Yesterday I wrote an article about Feminine Rage and the injustices that have been done to women at the hands of the current structure of our world which is rooted in fear, power and control. While yesterday’s blog spoke on behalf of women, today I speak to (and hopefully for) the men.
Men, if you are not angered over the injustices that our world has heaped upon women (people of color, the disenfranchised, the sick, the poor, the elderly, etc.) then you should be. If not for the women, then you should be angry for your own sake. Because as much as women have suffered under the hands of a culture rooted in fear, power and control, so have you. If you don’t believe me, ask yourself a few questions:
- Where and how have you felt supported for your sensitive, vulnerable side?
- Where have you been forbidden (or condemned) for expressing tender emotions – fear, sorrow, anxiety, love?
- Where have you run from intimacy, fearing the vulnerability that comes with it?
- Where have you been told to “stop crying,” or “boys don’t cry?”
- Where have you been forced into situations of competition, violence, bullying and how did these experiences cause you discomfort?
- How do you feel about picking up a gun and going off to war?
- How do you feel about putting a gun in your son’s hand and sending him off to war?
- Where do you feel pressure to drive, strive, succeed, achieve, and where do you feel as if your only value is based on how much money you make, what kind of car your drive or what neighborhood you live in?
- Where have you been supported in exploring/cultivating your creative yearnings? Where have you been told, when entertaining your creative dreams, “There’s no money in that….”
- Where have you experienced support and a vehicle for expressing all the inner areas of conflict within yourself?
- Where have you been molested, assaulted, taken advantage of by one in a perceived position of power over you?
My dear, sweet men, you have a right to be angry about all the places in your life where you have been denied or felt as if you had to suppress your truth. The hierarchical/patriarchal/consumeristic/capitalistic world has done you as much harm as it has done to us – maybe more. As much as you have been told to “be tough,” “keep a stiff upper lip,” “be courageous and strong,” and that your value is dependent on what you have achieved (as it is measured in the terms of our society), this is not the whole of what it means to be a man. While the Holy Masculine is about provision, protection, action and support, in order to experience wholeness, one also needs to experience the feeling of being supported, protected and provided for……and this is the role of the Divine Feminine. This is the Holy Balance that our Creator intended and what we all long to experience in our world – if we are truly honest with ourselves and about the deepest longing in our hearts.
Men, this is what we as women long to be for you – the Divine Feminine to your Holy Masculine. As women, we have the potential for creating the space in which you might feel safe to lay down your sword and set aside your armor. Where you are supported in feeling and expressing fear; where you are honored for your strength and your vulnerability. Where you are uplifted, nourished, nurtured and restored so that you might go back out into the world to do the work you came here to do. And while we do this for you, we long for you to do the same for us.
We are in this together….but we live in a world that seems to have forgotten this. Instead, we live in a world that has pitted men against women and women against men….and sadly, this is a world of our own making – not directly, but due to thousands of years of conditioning, and we are complicit in allowing it to continue. Men are guilty for enjoying the benefits of male privilege, and women are guilty for allowing it while enjoying the benefits of powerlessness. BUT it doesn’t need to be this way. We have the power to change this, but we can only make this change TOGETHER. Women acting alone cannot bring about a new paradigm of human partnership and collaboration without the men acting right here beside us.
So my dear sweet men, I offer you a question, an invitation and a question:
The Question: What kind of world do you want to live in? One rooted in the Unholy Masculine defined by fear, power and control or one rooted in the Holy which honors and uplifts the unique giftedness among all human beings and draws from those gifts?
The Invitation: If the world you would like to live in is not the world you are living in now, what would you like to do about it?
The Question: If you feel called to a more Holy expression of our world, who are the women you would like to stand beside in bringing this about?