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Our Children are the Change We’ve been Waiting for.

but first they need our help….

Last week I held the first gathering of magical children. We met in my living room with their parents present; and we discussed all the things that brought these children here:

  • Feelings of not fitting in.
  • Sensitivity to this world (food, spells, lights, sounds, violence, etc.)
  • Strange spiritual experiences. (not strange to me, but strange to the typical human)
  • Empathy (the ability to feel and sense other people’s feelings).
  • A desire to help people around them and the world.
  • A deep feeling as if something is very wrong – very wrong with the world and many of the people living in it.
  • A profound sense that they are here for a reason and a purpose, but not finding any support in this culture for fulfilling this mission.
  • Not finding support in the current educational system (falling through the cracks).
  • And more.

My heart is with these kids because I raised two just like them and have been a source of support and guidance for many others. These are the young people who are here to build the new world after the current world is finished with its collapse.  Actually, they are not waiting until it is done; they are building the new world right this moment as we speak (and watch and hope and dream).

These are the kids who came into this world expecting it to be the world they already know in the deepest part of their Soul, only to be shocked and disappointed by the violence and separation that prevail upon this earth. This is NOT what these kids signed up for…..but it is.  Not because they were meant to be disappointed, but because they came here to build the world they already know in their hearts, and they need the special gifts and sensitivities that they possess to do the work they came here to do.  In the meantime, however, they need to be affirmed, validated and supported in naming, claiming, nurturing and cultivating these gifts so they can use them to build the new world.  And it is our job to help them.

Raising Magical Children

As one who has successfully raised (and continue to support the growth and development of) two of these magical children, I can attest that the work of raising these children begins with us. If we were gifted with a magical child or two, it is because we are magic ourselves.  But the question is, do we know our magic and are we using it?  For many, the answer sadly, is no.  We do not live in a culture that recognizes or supports us in the identification or development of these gifts.  Instead, we are told to comply with the societal norms and tribal rules that govern our patriarchal and capitalistic culture.  In order to own our magic, we have to break free.  We have to pierce through the veil of societal conditioning that tells us only that which is objectively measurable is real, that intuition and empathy are just our imagination, and that there is no communication with other worlds (for example).  My experience has shown me otherwise.

Helping our special children begins by helping ourselves. We must come to know who we are – REALLY – our gifts and talents, our personality and temperament, and all the parts of ourselves we have rejected or hidden away out of fear that to our world they would not be acceptable.  Then we have to pierce through the societal conditioning that has hindered us from being our true, magnificent and magical selves.

Then, while we are doing this work for ourselves, we can support our children in doing the same. This doesn’t mean we need to rescue them from or remove them from the existing culture (though for some this might be the answer).  I raised my children right here in the middle of small-town America within the traditional public education system.  Fortunately for my son (who only tolerates school) there was an alternative option in high school which allowed him to capitalize on his predominantly kinesthetic learning style.  Now they both attend a state university which also follows an outmoded patriarchal model.  With my help they have successfully navigated the dying institutions – taking from them that which serves and leaving behind the rest.

Knowing Ourselves/Knowing Our Children

Supporting our own self-knowledge helps us in knowing our children. When we know ourselves, we can identify and accept the unique gifts (and challenges) our children possess.  The Enneagram, for example, is one of the tools of self-knowledge that I have found helpful.  In using the Enneagram I have come to know myself – the lens through which I perceive my life experiences and the challenges and gifts inherent within this lens.  With knowledge of the Enneagram, I am also able to understand other people and their unique temperaments.  My daughter, for example is a Type 9 on the Enneagram.  This makes her devoted, loyal, steadfast and persistent.  But it also makes her slow to change.  I understand this about her and help support her through new things until she is comfortable doing it on her own. I also try to never spring something new on her out of sensitivity to her needs.  My son is the opposite.  As a Type 7, he is easily bored.  He loves new things, loves to be active and loves a challenge.  With this in mind, I make sure he has lots of activities and I honor his need to be engaged.  With the Myers-Briggs, I have come to understand that my daughter is an introvert like I am, and my son an extrovert.  This helps me to support them in getting their energy needs met (introversion vs. extroversion is all about how we get our energy).

