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Dying to Ourselves

As we approach the end of 2012 (and the oft-foretold “end of the world!”  😉  ) … I have observed, with increasing frequency, a strange phenomenon that I feel compelled to share here….perhaps you have observed the same phenomenon within yourself or those around you. (Here’s my favorite song from Disturbed to accompany your reading….the perfect soundtrack for today’s theme!   The phenomenon looks like this:

People we know, maybe even ourselves, coming face to face with the death of who we thought ourselves to be and what we thought our contribution in the world might be.  Our definition of self, our self-defined purpose, and the meaning we have assigned to our lives seems to be falling from our grasp (maybe even TORN from our grasp) and we are left standing, seemingly empty-handed wondering…..Who will I be in 2013? 

No longer are we able to define ourselves as:  healer, author, poet, playwrite, teacher, leader, muse, mother, wife, lover, painter, reformer, achiever, boss, peacemaker, activist, servant, sage, enthusiast, entertainer, loyalist, democrat, republican, pr0-lifer, Catholic, Lutheran, Muslim, etc. etc. etc.  Instead, we are left wondering if the red pill we arrogantly proclaimed ourselves to have consumed (Matrix reference), was really the blue pill all along and WE are the ones left in the dream.  Or….we are invited to consider that the DREAM is really all there is. 

We are not here to change the world, to do something important or make a dramatic impact…neither are we here to be the next famous rockstar, best selling author or Pulitzer prize winner….we are not even here to become the next enlightened Messiah who will save the world. 

Instead……we are left to consider the possiblity that we are simply here TO BE HUMAN and that the purpose and meaning we seek just might be hidden within the everyday, mundane, seemingly insignificant experiences of JUST LIVING LIFE.  And to wonder if only thing we are here to do is BE….to move through the journey of life, finding meaning and purpose in our interactions with ourself, the people around us and the world we live in as they present themselves to us. 

What if Genesis has it right….we are here to care for the earth, be in relationship with each other, bring forth life (whether through pro-creation or co-creation), care for that life and be grateful to whatever Source gave us this life in the first place….PERIOD.  What if that is all there is and this is all we need to do.  What if all the other things….pursuit of enlightenment, reform, change, fame, recognition, status, power, etc. are merely distractions from the AMAZING gifts we have right in front of us and the most important invitation of all which IS TO LOVE?

These are the questions that I have pondered within myself, that are being sent to me in emails and on Facebook, and are posed to me by clients, friends and colleagues.  It seems there is a theme…..and if you have been facing these questions yourself and the falling away of who you thought yourself to be… are not alone.  Perhaps this is the “End of the World” of which the Mayans spoke….the end of egoic strivings, delusions of grandeur, dreams of fame. And that in the New World…..we just get to be ourselves…..simple, humble, grateful, loving human beings.  What would our new world look like if that, indeed, were the case?


I am a trained, professional Spiritual Director, Author and Hands-on Healer. I offer services, programs and classes that empower you to hear the voice of the Divine that speaks from within you. It is the voice of the Divine that leads us to our highest truth, to the discovery and cultivation of our gifts and to a life of Authentic Freedom where we know contentment, compassion and joy. Your truth will set you free!

2 thoughts on “Dying to Ourselves

  1. This is really so opportune and feels so very right, and it’s nice to read it in a place other than the voice in my head that says the exact same thing every day, all day, now. For my entire life I’ve thought I would be good enough to be ‘me’ when I did that thing that would make me famous, made the money to make me rich and maybe even impacted a lot of people in a very dramatic way. You know, like Ghandi or Mother Theresa….Yet the circumstances of life always dictated this was not the purpose of whatever I was doing here. Lately I’ve had to shed my attachment to these outcomes that will never materialize and I realize that materialism of the mind is just as necessary to shed, as materialism of objects is. It’s been very hard to let this go, and accept the idea that I can be ‘me’ as is. Even though there is a calmness I crave and a joy I long for in that feeling whenever it arises, which is almost every time I think I need to be doing something more… which is all the time basically, that it is so surprising that this is so hard. But it’s the right thing….obviously! Not what I had been expecting at all.

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