If you have been gifted with a vision of the New World and feel called to help bring the New World into fruition, this blog is for you. I apologize ahead of time if my words seem a little harsh…..the time to sugarcoat the New World journey is over and it is time to speak some cold, hard truths.
Birthing the New World is Hard
First of all……please know that birthing the New World is no easy task. In fact, it might be the most difficult thing we are yet to face as a species. The Universe keeps giving us opportunities to learn the consequences of fear (WWI, WWII, Vietnam, The Gulf War, 911) and instead to choose love, but we keep getting it wrong and are then once again led down the pathway of fear and its ugly spawn named: gluttony, greed, lust, wrath, envy, sloth and pride, the worst of these being pride. And, this is a cycle that we have faced since eternity as reflected in the First Letter of John:
Do not love the world or the things of the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of God is not in them. for all that is in the world, sensual lust, enticement for the eyes, and a pretentious life, is not from God but is from the world. Yet the world and its enticement are passing away. But whoever does the will of God remains forever.
1 John 2: 15-17
If we wish to be free of the ongoing cycle of fear, power and control, we need to stop choosing the governing body of the Old World, which is fear and instead, choose the governing body out of which the New World shall be born – which is LOVE.
Choosing Love is way easier than what we might initially believe, but it requires us to stop talking about the glories of the New World and hoping it will suddenly fall into our laps. Instead, we are invited to walk the talk by taking both a foundational as well as a symptomatic approach.
The foundational approach to choosing Love over fear requires us to
1) Sit down
2) Shut up
4) Be open to hearing and experiencing God/Truth/Love/Peace
5) Discern the voice of Love/Truth/God from the voice of the ego
5) Dare to believe and trust what we discern to be from God
6) Do what we are told
In theistic terms, it is about cultivating some sort of daily spiritual practice which allows us to take time to be quiet and listen to the voice of God/Truth within. This spiritual practice can take any number of forms: meditation, prayer, contemplation, painting, drawing, writing, cooking, gardening, singing, running, making love, or as one friend recently shared with me – watching reality TV. The point is that we are doing something to connect with the Energy and Presence of LOVE/TRUTH – the love that holds us, comforts us, guides us and yes, sometimes DRIVES US CRAZY! (I don’t know about you, but suddenly discovering “speaking in tongues” as a “gift” in my still emerging repertoire of charisms is not something that gives me peace!) Cultivating a daily spiritual practice builds the foundation, cultivates the soil and provides nourishment out of which Love/Truth/God can take root and grow within us.
The symptomatic approach to birthing the New World is about getting right with our sh.t! One of the great hallmarks of the Old World is an on-going pattern of projection. Instead of owning our own fears, healing our wounds, confronting our shadow (the parts of ourselves we reject, suppress or repress), we project them on to others making “them” the source of our pain, discontent and fear. It often goes like this:
1) We have unnamed and unmanaged anxiety.
2) We have embraced a coping mechanism for dealing with this anxiety which includes anticipatory planning – rolling around and around in our minds all the possible scenarios which might cause us to feel discomfort and then we try to facilitate the scenario which seems most likely to calm our anxiety.
3) Our partner or spouse comes in and does something outside this “peaceful” scenario. We feel anxious and disturbed and are sure it is the other’s fault for causing this pain. When in fact, it is our anxiety, not theirs.
1) We have anxiety.
2) Instead of naming the anxiety, we decide it must be something in our environment which is causing this unease – maybe it is the color of the living room walls, maybe it is the size of our house, maybe it is our co-worker who seems to be more successful, perhaps it is the car in front of us who is driving too slow.
3) We make the “other” the enemy, then we obsess about the disturbance and formulate ways to make it better.
4) We try one of the ideas we thought up in our head.
5) Either the Universe falls in on us….or the anxiety quickly returns. Now we are off looking for the next thing to “fix.”
Taking Care of our own Sh.t!
The symptomatic approach to creating an environment in which the New World can arise, challenges us to STOP making everyone else and everything else the enemy and to OWN OUR OWN SH.T! When we see ourselves making the other the enemy:
1) Sit with the icky feeling – anger, rage, frustration, impatience.
2) Acknowledge that there is something in this feeling that is YOURS!
3) Sit with the feeling and identify the FEAR which is driving the feeling – from Authentic Freedom, the fear might be one of the following:
There is not enough (time, money, love, sex, accomplishments, success, things, etc.)
That you have nothing to contribute to the world.
That you are unable to be the person God made you to be.
That you are not loved/love.
That you are not free to express your truth.
That you do not know your truth or your path.
That you are alone. You have to do it alone. And you CAN do it alone.
4) Once you have identified the fear/fears (99% of the work is naming the fear), invite God/Love/Truth to heal that fear.
5) Now, in your heart, ask “the other” for forgiveness – for the way in which you made them the enemy.
6) If appropriate, speak with the other about the process you just accomplished. Owning our sh.t opens the door to authentic intimacy….something that will be a hallmark of the New World!
7) Then….move on.
Lauri Lumby is available for one-on-one mentoring, providing assistance for your own journey toward birthing the New World. Call (920) 230-1313 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule your session.