Today I’m taking a little break from the menopause, midlife and perimenopause discussion to talk about truth. Today’s blog is inspired by a dear friend who has recently suffered the consequences of living their truth – judgment, condemnation, criticism, untrue accusations, etc. Today’s blog is a reminder for those of us who dare to stand in our truth that there will always be those who misunderstand, unfairly judge and even hate us for doing what they are unable or unwilling to do for themselves.
Our Truest Nature
Planted deep within each and every one of us are the seeds of our truest nature – the uniquely creative way in which we have been gifted to find meaning, fulfillment, purpose and connection in our lives. When we take the time to uncover this gift, nurture and cultivate it and share this gift, the world becomes a better place and we are fulfilled in the good we are bringing to our world. The unique gift we have been given is for ourselves, but more importantly, it is there to serve the world. It is because of and for this gift that we are here and without the identification of and sharing of this gift, the world suffers…and so do we. Until we uncover and share this gift, we live a life of quiet desperation – forever restless, impatient, unsettled and discontented and our discontent often comes out sideways in non-loving attitudes, behaviors, thoughts and actions. Anxiety, depression, judgment, discrimination, arrogance, ignorance, etc. all come out of an inner sense of fear and guilt for not tending to the real person God/dess made us to be.
The Path of our Truth
The path to our truth is never an easy one! It requires the release and healing of negative childhood experiences and messages, overcoming societal “shoulds” and “rules” and confronting the fears of judgment, rejection and condemnation. In addition to overcoming all of these externals, we have to overcome the inner voice that tells us our gifts are worthless or unnecessary and we have to answer the question, “Who am I to do….” Then, once we make it through the bramble choked forest of our inner fears and resistance and cultivate the courage to deal with the threat of external rejection, we are forced to acknowledge that no matter how much strength we cultivate or courage we muster, there will always be those who will judge, criticize, condemn, even hate us for daring to stand in our truth.
The Consequences and Responsibility of Living our Truth
Those who are approaching and living their truth serve as a mirror for the rest of the world – by living in our truth, we reflect back for others their own hidden truth. For some, the triggering of their truth is welcome and they begin to awaken to their own unrealized truth. For those who are unwilling or unable to acknowledge the hidden seeds of their truth…we are the enemy. Because their truth is buried so deeply in their subconscious…or because they have worked so hard to ignore or deny it, all they feel in our presence is resistance, fear, even repulsion. Because they are unable or unwilling to be present to the voice of their own truth and are uncomfortable in the anxiety that is triggered by their buried truth, they project this anxiety on to us….and we become the target of all the repressed anger, fear and guilt they unconsciously feel for ignoring their truth. This is where the judgment, condemnation, criticism, rejection come in…..not because we did something wrong, but because we did something VERY RIGHT by living our truth. The invitation as we continue to live in our truth is to understand the consequences of living that truth … the inner freedom and contentment we experience for living our truth, the opportunity to help others awaken to their truth and the very real negative reactions from those who are unable to live their truth. And when we are done tending to our own hurt at being criticized, condemned and rejected, perhaps we can grow in compassion for those who continue to be imprisoned for not living their truth.
When have you been criticized, condemned, judged, rejected for living your truth?
Where have you experienced others awakening to their truth because of your ability to live your truth?
How does it help to understand that by living your truth, you are a mirror for those whose truth is still unlived?