When we know our children, we are able to support them in knowing themselves – their gifts, their talents along with the shadow. In doing this, we are able to love them without condition, accepting them for who they are instead of trying to make them fit into some pre-determined societal mold. THIS more than anything is what our children need – to be seen and accepted for who they are and to be empowered in their gifts.

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Posted in Inspiration, Spiritual Formation, spiritual healing

The Spiritual Life Review

At the juncture between what has been and what is coming into form, it is not uncommon to experience a “Life Review.” I have experienced the life review as a flood of memories and feelings of where I’ve been.  I think of it as the final purge before a new life is ready to begin.  The best response to a life review is to be with it – allowing the memories and emotions to flow through – without getting attached to or hung up on them, but simply allowing them to move through.  Sometimes there is an emotional release (rage, tears) that come through the life review – and that is also ok.  We need to feel our past in order to let it go.  The following is a poem I recently penned while experiencing my own spiritual life review:

Life Review

As the life review presents itself, I let it wash over me –

Feeling into where I’ve been

And where I am today.

A wholly different person.

Cleansed of my resentment, hatred and rage…

No longer fixated on changing a broken and dying world.

Secure in who I am –

a unique expression of God’s love in the world.

I am love.

Sent to bring forth a new world:

One built on love – not fear.

Knowing the journey begins within.

The change starts with me.

Healing myself of past

woundedness,

trauma,

perceived failure,

disappointment,

worry,

fear.

In forgiving my past, transforming shame into Love.

Witnessing all the ways I’ve been told I had to be

Anything other than me.

And letting that shit go!

Freeing myself of the patriarchal world’s definition and formula for success;

Knowing the only real success is in being myself –

Sensitive.

Vulnerable.

A little bit broken.

Resilient.

Courageous.

Generous.

Loving.

Kind.

One who finds meaning in the simplest things:

An autumn walk in the woods.

The scent of a baby’s head.

The quiet of winter mornings before dawn.

A warm cup of coffee.

The loving embrace of a friend.

The laughter of my children…

and who wishes only to be Love and to walk gently through this life.

 

 

Where have you experienced your own life-review? What tools have you used to support yourself in that review?  What were you able to glean from that experience?

Posted in End of the World Prophecies, New World

A Dying World and Dreams of the Apocalypse

Last night I had ANOTHER apocalyptic dream. I’ve had several (many).  In every dream there is a similar theme – the world around me is collapsing and myself and either a group of friends or my children are trying to save the world.  These dreams always end the same – me waking up completely exhausted and hungover from the frustration over not being able to complete the dream.  I am never able to do what I had set out to do – save the world.

Today it hit me!

 

 

The world in which we have been living – the one based in fear, power and control is in the midst of its own demise (cue Oingo Boingo!). It is imploding upon itself and everyday new revelations come forth demonstrating this reality.  This is the world that has only served the very few and which has been built on the backs of those who have become their indentured servants.  As the very few have grown in power, and their servants have become disempowered, the corruption, lies and betrayals upon which the dying world has been built are coming forth – actually, flooding forth.

Here’s an example of one that I am certain served as the inspiration of my latest dream:

A person shared on FB about the recent changes in the health insurance plan. Their deductible has increased exponentially.  Mind you, this person works for one of the riches corporations in the world.  I did a little research and discovered their top execs make upwards of $10Mil a year and have full benefits at no cost to themselves.  It is only “the worker bees” who have to pay for their health insurance.  HMMMMMMM……something is rotten in Denmark.  I made this point on FB and you should have seen the people running to the defense of their employer!  Ok…whatever.  I got my own undies in a twist over this and henceforth came the dream.

