but first they need our help….
Last week I held the first gathering of magical children. We met in my living room with their parents present; and we discussed all the things that brought these children here:
- Feelings of not fitting in.
- Sensitivity to this world (food, spells, lights, sounds, violence, etc.)
- Strange spiritual experiences. (not strange to me, but strange to the typical human)
- Empathy (the ability to feel and sense other people’s feelings).
- A desire to help people around them and the world.
- A deep feeling as if something is very wrong – very wrong with the world and many of the people living in it.
- A profound sense that they are here for a reason and a purpose, but not finding any support in this culture for fulfilling this mission.
- Not finding support in the current educational system (falling through the cracks).
- And more.
My heart is with these kids because I raised two just like them and have been a source of support and guidance for many others. These are the young people who are here to build the new world after the current world is finished with its collapse. Actually, they are not waiting until it is done; they are building the new world right this moment as we speak (and watch and hope and dream).
These are the kids who came into this world expecting it to be the world they already know in the deepest part of their Soul, only to be shocked and disappointed by the violence and separation that prevail upon this earth. This is NOT what these kids signed up for…..but it is. Not because they were meant to be disappointed, but because they came here to build the world they already know in their hearts, and they need the special gifts and sensitivities that they possess to do the work they came here to do. In the meantime, however, they need to be affirmed, validated and supported in naming, claiming, nurturing and cultivating these gifts so they can use them to build the new world. And it is our job to help them.
Raising Magical Children
As one who has successfully raised (and continue to support the growth and development of) two of these magical children, I can attest that the work of raising these children begins with us. If we were gifted with a magical child or two, it is because we are magic ourselves. But the question is, do we know our magic and are we using it? For many, the answer sadly, is no. We do not live in a culture that recognizes or supports us in the identification or development of these gifts. Instead, we are told to comply with the societal norms and tribal rules that govern our patriarchal and capitalistic culture. In order to own our magic, we have to break free. We have to pierce through the veil of societal conditioning that tells us only that which is objectively measurable is real, that intuition and empathy are just our imagination, and that there is no communication with other worlds (for example). My experience has shown me otherwise.
Helping our special children begins by helping ourselves. We must come to know who we are – REALLY – our gifts and talents, our personality and temperament, and all the parts of ourselves we have rejected or hidden away out of fear that to our world they would not be acceptable. Then we have to pierce through the societal conditioning that has hindered us from being our true, magnificent and magical selves.
Then, while we are doing this work for ourselves, we can support our children in doing the same. This doesn’t mean we need to rescue them from or remove them from the existing culture (though for some this might be the answer). I raised my children right here in the middle of small-town America within the traditional public education system. Fortunately for my son (who only tolerates school) there was an alternative option in high school which allowed him to capitalize on his predominantly kinesthetic learning style. Now they both attend a state university which also follows an outmoded patriarchal model. With my help they have successfully navigated the dying institutions – taking from them that which serves and leaving behind the rest.
Knowing Ourselves/Knowing Our Children
Supporting our own self-knowledge helps us in knowing our children. When we know ourselves, we can identify and accept the unique gifts (and challenges) our children possess. The Enneagram, for example, is one of the tools of self-knowledge that I have found helpful. In using the Enneagram I have come to know myself – the lens through which I perceive my life experiences and the challenges and gifts inherent within this lens. With knowledge of the Enneagram, I am also able to understand other people and their unique temperaments. My daughter, for example is a Type 9 on the Enneagram. This makes her devoted, loyal, steadfast and persistent. But it also makes her slow to change. I understand this about her and help support her through new things until she is comfortable doing it on her own. I also try to never spring something new on her out of sensitivity to her needs. My son is the opposite. As a Type 7, he is easily bored. He loves new things, loves to be active and loves a challenge. With this in mind, I make sure he has lots of activities and I honor his need to be engaged. With the Myers-Briggs, I have come to understand that my daughter is an introvert like I am, and my son an extrovert. This helps me to support them in getting their energy needs met (introversion vs. extroversion is all about how we get our energy).
When we know our children, we are able to support them in knowing themselves – their gifts, their talents along with the shadow. In doing this, we are able to love them without condition, accepting them for who they are instead of trying to make them fit into some pre-determined societal mold. THIS more than anything is what our children need – to be seen and accepted for who they are and to be empowered in their gifts.
Authentic Freedom Academy knows that our children are here to build the new world and they need our help! Find support for yourself in raising these children, along with tools through which you can help them along the way. If you are one of these magical children ( or young adults), you might like these tools yourself!