“It’s Donald Trump.” “It’s guns.” “It’s video games.” It’s mental illness.”
Here we go, pointing the finger of blame at all those things outside of us that must be the reason a young white man killed 26 and wounded 20 in a shooting spree in El Paso. Here we are, entering into the human knee-jerk reaction to violence – “it must be someone or something’s fault.” Pointing the finger of blame does one of two things:
- Places the burden of blame “out there” on someone else’s shoulder.
- Gives us the illusion of innocence which allows us to go about our day.
- Allows us to mask our grief and fear with self-righteousness.
- Allows us to turn away from the event because if it is someone else’s fault, then someone else is responsible for fixing it.
Pointing the finger of blame does nothing to heal the problem. Neither does it do the critical work of identifying the TRUE CAUSE of violence in our world. The true cause has nothing to do with Donald Trump or any other politicians. It has nothing to do with guns or the NRA. It certainly has nothing to do with video games. And while mental illness has been a contributing factor in some of our nation’s mass shootings, when someone drives 9 hours and walks into a Wal-Mart wearing noise cancelling headphones and carrying an AK-47, he knows exactly what he is about to do and why. Hatred is not a mental illness.
The truth is that WE ARE ALL TO BLAME for the hatred and violence that now seem to rule our nation. As scripture says, “We reap what we sow,” – what do we think will happen when we have done everything to create separation in our world and nothing to bring us together? But even then, we need to cease from blaming and instead look deep within ourselves for the cause and then work toward its cure.
As long as we are looking outside of ourselves or pointing the finger of blame, the violence in our world will continue. The cause of violence is not outside of us, it is within. It is within us in our unacknowledged fears, unhealed wounds, unresolved traumas and in every single place within where we have forgotten that we are love.
The true cause of the violence and hatred in our world, and the cause of every other “sin” is the false perception of separation. This false perception of separation is the core wound of humanity. It is the primal fear that we first experienced when we were expelled from our mothers’ wombs and it is the fear that grows every single time we feel rejected, betrayed, unheard or unseen. When our needs are not being met or when we are not supported in getting those needs met, we feel this fear. When we suffer our first loss, we feel this fear. When we experience trauma or abuse, we feel this fear. This is the nature of the human condition. Some have the tools for moving through and healing this fear. Most do not. We become resilient in the face of this core wound of humanity when we grow up in an environment where we feel safe and loved. Many in our world do not have the benefit of experiencing this kind of love. As a result, many (most) of humanity are the walking wounded – trying to make it through this life while burdened by the ongoing feeling of separation and fear. This is what breeds the violence in our world. People. Guns. Video Games, etc. are merely vehicles through which these unhealed fears find their expression. If we want to end violence, we first have to heal our fears.
Authentic Freedom Academy is here to support us in learning how to choose love in a world conditioned by fear. We do this by providing education and training in identifying and then healing the fears that might otherwise cause us to act in non-loving ways toward our world, toward others and toward ourselves. Learn more HERE.