But….here is the thing. THAT world is dying.  People are waking up.  They are asking questions.  They are seeing the truth.  And if the “worker bees” aren’t asking the questions, the very few keep putting their foot in their own mouths, revealing exactly HOW they have become so privileged.  “The worker bees” will only put up with this for so long.  In a hive, when the queen stops taking care of her workers, the workers hastily find themselves a new queen.

 

It is long past time for a new queen! And the queen is rising. In a hive, the “seed queens” are already there.  The nurse bees simply locate the most viable larvae and start feeding them royal jelly.  Henceforth the new queen is born.  The same thing is happening in our own world.  The queens are being made ready to take their place as leaders of the new world.  These are the women and men who carry a vision of love instead of a vision of fear. These are the people who desire a world where the needs of the many are favored over the needs of the few and who understand that if we don’t start taking care of this planet we live on, it will destroy us so as to save itself.

These new queens are not only grown-ups. They are the children who came here expecting a world that is one, only to discover a world that is divided.  They know they cannot “fix” the broken world.  Instead, they long for its demise so they can build the new world that already resides within their heart. These are the Gen Y and Gen Z kids that the dying world fears – calling them lazy, irresponsible and screen addicts instead of honoring them for the amazing gifts they are bringing to our world.  I for one LOVE these kids (Cue  The B52’s)!

It is for the sake of these new queens and the new world we are called to bring forth that I am here. I am not hear to fix, save or heal the dying world (let it die!).  I am here to birth something new and I AM NOT ALONE!

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in Spiritual Practices, Surrender

Changes and Spiritual A.D.D.

There are three things that are certain in this life:

Death

Taxes and……

Change!

 

There is nothing in our lives that remains the same. Everything is moving and in constant flux – even the tiny atoms that are moving within the solid steel frames that make up our buildings and our roads.

Everything changes and our lives are in constant motion. Our life is a continual movement from birth to growth to death and back to birth again. There is not one moment in our life where we are not birthing, growing, and dying.  The amazing thing is that all of these – birthing, growing and dying are all happening at the same time.  We are always in the process of birthing something new.  We are always nurturing and growing that new life. And we are always tending to the death of that which no longer serves.

These are sobering thoughts; and they really put into perspective the conditioning that teaches us to cling to what we have known and to seek after security and surety.

 

Question:  is this conditioning or a function of our drive to survive? We have been told it is the latter, but I’m beginning to think it is more of the former.  The ancients seem to have had a much better grip on the reality of change and seemed to tap into and surrender to the movement of this change.  They also seemed to have found a way to survive and thrive without being attached to “the same.”  Hmmmmmm  perhaps another thing we can learn from those who have gone before us……

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Change. Change.  Change.  Everything is changing.  The ancients knew this and found a way to harness the gifts of that knowledge.  The sages and teachers of old wrote about it.  Modern day people sing about it.  (Cue: David Bowie!) Everything is changing and nothing remains the same.

But, we are conditioned to want things to remain the same. We cling to what we have known.  We writhe and scream and cry when that which we cling to is being pried from our cold, dead fingers.  And we are terrified of the new because we don’t know what it is; we cannot control it; we cannot make it happen and we cannot force it.

Kind of like birthing a baby! I have birthed two and I can attest that the baby comes in its own damn time and only in the way that it wants to come into the world. Yes, modern medicine (and ancient medicine for that matter) have tools to help bring the baby into the world (especially if something is happening in the birthing process that would put the mother or child’s life at risk); but as any mother will attest – there is a cost to applying these interventions.

The same is true in life. New life comes in its own damn time and only in the way that the Soul intends.  We cannot force it.  We cannot make it happen.  We cannot hasten its arrival.  All we can do is create the space in which this new life can take root (like preparing the nursery for the arrival of your new child).  We can prepare the soil.  We can plant the seeds.  We can tend and water those seeds.  But no amount of efforting will make those seeds grow until they are darn ready to sprout and grow.

