The purpose of a midlife crisis, perimenopause and menopause (from a spiritual perspective) is to move us beyond childbearing to birthing ourselves…and this is as true for men as it is for women. During midlife and menopause, we are invited to leave behind the life we have known to make room for the new life that is trying to be born through us. In birthing our new selves, we are birthing our Soul – the unique way we are creatively gifted to find meaning, purpose, connection and fulfillment in our lives and the way in which we find fulfillment by contributing to the betterment of our world. There are a whole slew of symptoms that arise to alert us to the fact that we are facing midlife, perimenopause and menopause – anxiety, depression, restlessness, impatience, discontent, sorrow, loneliness, relationship issues and rage. In today’s blog, we explore rage as a symptom of midlife and how to deal with it.
Symptoms of Midlife, Perimenopause and Menopause – Dealing with Rage
In the process of birthing ourselves during the midlife transition, a whole slew of symptoms emerge with three purposes:
1) To alert/WAKE US UP to the fact that we have entered the midlife stage of human development.
2) To let us know that our Soul – the uniquely creative way in which we have been gifted to find meaning, purpose and fulfillment in our lives – is trying to be born.
3) To give us an opportunity to clear out all the old, unresolved and ungrieved issues from our past which might stand as an obstacle to the birthing of our Soul.
Rage, as a symptom of midlife, perimenopause and menopause, does all of these things. Rage shows up to remind us of all the past betrayals, resentments, disappointments, losses and hurts that have not yet been processed, healed and released. While rage shows up to clean our inner house, Rage also has a unique and special purpose.
Symptoms of Midlife, Perimenopause and Menopause – Rage in a Cage
In the lifetime leading up to the midlife (perimenopause and menopause) transition, most of us have spent an enormous amount of time and energy keeping a lid on our truth. Ignoring our needs. Denying our passions. Silencing our hopes and dreams. Putting a gag over our truth. At midlife, our Soul screams, “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!” This is where rage steps in. Rage, during midlife, is more often than not, all of our bottled up truths, suppressed needs, repressed passions trying to find their way out. For just a moment, imagine that you are a volcano and all of your needs, truths, secret desires, hidden gifts, passions, hopes and dreams are molten lava….bubbling and boiling and wanting to come forth out of the world, but you have placed 300 tons of stones and rocks on top of your boiling truths. At midlife, the pressure of this boiling mass of creativity, dreams and passions can no longer be contained and will eventually EXPLODE out of you….often in a fit of rage….and if not in an explosion, it will come out sideways in impatience, frustration, seething resentments. The remedy to Rage in midlife…..is to uncover your truths, name and claim your needs, set healthy boundaries for yourself and your loved ones, explore your passions, rediscover your childhood dreams…..and LET THEM SPEAK. In allowing our truths to be known, our rage subsides and we find contentment, peace and joy.
Lauri Ann Lumby offers support for the midlife journey through one-on-one mentoring, workshops and classes. To learn more, call (920) 230-1313 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.