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Lessons from Men

At this place in our conscious evolution, (ascension, self-actualization) one of our critical tasks is to set down what has been “unholy” and unbalanced within us, specifically, the unholy masculine (fear, power and control) and the unholy feminine (victimhood, weakness, helplessness, co-dependency). As we relinquish the unholy, the holy aspects of ourselves have an opportunity to emerge from within and take root in us. For women, perhaps the most challenging part of this journey is discovering the holy masculine within us (and not confusing it with the unholy masculine) and allowing it to be lived through us.  In this, we can take some lessons from (healthy) men:


In women, the embodiment of the Divine Masculine is about understanding our worth.

It is about standing up for ourselves and not only insisting, but expecting, even assuming that our needs will be met.

It is about knowing that the work we do in the world has value and expecting, insisting on appropriate compensation for our contribution to the world – whether it be as wife, mother, employer, employee, artist or business owner.

Embodying the Divine Masculine is about having our own backs – setting boundaries where appropriate, naming and claiming our needs, making sure they are getting met and NEVER having to apologize for doing what is right for ourselves.

Embodying the Divine Masculine is about NEVER having to make accommodations that our male brethren would never think of making for another – so much so that others would never even think to ask.

Embodying the Divine Masculine is about never questioning the fact that our needs come first and never even thinking to ask – we simply do it.

Embodying the Divine Masculine is about loving ourselves – knowing our greatness and never settling for less than what we deserve.


I am a trained, professional Spiritual Director, Author and Hands-on Healer. I offer services, programs and classes that empower you to hear the voice of the Divine that speaks from within you. It is the voice of the Divine that leads us to our highest truth, to the discovery and cultivation of our gifts and to a life of Authentic Freedom where we know contentment, compassion and joy. Your truth will set you free!

2 thoughts on “Lessons from Men

  1. Hi, Lauri,

    Your latest article got my attention, because I’ve been thinking about this masculinity thing a lot lately. Just in case you’re interested, here’s something I wrote that kind of captures what’s been on my mind: I’m thinking about turning this into a query for a major publication, but I’ve got a lot of research to do first.

    My apologies for being so absent lately. I love the way you think, and for various personal reasons (let me tell you, this year can NOT end fast enough for me) I haven’t been able to read as much as I’d like. So glad to see you’re doing what you’re doing, though.

    1. John,
      I’m so sorry for your recent losses! I have lost mentors in the past, but not through death, and it is a painful loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you! I love your article! It is brilliant and thank you sooooooo much for sharing. We definitely need more men to weigh in on this gender-role redefinition we are going through and the questions about what does it really mean to be a man in the modern world….and for that matter, what does it mean to be a woman? Much of the old no longer serves, but as you so aptly pointed out, the goodness is already there when we know where to look. I’m especially grateful for my father (who yesterday celebrated his 5th anniversary after a successful kidney transplant!!!!!) who embodies the Divine Masculine quite well and who has given me and example for what to look for in myself and in others with whom I choose to commune.

      Thank you, as always John, for connecting!

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