Revisiting Grief

As a Professional Spiritual Director, I have learned that grief is a valuable and critical tool in helping us to heal from the many losses of the human condition.  Today’s blog explores the ever-unfolding process of grief.

 

Grief Comes Back Around

It is not a coincidence that as I prepare to offer a workshop on grief  (to be held at Inner Sun Yoga Studio tonight at 6:30..drops in are welcome!), that my own grieving process would decide to pay me a visit.  Without revealing the gory details, suffice it to say that certain circumstances have re-opened some recent and not-so-recent losses and brought me back into another layer of healing through grief.  Tears have been shed.  Sadness felt.  I have experienced the depression-related shutting down of my brain.  I’m exhausted and just want to sleep.  In this I am reminded that the grieving process is certainly NOT the linear, goal-oriented process theorized by some, but is an on-going process of healing and release that in fact may never truly end.  Isn’t there, afterall, always a wound somewhere in our hearts where love once dwelled and was torn out through disappointment, loss, death?  I am beginning to think so.  The good news is that over time, with patience and attention to our grieving process, these wounds are soothed, comforted, and healed, little by little by little.

 

Holding Space for Grief

As I will share with the participants of tonight’s grief workshop, the invitation when grief decides to pay a visit is to be present to it.  The process of grief is a profound healing tool through which we are able to find healing for our losses, move past the “old” and be open to the new life that is forever promised on the other side of the grief.  It is in being present to and allowing the grieving process that we can facilitate this healing.  Breaking the rules of Western culture which say, “Move on, get over it,” we enter FULLY into the grieving process and cry, scream, shake our fists at God, sleep, sleep, sleep some more, retreat from the world, lick our wound, allow ourselves to be mad as hell, spend moments in the respite of denial.  When we allow ourselves to surrender to the process and BE PRESENT to whatever shows up, we are allowing the healing to take place.  When we suppress it, stifle it, ignore it, feel guilty about it, we halt the process of healing that is trying to take place.  So for today, I surrender to the face of grief that decided to make its home in me today, and invite the workshop participants (and you readers) to do the same when grief pays you a visit.  I promise that you will find healing and release in the surrender and that there IS new life on the other side, just waiting for you to discover and accept it!

Grieving our Losses

September 15, 2011

Inner Sun Yoga Studio

6:30 – 8:30 pm

Suggested Fee:  $10.00

Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries

http://yourspiritualtruth.com

2 thoughts on “Revisiting Grief

  1. These are words very well spoken. Since the loss of my little Caleb my world has been torn to pieces and put back together again many times. God is leading my family through the pain of this loss, in fact he has led me to you. I feel as if I need to be here right now writing this to you. Feel free to take a look at Caleb’s Story. I would love to have you visit. God has some powerful work going on. Thank you for this post.

  2. Having recently been visited by this old friend, I can tell you that there is healing and reconciliation and peace on the other side. But unlike healings that I had sought in wasn’t for a reconciliation with a person or persons or for the redemption of a situaion. This time it was with “myself of the past.” This time, it was with me and it worked. Maybe not for all grief or for all people, but for me, this time, it worked. I wish you well on your journey~ And as you sent to me in my sadness…Blessings and prayers, Jan

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