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Surviving Midlife


Somewhere between the ages of 35 and 45, women begin the process of the midlife journey – a process through which they move beyond childbearing to birthing themselves.  For many, the advent of this transition comes in the form of a rude awakening, personal crisis or tragedy and continues through volatile physical and emotional changes which seem at once to be disconcerting and confusing.  The purpose of the midlife journey is to knock women out of the comfort of status quo and into the passion, meaning and purpose that will define their lives beyond motherhood.  Like childbirth, the midlife journey can be dangerous and fraught with pain, but like the birth of a child, midlife can produce a gift beyond measure and miraculous to behold. 

The Joy of Midlife
The Joy of Midlife



Common signs that you might be in the midst of the midlife transition:

Experiences of:

  • Restlessness
  • Boredom
  • Loneliness
  • Longing
  • Discontent
  • Impatience, anger,  rage
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Panic attacks
  • Physical and emotional changes
  • Grief
  • Sadness


If you are looking for guidance or support through the midlife transitions, contact Lauri at (920) 230-1313 or

Relationship Issues in Midlife

Our intimate relationships are especially vulnerable during the midlife transition as women are compelled to seek meaning, purpose and fulfillment beyond motherhood and partnership, thereby changing the former rules of engagement.  Further complicating relationship issues during this time of transition is a serious lack of knowledge and education about the midlife journey and the pathologizing of this transition that is common in Western Medicine.

It is during this time that many couples experience, what I have come to call, The Dark Night of the Relationship The Dark Night is a critical stage in any long-standing, committed relationship.  This is a stage that no one tells us about, neither would we believe it could happen to us as we stood doe-eyed awaiting the celebratory nuptials.  The Dark Night of the Relationship is real, it is necessary and when committed and aware, some relationships will survive it. Some will not have the knowledge, patience, trust or stamina to survive.  And some will find after the stage of the Dark Night that the marriage should not continue and divorce is a necessary and supportive option. The Dark Night frequently occurs during the midlife transition, and deserves to be treated gently and with effective tools for navigating a thorough discernment of what is in the highest good for the couple involved.  To learn more about the Dark Night of the Relationship, click HERE.

If you are looking for guidance or support through the Dark Night of the Relationship, contact Lauri at (920) 230-1313 or

Let’s Not Forget the Men!

Admittedly, most of my midlife experience has been with women.  Men, however, are not immune to the sometimes treacherous journey of midlife.  Like women, men’s midlife journey is about seeking a greater level of creative fulfillment beyond what they have known in their career, in parenting or in their intimate relationships.  The destination for men and women is ultimately the same – a fuller expression of SOUL – the uniquely creative way in which they were gifted to find meaning, purpose, connection, fulfillment and through which they are called to contribute to the betterment of the world.

If you are looking for guidance or support through the midlife transitions, contact Lauri at (920) 230-1313 or


I am a trained, professional Spiritual Director, Author and Hands-on Healer. I offer services, programs and classes that empower you to hear the voice of the Divine that speaks from within you. It is the voice of the Divine that leads us to our highest truth, to the discovery and cultivation of our gifts and to a life of Authentic Freedom where we know contentment, compassion and joy. Your truth will set you free!

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