to God, we are creating God in our own image, not the other way around.

Unlike human beings, God is neutral. God does not judge.  As the psalmist says, “In you, darkness and light are but one (Psalm 139).”  God is simply being, observing, witnessing, allowing.  When we remember that we are created in the image and likeness of God we also remember that we are called to be like God.  When we accept the invitation to be like God, we then allow ourselves, like God, to simply be, allow, observe, witness.  When we do so free of judgment, this is the way to peace.

Being present to our world from a place of non-judgment and non-reaction allows us to be with the ever-changing circumstances of our lives and of the world around us. Non-judgment allows us to simply observe without the need to react.  We can observe, sit in this observance and discern within ourselves, from a place of non-reaction, as to how we may or may not be called to respond.  In this, we are able to refrain from reacting and find the place of authentic, loving, peaceful response.  I could give you a million examples of (many of them recent) as to how judgment and reaction disrupt our peace, but I will leave you with this:

We know within ourselves if we are reacting from a place of judgment or responding from a place of peaceful awareness. In the former, we feel charged by powerful emotions of fear, anger, wrath, frustration, impatience, etc.  In the latter, we only know peace.

Choose peace.

 

Posted in detachment, Surrender

God Doesn’t Care – So Why Do We?

A quick heads up: This blog may trigger you in the area of your attachments.  Please be patient and read through to the end….I promise there’s a happy ending! 

Out beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing

there is a field…

I’ll meet you there.

– Rumi

Detachment is perhaps one of the greatest skills we can develop in our journey toward wholeness and peace. As Jesus is quoted as saying in Paul Ferrini’s book, I am the Door, “judgment is the original sin.” It is our judgment of things that is the cause of our suffering.  Jesus says the same about judgment in scripture, “Judge not lest ye be judged.”  When we judge experiences, situations, things, ourselves or other people as good or bad, we create separation which then causes suffering.  Instead, we are invited to gaze upon our human experiences from the position of objective observer, trading our judgment for curiosity and wonder, and our tendency to separate for union. When we judge we separate.  When we cease from judging we join.

Jesus taught us that Oneness is our Source and our origin. After coming to understand and then embody this Oneness within himself, Jesus then set out to teach this to others.  Oneness within himself.  Oneness with others.  Oneness with all of creation.  Oneness with that which he called God.  Oneness, as Jesus explained, can only be known when we pierce through the veil of perceived separation – setting down our tendency to judge, setting down our tendency to separate, even setting down our desire to care.

Caring can only arise out of judgment, which then leads us down the path of suffering. Caring arises when we judge something as good or bad (usually bad).  Caring then causes us to take up our sword in response to that which we have decided we have to fix, heal, change, or defend ourselves against.  (I am especially guilty of this in my former attempts to reform or change the Catholic Church or in my many attempts at keeping myself safe from a broken heart).  Profound freedom arises when we are able to cease from caring and simply let things be.

This is what God does. God does not care.  In “His/Her” great love, God gave us the radically liberating gift of free will.  In this, we are free to be and act and think and believe anything we want – and God doesn’t care.  God doesn’t judge our thoughts, our actions, or our beliefs as good or bad.  God simply watches in curious wonder – joining (loving) us through whatever choices we make.  By natural law, we experience the consequences of our choices, but these consequences do not come from God.  Instead, in the mind and heart of God, we are loved without condition.  No matter what we do or how we act, we are loved.  God might find it interesting that we would choose fear over love, judgment over acceptance, suffering over peace, but God doesn’t care.  God does not seek to change or alter who we are or what we choose.  Instead, God allows us the freedom to learn it for ourselves.  The same is true of the actions of our world.  God doesn’t care.  God stands back in curious wonder over the choices human beings make and the consequences we create for ourselves out of these choices.  But still, God doesn’t care.  God does not seek to change or alter our choices; allowing us the radical freedom of learning (or not learning) for ourselves.

Jesus told a story which reveals God’s unconditional love and the powerful gift of free will that arose out of this love. This story has come to be known as the Story of the Prodigal Son. In this story, a father (playing the role of God) has two sons.  The youngest son asks for his share of his inheritance early so that he can leave the perceived safety and security of his father’s home to go out into the world and find his own way.  Loving the son freely and without condition, the father agrees, knowing that the son’s choices may lead him down an uncomfortable path, but allowing him the freedom to risk failure so that he might learn and grow (or not).  The son chooses all sorts of experiences that might be thought of as opposite what his father might wish for him and he suffers the consequences of his choices.  He eventually learns that it is in separating from his father (God) that his choices caused him suffering, so he (humbled and exhausted) chooses to go home, hoping his father might forgive him and allow him back into union with him.  Not only does the father welcome him back, not once does he inflict judgment, reproach, criticism or condemnation on his son.  He accepts him with nothing but love.  When the son asks for forgiveness, it is the son who needs to forgive himself from choosing separation over union.  In the father’s eyes, there is nothing to forgive.  Even if the son had continued to choose separation, it seems the father would still love him, waiting for the day that life would beat him down enough that he might, just might, risk the peace of union over the suffering of separation.