The same is true of death. That which needs to pass from our lives – outmoded ways of being, non-serving beliefs, behaviors that no longer serve, jobs that have outlived their usefulness, etc. – will pass from our lives no matter what we do to cling to them.  Oh yes, we can cling, we can hang on, we can grasp and bargain and plead, and that which needs to die might indeed remain (because of our clinging); but it will no longer be life-giving.  Instead, it will be like the shriveled up, half-dead, immobile and worthless part of Voldemort that remained after he and Harry killed each other.

We can cling to what we have known, or we can surrender to the natural movement of our lives toward change. Forever moving from that which one day served to the new life that beckons on the other side of surrender and death.

It is our spiritual practice that helps us in navigating the ever-churning waters of life’s journey. Developing, cultivating and nurturing our spiritual practice supports us in learning how to be with whatever stage of life’s movement we currently find ourselves in.  Our practice helps us to be ok with “what is.”  It also supports us in discerning this movement – when is it time to stay and when is it time to go (Cue: The Clash).  Our practice guides us to the voice of truth within along with our inner compass which helps us to recognize the signs of death along with the beckoning call of new life.  And our practice helps us to move gently and (somewhat) effortlessly through the constant movement and changes of life.  Through our practice we are able to surrender to the flow and find peace within us.

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But….sometimes our practice fails us. Try as we might, we cannot find peace or contentment within that flow.  In spite of our efforts to tend to our spiritual practice and to harness its gifts for helping us surrender and find contentment within the movement of our life journey, we cannot find the fruits.  Sometimes we can’t even “do” our spiritual practice because even these efforts seem to be failing.

But they are not! Even though it feels like we might have Spiritual A.D.D., we are not failing.  Instead, we are in the stage of our Soul’s journey that is akin to the transition stage of labor.  There is this place when the babe is trying to be born that is called transition and I can attest that IT IS INSANE!  Transition feels as if someone has plugged you into a 220 outlet and you are ON FIRE.  Every cell of the body feels charged with electricity.  You feel restless, anxious and (for me anyway) like you will kill anyone that gets in your way.  You can’t sit still.  The mind is anxious.  You feel like you want to run. Nothing provides comfort.  What seems comfortable in one moment is not the next. It is like an energy has entered the body and is doing everything it can to bring forth this new life and you are possessed by this energy.

The same thing happens in death. Those who have tended to the dying call this the “death throes.”  Similar to transition in labor, the person who is dying is overcome with restlessness, frustration, discomfort, anxiousness.  Nothing will make them comfortable.  They writhe and thrash and (if they are able) pace as the energy that seeks to usher them into death prepares them for the transition from life into death.

When we are at this stage in our personal journey – when the old is trying to pass away to make way for the new while the new is simultaneously trying to come into being, it is ok to be restless, frustrated, anxious and uncomfortable. This is natural and expected.  When this stage shows up all we can do is surrender.  As it relates to spiritual practices, when it feels like we are suffering from Spiritual A.D.D., all we can do is surrender.  Walk away from the practice if you need to.  Or do what I do, return to the oldie moldie practices which at the very least give my mind a break.  When even this fails I “go with it.”  Instead of resisting the energies of transition, I engage in them.  I dance.  I take a walk in nature.  I cook.  I clean.  I find something to do with the restless energies in my body (kind of like all the pacing I did when I labor).  And then I let it be.

That which is passing out of our lives will leave in its own damn time. The same is true of the life that is trying to be born.  We can surrender to this truth or suffer the sure consequence of resisting.  The choice is ours.  What would you choose?

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Complete and Total Surrender

Surrendering is a topic I have written about before as it is the invitation that shows up over and over and over and over in our journey toward the Soul. Whether we are asked to surrender, let go, or we find ourselves in a free-fall, SURRENDER is a persistent theme.  This is natural considering that we have been conditioned to believe (and many new age and new thought circles enforce these beliefs) that the circumstances of our lives are somehow in our control.  You know the routine – think the right thoughts and you will get what you want, working hard leads to reward, no pain no gain, it is by your efforts that you will be rewarded, your value is dependent upon how hard you work and what you accomplish, yada yada yada.  The stream of conditioned thoughts are endless.  Throw in our religious conditioning including the misperception of “faith” (believe you will be healed and you will); and the immigrant work ethic and we have a one mell of a hess!

