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Men in Midlife….Women Want to Know!


Ok guys, this one’s for you….rather, this is an invitation for you.  In the next six weeks, in anticipation of the new course I am rolling out, “Surviving Midlife,” I will be writing a LOT about midlife….specifically the midlife journey.  Being a girl and all, I can only speak to this from a woman’s perspective and out of a woman’s experience.  This is where I need your help!  I suspect that the male midlife journey is somewhat similar to a woman’s journey including:

  • restlessness
  • discontent
  • frustration
  • longing
  • confusion

and includes:

  • physical and emotional changes and upheaval
  • crisis
  • relationship issues
  • anxiety, depression, etc.
  • Disappointment
  • Facing empty nest and the relationship changes that come from that!

I also believe the goal/destination of the journey is similar:  seeking to find fulfillment beyond what one has known in their current profession, relationship, etc.

BUT…I’m just a girl….what do I know about a man’s journey (other than what male clients have shared with me.)?

So… is where you come in.  Send me your stories (they can be anonymous if you wish).  Email your experience of the midlife journey as a MAN and from the MALE perspective.  What are you feeling, experiencing, hoping, wishing, dreaming?  What in your life frustrates the hell out of you and what would you like to see changed.  Or…if you’ve survived midlife and found fulfillment on the other side…HOW DID YOU GET THERE??????

I will share your stories on this blog (again, your story can be published anonymously if you wish) and in the sharing we will all learn, grow, be informed …..and we just might help a few men….and women along the way.

Thank you in advance for your contribution which you can send to:

Looking forward to hearing your stories and growing through your open sharing.



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7 thoughts on “Men in Midlife….Women Want to Know!

  1. Midlife crisis to me take on many fronts for men. These include career changes, differing matters of sexual performance, body image, partner’s desirability and interest, and the tensions around that, and generally, looking at the back side of life, feeling pressure to get things done while there is still time.

  2. I will be interested in hearing the responses. As a recently divorced woman in midlife, I have realized that all of the men my age are looking for a decade younger. And all of the men a decade older are looking for me. Sigh. You think we’d all be wiser by now . . .

  3. Somebody please just tell me when this ends,and what’s on the other side,if there is one.
    So far just more and more questions than answers. I mostly just like to make people laugh,
    when I feel like crying. I’m glad the young people don’t have a clue. But,so many do wan’t
    to listen! That gives me courage to continue,and always keep them laughing! After the
    tears at the end of the day,you also will finally look back and laugh! Sincererely,
    Jay P. Raeder

    1. Keep sharing your words, your wisdom and your gifts. Bill Plotkin (author of Soulcraft) says there is no end to the journey as we are constantly evolving. When we discover our soul, however, we do find fulfillment – both in our uniquely creative self and in service to the world. That doesn’t mean, however, that the birth of the Soul is easy…in fact, it is kind of like childbirth…UGH! 🙂 Hang in there Jay!

  4. Thank you Biill for your compassion you share with me,and so many others! You must really have your eye on this particular post! It’s sad that so many men have not joined in! Why? Lauri has reached above her mountain peaks! “Birds of a feather fether flock together! But men, they relate to you too,if you have any imagination to connect her posts within your mans view of the side! you must feel something,no matter how insignificant it may be! Choose your story,and give us all,women and men something to think about! Thanks again bill your soothing answers are a Godsend! Thanks lauri for this post for men! Sorry I spotted it so late! Too many emails from others make us miss the jewels in our face! Keep looking for the jewels all,no matter how much junk mail you get! Sincerely,Jay P. Raeder Bye Bill.

  5. I am in that journey as a woman raising my teenage son, when I noticed my husband going through his midlife crisis, I found a site to stand in your marriage. When we were first married we had very little income, but were the happiest!! After many years, I was working for a corporation and making more money then my husband. I quit my job to raise our son and he took on a job with both of us agreeing on the sacrifice of travel for him, I turned into a domestic goddess and carried the job well. Now he is unhappy, I make him less then a man”?? I am no where near him, was on the phone daily to him with encouragement when he went through rough times at work, at the same time taking care of granddaughters, sons sports etc. So I feel I am a diamond in the rough taking verbal abuse, no contact, removing finances, isolation from us. At first I was angry, depressed and would respond verbal abuse back as given. Now I am at another phase “It’s on you” and I feel so relieved. The lesson after counseling for my son and I, my husband doesn’t feel he needs it.:) is recovery. You be angry, yell and whatever you want my choice BE HAPPY!! Whatever the universe has for me is going to allow me to Shine Bright like a Diamond!! and that is all that matters….YOU and the people that DO LOVE YOU!!

    1. “It’s on you” or my favorite mantra “It’s your sh..t, not mine” are great tools for unraveling any tendencies toward co-dependent or enabling behaviors….one of the things we are invited to unravel and unlearn in the midlife journey (if we are paying attention anyway). Thank you for sharing! (PS I still have you on my “call”) list. 😉

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