Jesus told this story to explain to his disciples what God is like. God does not care.  If God doesn’t care, than why do we?  (Stay tuned next week for an invitation to caring that is free from judgment, perceived separation and suffering.)

 

 

 

Posted in addictions, Authentic Freedom, Boundaries, codependency, detachment, Empowerment, Healing

Heal Yourselves! Lessons on Detachment

It is said, “The good Lord helps those who help themselves.”

The key here is “help themselves.” The Lord (or whatever name you give to the transcendent aspect of the Divine that is said to be a source of guidance and support) cannot help those who refuse to take responsibility for their own lives, their own patterns of dysfunctional behavior, their own woundedness and their own fears.

The same can be said for us. When we reach out as a source of loving support for others, we can only help those who are willing to help themselves.  We cannot help those who are unable or unwilling to identify their own patterns of dysfunctional or compulsive behaviors (including behaviors of gluttony, addiction, victimhood, martyrdom, rage, power and control, envy or jealousy, sloth or pride); and we cannot help those who are unwilling to do the work of identifying the unhealed woundedness or fears that are in fact the cause of their dysfunctional behaviors and the unfortunate life situations their behaviors get them into.

What we can do is provide a listening ear and a compassionate heart. We can be a presence of unconditional abiding love.  We can educate, inform and direct them toward resources that might help them (including ourselves if we have the proper resources).  The rest is up to them.

As it is also said, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.”

Whether or not those we hope to help refuse to drink from the well of support we lead them to is completely out of our control. Even if we could make them “drink” that doesn’t mean they will actually do the hard and often painful work of taking responsibility for what ails them.  This is where the subtle and necessary practice of detachment comes in. When we have offered all we are able in the form of guidance and support and when those we hope to help refuse to help themselves, there is nothing left for us to do but walk away.  For the sake of our own wellbeing, we cannot allow ourselves to take another person’s decisions personally; neither can we lose a minute of sleep over it.  As one teacher says, “their decisions are none of my business.”  Detachment is the ability to be a loving source of support while also having no attachment to what the other person decides to do with our offer of support. If they receive the support and take appropriate action, then they are well on their way to healing.  If they refuse the support and continue in their dysfunction, it is now on them.

As the Lord helps those who help themselves, it is also true for us. We can only help those who are willing to help themselves.

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The World That is Dying is Not My Concern

Yesterday I was given a very important reminder: the world that is dying is not my concern.

Before you get your activist undies in a bundle, please allow me to explain:

For 5000+ years, we have languished under patriarchal rule, defined here as that which has been based in fear, power and control. This cultural paradigm has harmed all of us – women, children and men alike.  This paradigm has deprived us of the inner wisdom and knowledge of the feminine, along with the feminine gifts of gathering and building through cooperation and collaboration, with an eye toward peace and harmony.  This paradigm has also deprived us of the holy aspects of the masculine traits of guardianship, provision, protection and support.

This world, based in fear, power and control is dying. It is in the midst of its own collapse and it needs to die.

As we look out there toward the dying world, it is easy to get caught up in our reactions to those things we believe will cause us harm or deprive us of certain rights and liberties. It is easy to jump to conclusions about the meaning and outcome of certain actions and events.  We are tempted to cast judgment, which then triggers our anger and fear.

All of these reactions tempt us away from the Truth – that all of those things we see “out there” that are arising out of fear, power and control, are merely the old world in its death throes. Giving our energy, attention and reactions to the dying world tempts us away from the job we are supposed to be doing – building the new world.

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If you are reading this blog, you are one, among millions, who are here to help build the new world. Period.  We are not here to rescue the old world.  We are not here to stitch up or bandage its wounds.  We are not here to administer medication so the old world can put off its necessary and long overdue death.  We are not even here to watch. The world that is dying is not our concern.

Instead, our mission on this planet is to build the new world. We do this by holding our attention and focus on the vision of what we came here to create, not allowing anything to distract us from this vision.  We do this by connecting with and gathering with others who are also called to build the new world.  And we do this by holding space for those who are ready to leave the old world behind and join the movement that is intent on building something new.

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