The truth is, very little of what happens in our lives is within our realm of control. (GASP!).  We are told that we have free will, but do we really?  This is a question I have explored with many of my clients, students and colleagues.  It seems that the closer we get to our Soul, the less we are allowed free will.  In short, no matter how hard we work, no matter how strongly we believe (or think we believe) no matter how much we strive toward what we think is our Soul’s calling, our Soul’s purpose, our Soul’s mission…..if it is not our Soul’s calling, it will fail.  (and sometimes when it is our Soul’s calling it still fails because it is what the Soul intended). And we can know that it is not our Soul’s calling when in spite of all our efforting, belief, “faith,” wishing hoping and dreaming, all we come up with is a bloody forehead from beating our head against the wall.

The Divine path is easy. The effort comes when we are allowing the ego to drive instead of our Soul.  The Soul says, “Let Go!  I got this.”  The ego pleads, “BUT I NEED TO BE IN CONTROL.  I need to know what is happening, why it is happening and how.  I need to be able to decide, to choose, to see the road ahead and what will happen as the path unfolds so I can make plans.”  The Soul says, “Um….no, you don’t.  If you saw where I am leading you, you would freak the f-out and say NO!  You don’t need to know and you don’t get to know and while you are busy making plans, I am unraveling them for you.” God is kind of an asshole that way – but only because the Divine plan is better than what we could ever imagine, hope or dream of – but NOT from the limited perception of the ego – only from the infinite and expansive wisdom of the Soul. In this the Soul can see the good in suffering, sorrow, betrayal, loss and pain. Even death – especially death – serves the greatest and highest purpose….but to all of this the ego says NO!

Surrender is such a frequent theme because of the ministrations of the ego. The ego wants to be in control and believes that being in control, it is keeping us safe.  But at the end of the day, are we ever really safe?  Death, as we know, can come at any minute.  We can be taking our favorite route to the yoga studio and get hit by a semi.  We can be eating all the right foods and thinking all the right thoughts and still get struck down by cancer.  We can be enjoying a friendly game of soccer one day and find ourselves in the ICU hooked up to life support the very next day.  Life (shit) happens and we have NO CONTROL over it.  If it is the intended path of our Soul it will happen no matter what we do to try to “make it happen” or avoid it.

This is perhaps the toughest pill to swallow in our human journey. We are not in control.  The Soul will do what the Soul came here to do.  Period.  Jesus proved this.  Jesus came here to be and show love.  He came here to show us all how to find peace (the kingdom of God) within.  He healed the sick.  He gave sight to the blind.  He counseled the hurting.  He nourished and fed the spiritually hungry.  And then he got killed for it.  Jesus did everything right.  He listened to the calling of his Soul.  He did what his Soul asked of him.  He was “obedient unto death.”  And then he died – a slow and painful death on a cross.  And there was NOTHING he could do to stop it – because it was the path his Soul intended.  And at the end of it all, Jesus did what we are all invited to do.  He surrendered it all unto his Soul, “Into your hands I commend my spirit.”  The very same path his mother traveled before him, “Let it be done to me according to your word.”

Complete and total surrender is what the Soul asks of us. To meet each moment of every day with the understanding that what is showing up to meet us is EXACTLY what our Soul has intended for us to experience in this life.  We are not to know the whys or the hows, but to simply surrender.  This is especially true when we don’t really like what is coming for us – illness, poverty, suffering, pain, disappointment, (perceived) failure, etc.  We need to LET IT GO.  And when we are human (which we will always be), and we find ourselves struggling and all our efforts seem to be in vain, the invitation is there again – complete and total surrender as the Soul reminds us, “Let go.  I got this!”  And then, we let Her!

