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Shining the Light on Our Shadow

In yesterday’s blog, I wrote about the “nothing good” I had to say. Well, that isn’t entirely true.  While it is easy to see all the “bad” in the world, as the psalmist said:

If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me,  and the light around me become night,”  even the darkness is not dark to you;  the night is as bright as the day,  for darkness and light are but one.

– Psalm 139: 11-12

From the highest perspective, from the Divine perspective, from the perspective of love and hope and belief in the promise that within every death is the promise for new life, all of the “bad” we are currently seeing in our world is ultimately in service to the good. In other words, the world of fear, power and control that no longer serves us and is hastening toward its own demise is dying so that a new world can be born.

Yes it looks ugly. Yes it is violent.  Yes it is self-centered, hateful, ignorant, sexist, prejudice, discriminatory, greedy, gluttonous, hungry for power and control, jealous of other people’s happiness.  It is the playground bully puffing itself up, pushing people around, trying to get its way because in the end, he is insecure, feeling unloved and afraid.  What is manifesting in our world is the worst expression of all that we have suppressed within ourselves and all that we have ignored as we have taken from others so that we might have power.

What we see out there that we detest is ultimately what we don’t want to see within ourselves. The microcosm is the macrocosm.  And we are all guilty.


This is a good thing. We cannot grow or heal or transform until we take a good hard look at our shadow.  We cannot become the fullness of our potential as individuals and as a nation until we SEE the shadow and do something about it.  And with the current state of things….we can’t NOT see our shadow.  The shadow is present in all of our unhealed fears, forgotten dreams, repressed memories, suppressed gifts, denied hurts, losses and betrayals.  She shadow is in every situation in our life where we experienced something as less than love and failed to grief and heal from that wounding.

Our purpose on this plane is to know that we are LOVE and to BE that love in the world. Anything less than that results in a spiritual/psychic wounding and this wounding must be healed for us to find wholeness.  In order to change/heal what we see “out there” we first have to turn within.

  • When we are angered by prejudice, we must examine the places within us where we have experienced prejudice against another. And then work on forgiving and healing ourselves of this wound.
  • When we are furious with the violence in our world, we must examine our own propensity toward thinking, feeling, wishing violence on another or against ourselves. Then forgive and heal that violence.
  • When we are bereft over the poverty, hunger, homelessness in our world, we must heal the places within us where we feel poor, hungry, alone.
  • When we fear for the state of our environment because of the shortsighted actions of greedy men, we must examine our own temptation toward gluttony and greed. When are we taking more than we need, failing to share what we have, or wasting the gifts we’ve been given….then forgive and heal that wounding.

Do you see where I’m going with this? If we want to change the world, FIRST we have to change ourselves.  The changing starts with shining a light on our own shadow and then doing something about it.

My favorite ritual for healing the shadow within me is the Ho’oponopono prayer. It goes like this:

Everytime I am triggered by something “out there” I examine the wound that is being triggered (fear, hatred, anger, loss, rejection, envy) and apply the Ho’oponopono prayer to myself:

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

I love you.

Thank you.


Remember, we are not saying this prayer to the persons, places, things, “out there,” we are saying it to ourselves. As we shine the light on our own shadow and do the work of healing it, we are transformed and so is the world around us.

Changing the world begins by changing ourselves.

For support in facilitating the transformation of your own shadow, read my book Authentic Freedom – Claiming a Life of Contentment and Joy, take the online course, or subscribe to Authentic Freedom Weekly where you will enjoy weekly lessons on Authentic Freedom.



I am a trained, professional Spiritual Director, Author and Hands-on Healer. I offer services, programs and classes that empower you to hear the voice of the Divine that speaks from within you. It is the voice of the Divine that leads us to our highest truth, to the discovery and cultivation of our gifts and to a life of Authentic Freedom where we know contentment, compassion and joy. Your truth will set you free!

2 thoughts on “Shining the Light on Our Shadow

  1. Thanks, Lauri. I don’t feel the fear,etc. that a lot of other people do. I believe in us that we can handle anything, and turn negatives into positives. I guess I am blessed with this outlook as my good friend said. So that is what I will be thankful for this Thanksgiving.
    Hoping all is well with you and your family.

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