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Following the Threads

There comes a time in our lives when we have no idea where we are going or who we are supposed to be.  During these times, all we can do is follow the threads and trust that they will lead somewhere, even if not to the place they originally seemed to be leading.  It is here that miracles can happen, and often do!


Getting a “real” job????

I’m taking a deep breath before I even utter this……….in this process of divorce, I have had to ask the REALLY hard question about whether I will have to find a “real” job (you know, something 9-5 ish with a regular salary, insurance, etc.) in order to support the needs of my family.  I shudder to even think of this because I LOVE what I do and I don’t think I spent seven + years studying theology, spirituality and energy medicine to go work in an office doing something administrative or corporate, business world related.  Not to mention, I’m damn good at what I do and have seen the results in the people with whom I have worked.  Call me naive, or a starry dreamer, but I can’t stop believing that God is creating some way in which sharing my gifts will bring financial benefit to my family.  At the same time, there are people in my life who haunt me with their words, “You need to get a real job.”  SIGH!  All that being said, I’m not so naive as to think I don’t need to explore EVERY option.  So, yesterday I followed the thread of “looking for a real job,” and met with a professional career counselor.  Here is where the miracles began.

Unexpected miracles

So, I enter into this meeting thinking I have to uncover “what the heck kind of job could I even pursue with nearly 20 years of ministry experience and past experience in the corporate world that was, shall we say, yuk!?”  What do old ministers do when the ministry work isn’t paying the bills?  And, how in the heck do I explain to a business guy what I do so that he can sculpt it into something marketable in the business world.  ARGH!  In the end, I decided honesty is the best policy.  So, here’s how the meeting unfolded:

Career Counseling Dude: “Lauri, what do you want to do when you grow up?”

ME: (deep breath)  “I want to do exactly what I’m doing right now.  I love what I do.”

CCD: Excellent.  Now, let’s figure out how to grow your business so you don’t have to get a “real” job.

WHAT???  SERIOUSLY??   Then here’s the best part.  This Career Counseling Dude TOTALLY GETS what I do.  He even got the Reiki part!  I didn’t have to explain a thing.  Then we got to work on the task of growing my Spiritual Direction practice.  YEA!  Hope!  Light!  Miracles!

The First Task

So, the first task toward the goal of growing my business is to create what the CCDude called a “sell sheet.”  On the sell sheet, I’m supposed to explain what Spiritual Direction is and how it benefits others.  Now, herein lies the challenge!!!!!  How in the heck do you define Spiritual Direction.  It is kind of like counseling, but not really.  It looks and feels like counseling and sometimes counseling-like issues come up, but the intention and the goal is completely different from counseling.  And, how do you put words to that in a way that people will understand?  I was at a loss.  So, I decided to enlist the help of some of my past and current clients and asked them the question, “In ONE sentence, describe how working with me has benefited you.”  Here are some of their answers:

  • Lauri helped me bring balance and awareness into my life.
  • Lauri has helped me realize that I am loved and not alone.
  • Lauri has helped me realize that my feelings are real and deserve
  • Lauri has helped me realize that I do have a “higher power” who cares
    about me and who is there for me.
  • Lauri has taught me that I have a “truth”, and that I owe it to myself
    to find my “truth” and to live my “truth”.
  • Lauri helped me to trust the voice of God within me.
  • I had been to counselors on and off for 10 years and Lauri hit the bulls eye during our first session; after our second session, the grief that plagued me for over 10 years was gone.
  • As a result of working with Lauri, my soul found recognition and healing. Now, I am me again.  I am whole, and I embrace life.

While this doesn’t give me a clear definition of Spiritual Direction, it gives me a place from which to start.  In addition, another miracle showed up.  Seeking assistance from my clients has provided relief for some of the self-doubt that has arisen in this time of transition and has diffused the effect of the external voices of the nay-sayers.  So, I still don’t know if I will have to get a “real” job, but (to borrow the words of St. Francis) where there was despair, there is now hope, and where there was sadness, joy.  🙂

What are the strings, strands and threads you have followed in your life and what unexpected outcomes did they lead to?

Where have you experienced unexpected miracles in your life?

Where are you being invited to trust in miracles and dreams?

Lauri Lumby

Authentic Freedom Ministries


I am a trained, professional Spiritual Director, Author and Hands-on Healer. I offer services, programs and classes that empower you to hear the voice of the Divine that speaks from within you. It is the voice of the Divine that leads us to our highest truth, to the discovery and cultivation of our gifts and to a life of Authentic Freedom where we know contentment, compassion and joy. Your truth will set you free!