 

Posted in detachment, Inspiration, Surrender

Wiping the Slate Clean

I have spent the past two weekends in DEEP CLEARING mode. Doing my year-end bookkeeping, deep cleaning my home, and yesterday I spent all day gathering and completing paperwork for a process that will free me from something that has held me prisoner for the past 7 (or s0) years.  It is time to be FREED from the past to make way for the new.  Beyond the material, this has also been a time of deep inner clearing – facing, identifying and healing wounds from the past, letting go of attachments to certain ideas, plans, fixations, etc. and listening deeply for what might still be cluttering my ego and which is yearning to be freed.  All of this has been for the purpose of making room for the new to step in.  As I have been diligently tending to the process of wiping the slate clean, I am finding the new peeking out from around the corner waiting to be seen.  I see you and I welcome you!

Wiping the slate clean is a process we are all invited into from time to time. When what has been is proving to be no longer life-giving, it is time to let it go.  When things from our past have become a burden or an obstacle to our forward movement, it is time to let them go!  When we are clinging to old hurts, betrayals, wounds, etc. we cannot move forward until we let them go.  The same is true of our ego attachments – attachments to fame, money, power, etc.  In order to fulfill the Divine plan for ourselves (our Soul’s plan), we first have to be cleared of anything and everything that is not in harmony with that plan.  It is time to wipe the slate clean.

But wiping the slate clean isn’t always easy. We have become comfortable and familiar with what has been.  Comfort, however, does not equal freedom.  And our Soul demands freedom!  Sometimes what our culture tells we “must do to be successful” is not in harmony with our Soul’s path so we must let that go, while facing the sure judgment of those who cling to the culture’s definition of success and how to get there.  Going against the flock is never easy – and yet in the path of the Soul it is almost always necessary!

Let me give you an example of this from my own journey. For years I’ve been told that I need to “be famous,” “be on Oprah,” or at the very least on Ellen.  In order to be successful, I need to take my show on the road – get out there and do all those big workshops famous people do (you know the ones you pay thousands of dollars to attend and then the only one getting paid is the promoter?).  I’ve had people promise to “make me famous” and that the key to my success will be travel.  Well, here’s the deal folks……after a bizarre virus in 2015, I cannot travel.  I cannot drive for more than an hour (sometimes 90 minutes) without becoming very ill.  It then takes several hours – sometimes days for my inner equilibrium to return. It isn’t car sickness.  It isn’t panic attacks.  No one seems to know what it is and even after 18 months of physical therapy for “vertigo” the symptoms are still the same.  There is no long distance driving travel in Lauri Lumby’s future.  But beyond this limitation that can certainly be worked around (hire a driver, fly, etc.) what my Soul has said to me VERY LOUDLY and quite succinctly is “BLOOM WHERE YOU ARE PLANTED,” while showing me all the people right here in good ole Oshkosh, Wisconsin who are in need of my gifts.  And it’s time. It’s time to stop hiding in my home and get out into the community sharing my magic.  (something I am already doing on a daily basis informally….but now it’s time to do it more formally).

Wiping the slate clean requires that we diligently tend to all those things that are currently in the way of us pursuing and fulfilling the path of our Soul. As we recently explored in my Order of Melchizedek course, the plan our Soul has for us is far beyond what we could ever imagine for ourselves:

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Posted in Spiritual Direction, Spiritual Formation

Spiritual Counseling New Year’s Special (Save up to $400.00!!!!!)

Welcome to the New Year!  In celebration of the new life that is waiting for all of us in the coming year, I am offering you a special gift.  Please enjoy as my New Year’s gift to you DEEPLY DISCOUNTED rates on Spiritual Counseling/One-on-One mentoring.  These discounted prices are only available now through January 8th (and can be used anytime throughout the year), so ACT NOW!

 

 

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Offer only good through January 8, 2019!  Buy the package now and use your sessions anytime between January 1 – December 31, 2019. No refunds or exchanges on package offers.

