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Dealing with Menopause and Midlife – Finding Purpose

Yesterday, I came across a quote that perfectly describes the purpose of the midlife journey which includes perimenopause and menopause.  In the midlife journey, there is apparently a method to the madness of midlife crisis and the symptoms of perimenopause and menopause: hot flashes, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, physical changes, mood swings, changes in libido, weight gain, etc. The ultimate goal and hoped for result of the midlife transition is self-actualization. Achieving self-actualization, we find meaning, purpose and fulfillment in our lives. Bill Plotkin, in his book, Nature and the Human Soul, shares the following definition of self-actualization as offered by human development pioneer and humanistic psychologist, Abraham Maslow.  I could not have said it better myself:


“Self-actualizing people are, without one single exception, involved in a cause outside their own skin, in something outside of themselves.  They are devoted, working at something which is very precious to them – some calling or vocation in the old sense, the priestly sense.  They are working at something which fate has called them to somehow and which they work at and which they love, so that the work-joy dichotomy in them disappears.”  (Plotkin, 2008, p. 310)

What are you doing to support your own journey of self-actualization? 

For support in your own journey through the midlife transition, contact Lauri Ann Lumby at (920) 230-1313 or  Lauri has accompanied hundreds of men and women through their own journey of self-actualization and is available for one-on-one mentoring in person, over the phone and via Skype.


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