Once payment is received, I will send you an email to schedule your sessions.  Sessions will be held over the phone or via ZOOM.

 

I look forward to supporting your spiritual development needs and your desire to choose love in the coming year!

 

Love,

Lauri

 

 

Posted in Healing, Inspiration

Longing to be Loved

The deepest longing of the human heart is to be loved – specifically to be loved, accepted and valued for who we are and for the unique gifts we offer this world. One would think that this would be the easiest thing to accomplish – especially considering that we have an unconditionally loving God and parents who love us – right?  (I’ll let you answer that one yourself!)

The degree to which we know ourselves as loved, accepted and valued for who we are and for the unique gifts we offer this world is directly proportional to the love we are shown in the early years of our life. For many, if not most, the love that we are shown in these formative years is limited at best.

For most, the first experience of love comes from our parents. While our parents are undoubtedly doing the best they can, they are only able to show love to the degree it was first shown to them. If they were abused as a child, criticized or condemned, or led in any way to believe they were anything less than love, the love they are able to show will be limited by these past experiences.  This is true unless before (or during) their experience of being a parent they acknowledge the ways in which they experienced the limitations of love and healed the resulting wounds, thereby freeing them to show even more loving acceptance of their children because they now love and accept themselves. Additionally, every person has their own love language and their own unique temperament and the combination of these embodied by our parents might not be the language we need to hear to know we are loved.  Finally, our parents are a product of their conditioning and what society said at the time was “good parenting.”  (ie:  it isn’t all our parents’ fault!)

The same is true of our “god.” If the religion in which we were raised preaches a god of infinite love and then crafts rituals and practices which reinforce that love, then we are golden!  Here we know of a god who is loving and kind, generous and merciful and the tribe to which we belong treats us as such.  For many, if not most, this has not been the case.  Instead, the talk of god has been confusing mix of love and punishment, mercy and retribution, praise and shame, etc.   This leaves us feeling anxious and confused and wondering where we sit with that which we call “God,” and the people who preach this “God.”

The same is true of our culture. We feel loved, supported and valued for who we are and for the unique gifts we bring to the world when we are raised in a culture that values diversity and then provides the necessary support in which the seeds of our gifts might mature and bear fruit.  For most, this has not been our cultural experience.  Instead, we are expected to conform to a culture that needs us to fit into tight little boxes where we can be controlled, all the while feeling rejected for who we truly are and the authentic gifts we have to bring to this world.

The same is true of our friends, co-workers, peers, etc. etc. etc. We will only experience the feeling of being loved, honored, supported and valued to the extent that they feel this love themselves.  Sigh!

With all of this collective woundedness, where does this leave us? This leaves us among the several billion human beings longing to know love.  This is the collective wound of the human experience – the gaping wound of emptiness and longing where love is meant to dwell. But, we need not remain in this place of wounded emptiness and longing.  Fortunately, there are those who have gone before us who have successfully found their way through the labyrinthine journey that leads to love.  By following their example and adhering to their guidance, we have nothing to lose and everything to gain….

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#ChoosingLove Online Courses for Your Self-Care

Lauri Ann Lumby, OM, OPM, MATS, founder and director of Authentic Freedom Academy, offers stand alone, online and e-courses along with complete online training programs.

You can find a full listing of Lauri’s courses by clicking the image below:

Authentic Freedom Academy

Or see individual course listings below:

 

Meditation and Prayer

meditation, creative mind, active mind, meditation practices

 

 

 

 

Life Stages

mother wound, mothers and daughters, healing the mother wound, healing, inner child, childhood woundsmidlife, menopause, perimenopause, midlife crisis

 

 

 

 

Healing Religious Wounds

Healing Our Religious WoundsDiscovering the Goddess through Biblical Women

 

 

 

 

Guided Meditations

 

 

 

 

Shadow Work

gwyn ap nudd, celtic god, Lord of the Underworld, Welsh god, shadow work, shadow, initiationSpiritual Healing - Healing Demons